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I've been inside the Pyramid of Khufu.
I've been inside the Taj Mahal.
I've been inside the Vatican.
I've seen the Colosseum, the David, what's left of the Roman Forum, etc.
I've been inside St. Vitus Cathedral in Prague.
I've been inside mosques like the Alabaster Mosque in Cairo.
I've been inside Bob Marley's mausoleum on April 20th.
I've been lost in at least 13 countries (Venice, Italy was the worst).
I've been really high (like atop Jungfrau in Switzerland and in Amsterdam).
I've been kinda high (like in the Statue of Liberty, the Eiffel Tower, the CN tower, the Empire Trade center, the Blue Mountains of Jamaica, the Annapurna mountains of Nepal, etc).
I've been to Mayan ruins like: Chichen Itza, Uxmal, Palenque, Yaxchilan, Bonampak, Tikal, Xunantunich, Tulum, etc.
I've been to Oktoberfest in Munich.
I've had Icewine in a wine cellar in Sankt Goar, Germany.
I've judged the Cannabis Cup in Amsterdam multiple times.
I've paraglided off of a mountain in Pokara, Nepal.
I've seen the Lion of Lucerne in Switzerland.
I've seen the remains of human sacrifices while cave diving in San Ignacio, Belize.
I've seen active human cremations along the river Ganga (Ganges) in Varanasi, India.
I've seen the Cliffs of Dover.
I've been to the Killing Fields of Cambodia and the Tuol Sleng Genocide Museum.
I've been through multiple concentration camps.
I've also seen some of the oldest Buddhist temples like Sarnath and i've been to the Lumbini area.
I've seen some of the better art galleries in most of the cities that i've visited.
I've seen the Liberty Bell, the Independence Hall, parts of the Smithsonian, (the outside of) the White House, etc.
I took a road trip to the west coast once.
I've been to New Orleans, the Carlsbad Caverns in New Mexico, Roswell, New Mexico, the Grand Canyon, Las Vegas, Hollywood, Yosemite, San Francisco, etc.
I've seen sunrises from the peaks of mountains.
I've been to sex museums and torture museums.
I've snorkeled a couple places.
I've dived into Cenotes.
I've hiked around the jungle in Palenque.
I've ridden camels around the Pyramids of Giza.
I've been to hundreds and hundreds of concerts over the years.
I've eaten pigeon, shark, and some other weird stuff.
I've been in crowds of a 100,000 people at music festivals.
I've played paintball.
I've completed hundreds of video games over the years.
I've read a few books.
I recently hit a new high score of 130 in bowling ;)

Or the average guy in Rochester with an OKC profile?

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"I must have missed the grow-up sign I thought we were still having fun.
So good luck, with not forgetting who you are, even though it seems you have to
Good luck, finding your own way not setting in where your not happy
Good luck, remembering it's only life
Good luck, not following what you don't believe in
Good luck, seeing many problems are only a big deal if you make them ...
So good luck, being someone who can always help someone out
Good luck, in remembering how much you can effect someone else
Good luck with not being selfish
Good luck with not being alone
Good luck in this world we're all just trying to get along
Good luck with not getting caught up
Good luck with not getting stressed
Good luck with figuring things out
Good luck with doing your best
Good luck with not losing yourself
Good luck for standing for what's right
Good luck for being happy when you sit to review your life" - Big D & the Kid's Table

I quit nicotine about 6 months ago (after smoking ~ pack a day for 20 years)
I try to hit the gym a few times a week, but sometimes it ends up being more like 1x a week :(
The other problem is that I've always focused too much on lifting and not enough on aerobic exercise. I'd always used the excuse "I'm a smoker, not a runner". I tend to get shin splints after a little while on treadmills, so I need another form of exercise. Apparently, I need vigorous sex about 4x a week? (Just for exercise purposes, of course ;) ) - lately i've found swimming laps at the gym actually seems to help...

"Love's just a story
A story without words
Words are almost never seen
And never even heard" - The Raconteurs

"You can't make someone love you with a song" - Her Space Holiday

"Your disinterest is driving me mad
You're so fine
If you were mine I'd love you up
Give me a sign my darling
Well, I can shine
If you'd just let me know

What's a fella gotta do
To spend a little time with you?

I'm so tired of feeling I could be more
I need a purpose
What am I for?"

"Well if you need me, I'm right here
No mater what, I'm always near
Yeah, I've been through a lot
And you can't scare me
Now go on baby, if you just dare me
I'll break through any wall
Just give me a call
I'm a dynamiter
I'm a prizefighter

Well if you get sad, I'm your friend
I got an ear I'll always lend
You know that you can always talk to me
Now come on baby, take a walk with me"

"You're not sure, well that's okay
Cause I am and I'm not afraid
It's up to you and me
And who's to say
These could be the good old days" - The Eels

I'm lucky enough to have a job that I can perform from anywhere with a strong internet connection (Software "Test Engineer"), but i've got a lease in Rochester for the time being. I really don't mind Rochester, but i've been spending a lot of time alone unintentionally these days (I just don't have many local friends anymore). Talking to a co-worker, I guess maybe that's not all that unusual, but at my last place, I used to have friends dropping by like 5x a week. I wouldn't mind moving to a bigger city for a few years (some place big enough to get all the bands to come around with reliable public transit so I don't have to worry about driving home). It'd be so nice to be able to drink at concerts without counting your drinks (so you know you'll get home without incident). Right now, I can't afford a place like NYC because i've got too much debt from feeding my passions like a glutton. I almost moved to Amsterdam in 1999. I was accepted at the University of Amsterdam, but they didn't get back to me until after I had to give RIT my decision.

I'm nearly always alone at shows and what not, so I mostly keep to myself. I generally know where i'm going and have everything I need so there usually isn't much reason for me to interact with strangers. The friends I do have left are close friends. I may not see them often, but i'd trust them with my life. Just got back from the Netherlands again in 2014 (another fun Cup). I kind of had my eyes on Greece / Turkey (where I haven't been before), but this was my first chance to travel with a friend (all my previous trips have been alone or with groups of strangers that mostly, eventually became acquaintances). Besides judging the Cup is a hell of a lot of fun anyways, so he didn't exactly have to twist my arm to get me to go with him instead of my originally intended destination. I aggressively pay down my debts, but frequently lose progress because I don't want to say no to the next fun thing. I guess i'm not so spontaneous because I always have plans down the road and resources pre-allocated. I'm not anti-social, but i'm just generally not one to initiate conversations with people that I do not know. I haven't met a single new person (who's name I can recall) since I moved back here two and a half years ago.

I guess that I might come off as a touch anti-religious, but that's not exactly true. It's been many years since I attended church services, but I do still hold some tenets of (Baptist) Protestant beliefs. I just don't believe it all. I'm interested in other religions too and i've been gradually reading through various religious texts.

Believe it or not, most people that have met me casually would describe me as one of the most laid-back, relaxed guys they know. I can be verbose if the topic is something that actually interests me. Admittedly, I do keep my cards pretty close to my chest.

The point of dating is to determine if that person is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, right?

Sorry, I cannot date someone with kids already, but I hope to have kids of my own some day.
What I’m doing with my life
um i've seen way too many movies..
I find myself watching a lot of documentaries these days
one day I sat down and wrote out a long list of things I'd heard of, but didn't know much about or didn't know the context of the event and i've spent a good handful of nights reading online about those topics lately
I play guitar a bit (though fairly poorly) and i've been learning drums and bass a bit (mostly when screwing around with friends while drinking), I enjoy traveling and i've taken brief trips around the US, Central America, Europe, Asia, and Egypt.
My non-productive nights tend to involve video games.

I don't expect you to know all these bands (though i'd be pleasantly shocked if you did), nor do I expect you to want to go to see bands that aren't your cup of tea, but an eagerness to learn would go a long way with me. I've said before that if I ever find a girl that LOVES the Beatles, the Eels, Sublime, and Rollins Band, i'd probably end up marrying her.

I'm usually stuck going to shows alone because I don't know anyone that listens to half of the stuff that i'm into.
I take music seriously. I will probably attend the majority of these 2016 concerts:

01/27 *Greensky Bluegrass - Westcott
02/06 *Reel Big Fish - Town Ballroom
02/11 *Graveyard - Town Ballroom
02/19 *Guttermouth - Lost Horizon
02/27 *Neko Case - Babeville
03/09 *Dr Dog - Town Ballroom
03/19 *Deer Tick - Tralf
03/21 *Craig Finn / Titus Andronicus - Tralf
03/26 *Silversun Pickups / Cage the Elephant - Main St Armory
04/01 *Jimkata - Flour City
04/05 *Puscifer - Univ Buffalo
04/29 *Reverend Horton Heat / Nashville Pussy / Unknown Hinson - Tralf
04/30 *Local H - Waiting Room
05/05 *Reverend Peyton's Big Damn Band - Westcott
05/07 *Sheepdogs - Lilacfest
05/14 *Get the Led Out - LilacFest
05/27-30 *Rochester Rib Fest
06/03-05 *GBall: Beck, Eagles of Death Metal, Death Cab for Cutie, Gary Clark Jr, Cold War Kids, Strokes, Chvrches, Matt and Kim, Action Bronson, Purity Ring, Mac Miller, Lord Huron, Black Pistol Fire, Years & Years, Courtney Barnett, Del La Soul, Big Grams (Big Boi + Phantogram), Two Door Cinema Club, Father John Misty, M83, Kanye West, etc
06/9-12 *Bonnaroo: Pearl Jam, Dead and Company, Ween, Tame Impala, Father John Misty, Death Cab For Cutie, CHVRCHES, Purity Ring, The Claypool Lennon Delirium, Band of Horses, Kurt Vile and the Violators, Big Grams (Big Boi and Phantogram), Mavis Staples, Grace Potter, Lamb of God, Clutch, Jason Isbell, Lettuce, Papadisio, Lord Huron, etc
06/16 *John Brown's Body - Party in the Park
06/16 *Dopapod - Flour City
06/21 *Dead Kennedy's - Town Ballroom
06/23 *Public Enemy - Buffalo Canalside
06/24 *Fitz and the Tantrums - Jazzfest
06/25 *Weezer / Panic at the Disco - CMAC

06/29 XRay LaMontagne - ArtPArk
06/30 XBob Dylan / Mavis Staples - ArtPark
06/30 *Keller Williams - Party in the Park - 5:30PM
07/01 Chris Cornell - Palace - Albany
07/01 Gregg Allman - Jazzfest - Kodak Hall At Eastman Theatre - 8pm NOT free
07/02 *Wood Brothers - Jazzfest - City of Rochester East Ave. & Chestnut St. 9pm FREE
07/05 Doobie Brothers / Journey - CMAC
07/05 Buckcherry / NonPoint - Mooney's
07/06 Noel Gallagher - ArtPark
07/07 Avett Brothers - Landmark theatre
07/07 Zappa Plays Zappa - Buffalo Canalside
07/08 Tedeschi Trucks Band - Highland Bowl
07/09 Doobie Brothers / Journey - Darien Lake
07/12 Ben Harper & Innocent Criminals - ArtPark
07/12 Bob Dylan - CMAC
07/13 Ben Folds - ArtPark
07/14 Gin Blossoms - Party in the Park - 5:30PM
07/14 Shakey Graves - Buffalo Canalside
07/15 Westside Music & Food festival (Rochester) - Catch 22 and others
07/16 Black Lips - Nietzsche’s, 248 Allen St. Buffalo
07/18 Jim Gaffigan - Blue Cross
07/19 Lynyrd Skynyrd - ArtPark
07/21 - 24 Grassroots - Donna the Buffalo, Silversun Pickups, Jimkata, John Brown's Body, Gunpoets, Ricky Skaggs, Indigo Girls, etc
07/21 Lou Gramm / 10k Maniacs - Party in the Park - 5:30PM
07/21 The Arcs (Dan Auerbach's [Black Keys] "side project.") - Canalside, Buffalo?
07/22 Alice in Chains - Turning Stone
07/23 Marilyn Manson and Slipknot - Lakeview Amphitheater, Syracuse
07/23 Ray Lamontagne - CMAC
07/23 White Denim - The Hollow, Albany
07/27 Joan Jet / Heart / Cheap Trick - Darien Lake
07/27 Slightly Stoopid - ArtPArk
07/28 Robert Randolph - Party in the Park - 5:30PM
07/28 BPO does Bowie - Buffalo Canalside
07/28 Buddy Guy and Jeff Beck - CMAC
07/29-31 Buffalove festival - Aqueous, Jimkata, and a bunch of local stuff $80
07/31 Edgefest Buffalo Canalside - Deftones, Best Coast, City and Color, Sam Robets Band, Joywave Toyko Police Club, Joy Formidable, and Holy White Hounds
08/02 Bush - Rapids Theatre
08/03 OAR - ArtPark
08/04 Chris Robinson Brotherhood - Party in the Park - 5:30PM
08/04 Tritonal - Buffalo Canalside
08/05 Jim Breuer - Turning Stone
08/07 Chevelle - Rapids Theatre, Niagara
08/07 Best Coast - Tralf
08/11 The Wailers - Party in the Park - 5:30PM
08/12 Counting Crows - Lakeview Amphitheater, Syracuse, NY
08/13 Counting Crows - Niagara Casino, Niagara Falls
08/13 Dr John Valby - Mooney's
08/14 Umphrey McGee - F-Shed
08/18 Coolio - Buffalo Canalside
08/23 Don McLean / Boz Scaggs - ArtPark
08/24 Blink 182 - Darien Lake
08/24 Melvins - Buffalo Iron Works
08/25 Claypool Lennon Delirium - Buffalo Canalside
08/26 Lake Street Dive - Town Ballroom
08/27 Rob Zombie and Korn - Lakeview Amphitheater, Syracuse
09/03 Weird Al - CMAC
09/04 Weird Al - Tag's
09/08 HUM - Terminal 5 NYC
09/10 Sick of it All - Waiting Room
09/16 Town Pants - Montage
09/25 Dear Hunter - Waiting Room
09/28 Clutch - Town Ballroom
10/11 Andrew Bird - State Theatre of Ithaca
10/21 The Record Company - Tralf
11/3 Henry Rollins - State theatre Ithaca
11/4 Henry Rollins - Town Ballroom
11/19 Sloan - Buffalo Iron Works

I work at a software company. My dream job is probably video game development, but these days I pay the bills writing regression tests.

"Hey you!
You can talk about it talk about it talk about it, but you can't control your destiny.
You just might fail successfully.
I'm alone.
And I thought God created you for me.
How could it be that it can't be?
So alone. And I don't know what to do with myself.
And I don't know what I'm gonna do.
Hey you!
I thought that you were my destiny.
I thought we were meant to be.
Don't I know what's best for me?" - Saul Williams

"When I'm on my own I'm lost in space
My freedoms a delusion
Your love is the place where I come from" - Teenage Fanclub

I like to take in a variety of foods like Indian, Chinese, Italian, Mexican, Thai, etc. I've been meaning to try Sri Lankan, Pakistani, and Korean eventually. (Finally tried some Korean Kimchi in 2016!)
I’m really good at
Spewing a song lyric to go along with most troubling situations?

(Figuratively) Bashing my head up against a wall until I find a solution to problems (I put in more time at work than I have to sometimes, trying to come up with "good" solutions).

Fixating on tasks until they are complete.

Probably looking ridiculous while bobbing my head and singing along (mostly under my breath) at concerts, while standing alone, double-fisting beers.
The first things people usually notice about me
"I don't know what to say...
I could say I want you,
That would be a bore
Maybe in a font you
Haven't seen before?
I could say I'll haunt you
Till your dying day
I could tease and taunt you,
But what would I say?
See, I don't know what to say...
I could say I crave you
Still, you little brat
I could rant and rave, you
Know I can do that
I could say I gave you
Everything I have
I could say I'll save you
You might think me mad
So I don't know what to say...
I could try and lead you
Down the garden path
I could say I'll feed you
You can do the math
I could say I need you
Offer you a ring
I'll be guaranteed you
Don't believe a thing...
I could try and shove you
Off the nearest cliff
I could say I lo..." - The Magnetic Fields

"Do you ever walk alone?
Like a drifter in the dark
Seeking out what isn't there
Looking only for a spark

From a girl who's all alone
Maybe she's a-driftin' too
Like a shadow in the night
Waitin' just to meet with you

And then perhaps in love you'll stay
Or fall and go your separate ways
Still searchin' for a spark
Like a drifter in the dark" - Ween

"Not everyone who is lost is
Wondering why
Sometimes a lonely way
Taking your name down from the Jumbotron
Find a new place to stay
And a new home for the trumpeter swan" - They Might Be Giants

"I'm so happy, when you're here
And I'm not a happy girl
So like a miracle occurs
I'm happy when you're near
And all my angels appear
And the demons leave my ear
And I want to clean the kitchen
We're two peas from the same pod
Bowing down to the same God
We're not sure exists

We both walk with heavy souls
With bullet holes
And a backpack full of bad affairs and fears
I'm happy when you're here, kinda
I'm so happy when you're here
We both laugh at the same cruel jokes
We both still drink and smoke
Well I'm happy when you're here, kinda" - Jill Sobule

" Tyler Durden: Oh I get it, it's very clever.
Narrator: Thank you.
Tyler Durden: How's that working out for you?
Narrator: What?
Tyler Durden: Being clever.
Narrator: Great.
Tyler Durden: Keep it up then... Right up. " - Fight Club

"I can bleed as well as anyone,
But I need someone to help me sleep" - Counting Crows

"I'm in love with rock and roll, but that will change eventually" - Local h
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(Books) the elegant universe by brian greene, ethan frome by wharton, cyrano de bergerac by rostand, forbidden knowledge by roger shattuck, ender's game by orson scott card, various dream intrepretation books, always liked Dean Koontz books, usually buy one for the plane when traveling, etc
(Movies) falling down, half baked, bringing out the dead, punch drunk love, 10 things i hate about you, fear and loathing in los vegas, donnie darko, mothman prophicies, 7 television commercials, breakfast at tiffany's, brainscan, starship troopers, evil dead trilogy, high fidelity, vanilla sky, fight club, eternal sunshine of the spotless mind, Screwed, 40 Year Old Virgin, Forgetting Sarah Marshall, Primer, Pie, Anchorman, Tommy Boy, Black Sheep, Her, Man Up, etc
(TV) Futurama, Dr Who, Louie, The Increasingly Poor Decisions of Todd Marget, Fringe, Man Seeking Woman, Law and Order, the Americans, Sons of Anarchy, Fargo, the Shield, Battlestar Galactica, That's 70's Show, Wonder Years, Quantum Leap, Hero's, Andy Rictor Controls the Universe, Married With Children, Star Trek, Twilight Zone, the Hitchhiker, Continuum, MacGuyver, A-Team, Walking Dead, Ancient Aliens, 10 Things You Don't Know About with Henry Rollins, How The States Got Their Shapes, America's Secret Slang, Brain Games, Whitest Kids You Know, Chappelle's Show, Robot Chicken, Moral Oral, Walking Dead, Always Sunny in Philly, etc
(Comedy) Dennis Leary, George Carlin, Louis C.K., Joe Rogan, Jim Gaffigan, Dave Chappelle, Henry Rollins (Spoken Word), Lenny Bruce, Eddie Izzard, Dom Irrera, Kevin Hart, Amy Schumer, Aziz Ansari, Dave Attell, Dustin Diamond (Screech From Saved by the Bell) - saw him do a pretty funny set at ComixCafe on Winton once, etc
(Music) Radiohead, Eels, Tori Amos, The Magnetic Fields, The Only Children, Blake Babies, Juliana Hatfield, Some Girls, Corporate Avenger, Tool, bad religion, Big D and the Kid's Table, Grizzley Bear, muse, Sublime, Smut Peddlers, Odetta, Count Basie, Little Walter, John Lee Hooker, Mother Superior, Otis Rush, The Format, Travis, Black Kids, Cold War Kids, Suicide Machines, Cardigans, Butthole Surfers, Toadies, Dr Dog, Local H, Folk Implosion, New Pornographers, Blonde Red Head, Rollins Band, smashing pumpkins, G Love & Special Sauce, Pain, Gogol Bordello, GutterMouth, Her Space Holiday, the Hold Steady, Hum, Jill Sobule, Magic Numbers, Ani Difranco, Oysterhead, Devotchka, God Lives Underwater, Joan Osborn, Mad Caddies, Massive Attack, Mazzy Star, Neutral Milk Hotel, Okkervil River, Pete Droge, Pietasters, Postelles, Rentals, Reverend Horton Heat, Saul Williams, Scott Weiland, Chris Cornell, They Might Be Giants, The Unicorns, Whigs, Ween, Zombina and the Skeletones, flogging molly, drop kick murphy's, andrew bird, bobby darin, everly brothers, counting crows, pantera, I am the avalanche, cat stevens, les claypool, primus, CIV, clash, rugburns, morphine, BML (Rochester band), cake, ben fold's 5, black sabbath, bob and ziggy marley, blind melon, four non blondes, nirvana, meat puppets, mother love bone, temple of the dog, pearl jam, sound garden, big bad voodoo daddy, apples in stereo, the aquabats, veruca salt, al green, alanis morissette (1st cd only), aerosmith, 6th's, future bible hero's, dead kennedy's, sleeper, everything but the girl, everclear, everlast, flamming lips, fiona apple, filter, dean martin, frank sinatra (love the sad songs, not so big on the happy ones), fuel, frank zappa, gg allin, goldfinger, ICP, janis joplin, jewel (1st cd only), johnny cash, johnny tillotson, Zager & Evans, korn (early stuff only), staind (1st cd only), K's choice, lea anderone, less than jake, therapy, scars on broadway, nada surf, weezer (the albums before their music changed when Rivers went to Harvard), kotton mouth kings, our lady peace, letters to cleo, beck, refreshments, CCR, Led Zeppelin, Doors, MC5, Beiruit, White Denim, Asian Teacher Factory, She Wants Revenge, Jonathon Wilson, Reverend Payton's Big Damn Band, Deap Vally, Man Man, Jessica Lea Mayfield, St Vincent, Sleighbells, Greensky Bluegrass, Phoenix, Damon Albarn, etc
(Food) chinese, italian, indian, thai, mexican, sea food, steak, been meaning to try korean one of these days..
I spend a lot of time thinking about
physics, religion, music, movies, work related topics, psychology, linguistics, how old is the Earth? do multinational leagues have the right to maintain existing borders? is human life sacred? are the bible/torah and qur'an based on the same source as the epic of gilgamesh? by what basis do some groups consider electricity spiritual enslavement? should a social reform be carried out even if it is expected to do more harm to the majority than the previous condition did to the minority (and what should happen if this was discovered only after the reform had been imlemented)? can the grand unified theory be experimentally proven? why do most organized religions consider women as second class citizens? did the indigenous peoples have the right idea forbidding property ownership? should the popular vote be used for elections instead of electoral colleges? how old are the stories from the illiad and oddesy really? do those with more have a responsibility to give to those with less and stop human rights violations? why are humans the only species that are not prevented from breeding after genetic deformities are evident? has the arc of noah been found? should voluntary euthanasia be legalized? have we reached the point where survival of the fitest is no longer keeping morons in check? what's the most important aspect of a song to you? are we really any more advanced than our ancestors from antiquity or do we just have more things that a few smart people made for us? of the things you use on a daily basis, how much do you understand about HOW they work? if I sent you out into the woods with a hatchet, how long until you could make something to send me an e-mail? (Thanks Joe Rogan) besides blasphemy, where did curses originate? if there is a being with omniscience, would it be total or inherent? does omniscience preclude freedom of choice? how similar is the bacteria inside of our bodies and the people on the earth? is simultaneous reality just a figment of the imagination? where are the missing natural predators.. why don't they release hungry tigers and knife wielding chimps at nascar events? would a society that shed no tears be inconceivably mediocre? (Thanks Yonlu)
On a typical Friday night I am
At a concert, hockey game, or comedy club or playing video games / watching movies.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've never owned a working cell phone.
The worst thing about being single is sleeping alone.
You should message me if
um you've actually read this and still want to?
The two of us