That said, if you live in some exotic locale (like, say, Montana or something) and take it in your head to drop me a line, by all means feel free. :)
I am whip-smart, vaguely interesting, and perhaps more than a bit kinky.
Huh. That sounds rather negative, I suppose, but I don't really mean it that way. I've reached a point in my life where I'm pretty comfortable in my own skin, and my ego doesn't bruise too easily. This is a good thing, considering my skill at self-deprecation.
Honestly, life is pretty fantastic these days.* I have wonderful friends and partners, a career that's gone through various incarnations and appears to be turning into something more like what I want, enough money to pay the bills and not worry too often, and a far greater sense of what I'm all about than I've had in the past.
*It should probably be noted that I consider it either an act of faith or utter stupidity to actually put that optimistic view of my life into words. I find myself waiting for the other shoe to drop.**
**And, indeed, the other shoe has dropped in a few different ways recently. However, the aforementioned wonderful friends and partners remain wonderful, and I've come to realize exactly how important that support structure really is in my life. So while I wouldn't necessarily describe life as "fantastic" at the moment, I'm keeping that bit as a reminder that the people around me still make it pretty damned good, even when stuff gets rough.
I'm not yet in my grandfather's league, I'm afraid, but I'm not too bad. Perhaps I need to start smoking cigars.
Most people discover my sense of humor pretty quickly. That's not to say I can't be serious, but I like to think that just about any situation can be improved with some humor injected into it. This is, as you might expect, not a theory that's shared by everyone.
Outside of that, people tend to either notice that I'm smart, or just a smartass.
Movies: Well, the Lord of the Rings epic was a three-year high for my geeky side. I love The Princess Bride, High Fidelity, The Godfather, The Usual Suspects, Rounders, Casablanca, All the President's Men, and (guilty pleasure here) Van Helsing.
Music: My favorite singer is a guy named Stuart Davis (who basically nobody has heard of). A few others include Jonathan Coulton, Crash Test Dummies, Tori Amos, U2, Tenacious D, and Five for Fighting. I really enjoy hearing music that's new to me - one of the more recent additions to my list is Great Big Sea. In, shall we say, rather specific moods, Rob Zombie and NiN are also favorites of mine.
Foods: I'm a decent cook, when I can be bothered. I make a mean chicken marsala and an even better homemade pizza (to be fair, I stole the recipe for the crust from my parents, who stole it from a pizza joint they worked at about 35 years ago). On those rare occasions when I'm feeling overly ambitious, I've been known to try my hand at jambalaya, with somewhat mixed results. Also, I make good breakfast food. Eggs, bacon and an english muffin, along with a good cup of coffee...that's a recipe for a good morning. Or afternoon. Whatever.
Despite having some skill in the kitchen, dinner at home is often something exciting like a grilled cheese sandwich. I do have fun cooking for friends, though. My only rule is that if I cook, someone else gets to help with the dishes. Seems fair enough, right?
Smart people, intelligent conversation, good sex, my computer (I know, I know...), a good book I haven't read yet, and my glasses or contacts (hey, a guy's gotta be able to see, right?)
If I could sneak in one more - a creative project to which I don't have enough free time to devote. At the moment there are several of these percolating and fighting for my attention.
Lately I've been wondering about when I'm going to feel like a grownup. There are many days when it seems like I actually have things together, and at the same time I can feel like a little kid playing dress-up. I don't know that that's entirely a bad thing, but it does make me wonder.
Reading over my profile today for the first time in a few months, I am also wondering at my apparent need to structure almost every sentence in the same manner. "blah blah blah, but....yadda yadda yadda." Oy.
I might also be out doing interesting things that don't necessarily bear repeating in such a public setting. Maybe.
I'm also not much for sharing every blessed detail about my social life with anyone happening to come across a public profile. That said, I'm pretty open to answering questions, so feel free to ask.
Also, you should be aware that this whole bit sounded a lot more eloquent in my head than it came out.
Your list of critical questions for a new friend or date doesn't include asking where I buy my clothes or what kind of car I drive. My answers will surely be disappointing. Unless you have a thing for fuel efficient compact imports - in that case, I'm your guy.
I tend to be drawn to people who are intelligent, independent, and passionate about something. Honestly, it hardly matters *what* you're passionate about, just that there's something outside of reality television and the like that interests you. I try to surround myself with people who have something they can teach me, and hopefully I can return the favor from time to time. A sense of curiosity is also an absolute must. I am enthralled by people who want to learn about the world around them.
In the end, if you can make me laugh and tell a good story, chances are we'll get along pretty well.
Bonus points if you can kick my ass at chess, which frankly isn't all that hard to do.