theinternational
40Manhattan, United States
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My self-summary
I was born and raised in England, spent some years in beautiful British Columbia, Canada but downtown Manhattan has been my home since I was 22.

I'm a friendly, curious, cheerful, bright, disarmingly perverted, non-monogamous, childfree, vasectomized well-travelled man who likes to keep fit and eat well.

My ex-wife wanted our relationship to be an open one and persuaded me to try it. I did and found it to be a great fit. Our time together ended after 8 happy years when she decided that she wanted to be monogamous with a new partner. Polyamory had become my natural mode by that point and remains so today.

I'm a writer and have been for the past sixteen years. I've authored two books about sex. One is an authoritative guide on how to do it better. The other? A cautionary tale about muddling through and hoping for the best.

https://grantstoddard.contently.com/
What I’m doing with my life
Having adventures and writing about them for ca$h. Spending time with my large and expanding circle of free-thinking friends and keeping things interesting.

Here seems as good a place as any to tell you that I get a huge amount of satisfaction from facilitating the kinds of sexual scenarios that live in people's imaginations, even if I'm not intimately involved. I'm a safe pair of hands, quick to make adventure happen and slow to judge.

I'm best known for my sex writing. As such, I strive to be sex-positive and well informed about all aspects of sex and sexuality and I’m eager to up my game all the time.
I’m really good at
Making pancakes and Japanese comfort food.
Staying current with my close friends.
Curating experiences.
Setting the mood.
Getting people to open up and talk freely without fear of judgement.
Working all the angles
The first things people usually notice about me
My British accent, my perma-smile, my sense of style, that I smell nice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food always comes first.

Porchetta on ciabatta with salsa verde, garlic stuffed olives, anchovies on everything, paella, oysters, izakaya, the spicy tonkotsu ramen at Mr. Taka, sashimi, smoked salmon, gourmet pizza, street pizza, bife de chorizo with chimichurri and a bottle of Malbec, rare juicy hamburgers with blue cheese and caramelized onions, a full rack of saucy ribs with a few frosty beers.

Man, my mouth is watering. Bottom line: If it looks good enough to eat, I'll relish the opportunity to stick my face in it.

Favorite movies include After Hours, American Werewolf in London, Shaun of the Dead, 28 Days Later, Inglourious Basterds, and almost everything by Pedro Almodovar.

Music: I like Daft Punk, Talking Heads, St. Vincent, Rolling Stones, AC/DC among a great many others.

TV: Black Mirror, Broad City, Game of Thrones, High Maintenance, Peep Show, Last Week Tonight.
Six things I could never do without
Coconut Oil
Passport (I have more than most people)
Coffee
Negronis
My washlet, the Brondell 1000. (Really)
Good lighting
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can live my life in a manner that's closely aligned with my values. Why Dave Foley in drag is so incredibly hot. And butts.
On a typical Friday night I am
I live for food, drinks, movies, having fun naked, hanging out with friends. A typical Friday night would involve at least three of those things. A great Friday night (or any night) would incorporate all five.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I drive like an old lady. Bonus private things: MMF threesomes are my jam: I both attend and curate sex parties on occasion. If I'm into you and your chemistry, I'll be encouraging you to shower as little as possible.
You should message me if
You finally want to do those things you've always thought about doing.

You want to give and receive some carnal knowledge.

You want to adventure, stretch and grow.

You have an ass like a peach.
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