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My self-summary
I value ideas, critical thinkers, and anyone who can teach me anything. Thoughtful, opinionated, and articulate folk who are yet humble and/or goofy exude an energy I tend to crave. Unique theories, humor, and honest introspection are the sure turn-on's, and a well-used vocabulary can easily impress.

A sharp and playful wit can drive me bananas and I too semi-tactfully tease those that I fancy. I can be awkwardly forward or nonsensical with folks I just met if the vibe seems cool. I occasionally turn into Larry David to amuse myself when conversation is lacking, and I unknowingly slip in and out of a British accent. I do, however, know there is a time and place for everything and I am otherwise good at being professional and courteous.

I am fascinated by people as individuals and social beings; we are amazingly complex! During my undergrad, sociology was the number one subject that seemed to attempt to codify many of the things that had occupied my brain during high school. I could expound, for example, on the absurdities of my profile, this website, online dating and the what not. I am routinely amazed by history and science. Coupled with my creative side, I am a bit of a mind-mutt...

I am a vegetarian, but it is not something I push on others. My number one concern in this world is social, environmental, economic, and political justice.

I like to lift weights and bike, but also enjoy random activities like frisbee, canoeing, hiking, ping pong, racquetball...but not much of a spectator in any capacity of life..I could watch football ie, I am not vehemently opposed to it, I just typically don't unless it is at a social event with some other draw.

I like to think that I am hard-working. I put myself through six years of undergrad with my own landscaping business, and after graduation I worked hard to create opportunities for myself and create my own studio.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a conductor (not on a train), voice teacher, and pianist. I finished my master's at Univ of Iowa and I am now teaching at Grinnell College. I feel lucky to do what I do. I also play the guitar, compose and write music, and inadvertently advocate for the mouth trumpet as a legit form of communication. I do, though, require a life outside of music and academia...
I’m really good at
making my family laugh
asking the right questions; sometimes the hard questions...
locating other INTJs, possible "mindmates"
unbridled enthusiasm
meeting folks where they are at (and other empathy-related behavior)
admitting entitlement and/or hypocrisy
minding the process
finding the details
overusing ellipses...
The first things people usually notice about me
my cackle of a laugh... it has been likened apparently to Amadeus
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I care more about your brain and our ability to have engaging conversations than I do the mere content of your list, but here goes:

I love all kinds of classical and pop music:
Beck, Andrew Bird, Paul Simon, Mumford and Sons, The Beatles, Patty Griffin, Iron and Wine, Pearl Jam, and David Byrne/Talking Heads...Brahms, Vaughan Williams, Poulenc, Monteverdi, Schütz, Gabrieli, Byrd....

Movies: Star Wars, Harry Potter, and Lord of the Rings, and really any good Sci-Fi, comic book, or adventure/fantasy. is about a good story, complex and dynamic characters, believable acting, stylized art direction; not necessarily the action. Yes, I am a nerd and I like people who can talk critically about movies and their production.

I love Seinfeld and Curb Your Enthusiasm, Flight of the Conchords, Arrested Development, and BSG. Currently catching up on Walking Dead and True Blood...Game of Thrones is in its own category.

Books: not much time for fiction... I read mostly non-fiction: musicology, science, or history, and try to stay up on current events/politics. I recently read Time Magazine's 100 Ideas that Changed the that sort of thing. I read progressive online sources, and laugh at

Thai food, Indian, Mexican.

I love finding new IPAs, and for a long time I was obsessed with concocting the perfect regular, on the rocks margarita
Six things I could never do without
water, exercise, coffee, family, know the usual list

ok, the real list:
-people who don't answer potentially deep questions in obvious ways...
-the music-making journey
-thought-provoking conversation
-belief in myself
-laughter with people who matter
-genuine kindness from strangers I will never see again
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...16th-century Europe, and no, there is no hidden meaning there.
...why people thoughtlessly accept so much crap that was either handed to them by mere chance, or even forced upon them.
...the role of cognitive dissonance in many people's political belief system introversion is commonly mislabeled and misunderstood. so many people fail to see that anything can be trendy; even sub-cultural or anti-trendy sentiment can be trendy.
..."[the female accepts] not the male which is most attractive to her, but the one which is least distasteful." ~Charles Darwin, The Descent of Man (1871)
..."the test of a first rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function." ~F. Scott Fitzgerald
..."the meaning of life is to plant trees under whose shade you do not expect to sit." ~Nelson Henderson
On a typical Friday night I am
...possibly working and/or unwinding. I might be staying in with an epic movie and surely a beer (and Jameson?), having a few friends over for dinner or a board game extravaganza, or going to a concert... however, I am not an Eveready social butterfly and I am definitely not a fan of screaming at the person next to me in order to be heard, unless it is to go dancing with a beautiful women I adore or to see a specific show a now and then. With the right person, my favorite activity is to just stay in and talk...about anything
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't mind going dress shopping with my significant other...I am not going to go shopping for a whole marathon of a day though, but a couple of hours is cool. You just have to sneak me into the dressing room and let me give feedback...maybe?
You should message me if
...if you can hold your own in any kind of conversation. I paraphrase, but a truly wise person can talk to anyone about anything. This does NOT require specific knowledge, yet it requires one to think on one's feet, ask intelligent questions, and be oneself.

...if you wrote more than four sentences in the "self-summary" section above.

...if you acknowledge and celebrate the many absurdities of everyday human existence.

...if you realize (unlike cupid) that it is conceivable to be both an agnostic and an atheist, and/or you want to talk about this.

...if you get this and agree

bonus points if you have spunk, make fun of me, call me out when I think I know what I am talking about (maybe even interrupt from time to time), find kissing super fun, consider yourself a feminist, and know how to play sheepshead...if you have a healthy amount of cynicism and/or sarcasm but are ultimately positive, warm, and optimistic...if you are excitable but can chill out...if you are independent, artistic, analytical, philosophical, and passionate about something.
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