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My self-summary
I think the interesting and somewhat disconcerting aspect of online dating sites is the tendency to have us reduce ourselves into some sort of commodity. We list our likes and dislikes, do's, don'ts, won'ts, and can'ts. Our profiles end up becoming a set of descriptions of an object. To quote the poet June Jordan: "I am impossible to explain, remote from old and new interpretations, and yet not exactly"
What I’m doing with my life
Working as a project manager for a city agency. Working too hard; I heard an interview by Terry Gross with John Zorn and he said something about how he thinks of being on vacation as a form of death. I don't necessarily agree with that but I am starting to think that any kind of success requires a certain amount of single-minded ness, obsession, or whatever you call it.
Anyway, during the few hours when I'm not working I'm gardening in my apartment (I managed to get a few peppers this year), hiking, watching tv (especially sports), cooking, going to museums, writing.
I’m really good at
Not judging people at face value, listening, being nerdy, noticing the small things, being thankful for everything
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm a human being
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
When I was a teenager and was awkward, shy, and sensitive. I felt out of place all the time. I think my mother sensed that and one time we went to what was once a Borders (R.I.P) on the corner of 6th and west 8th in the City (Manahatta). She suggested that I read A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man by James Joyce. That book still remains a book that reoriented my life. I also grew up in a religious environment like Stephen Dedalus and longed to break through the confines of my life to discover life itself.
Honorable mentions: Minima Moralia, The Bluest Eye, Invisible Man,
The Power Broker, Walden; Breath, Eyes, Memory.
TV Shows
Kids, you tried your best and failed miserably. The lesson is, never try.- The Simpsons
I hate to break it to you but there is no big lie. There is no system. The universe is indifferent.- Mad Men
Never follow a hippie to a second location.
Satchel Paige brand tampons.- 30 Rock
You got to man, this is America- The Wire
Honorable Mentions: Top Chef, Community, Breaking Bad, Highly Questionable, Sportscenter, Rachel Maddow

In terms of food, basically anything but especially Japanese, French, and Indian. I recently had some Ghanaian food for the first time which was amazing.

Movies: This skews towards recent movies but Moonlight, Spotlight (All of the lights), The Godfather, Do the Right Thing.
Six things I could never do without
NPR, Sports, Trees, Music, Books, A pen and paper
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Politics, Sports, Sex, Travel, Architecture, buying a farm, wondering what an ideal society would be, philosophy, economics, food.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching a movie or going to a concert. I just saw "I am not your Negro" and was blown away by it. It forced me to spend some time thinking about how I can live a more moral and ethical life. (I must note that my typical Friday night is not spent as introspectively)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I eat ice cream after working out (for "recovery" purposes).
You should message me if
You been to a lot of places and are into a lot of things that I've never done. I understand that the purpose of the ok cupid algorithms are to identify people who are matches based on similar ways of viewing the world but my most interesting relationships have been with people who are very different from me. You are relentlessly curious. You are comfortable with being by yourself but you embrace the serendipity that comes from being with people.
The two of us