I'm very active and swim a few miles in laps a week, do yoga, and love being outside: camping, nature walks, and kayaking. It'd be great to meet someone who likes to have adventures but can also spend a day laying around watching movies (love movies and will see just about anything).
I try to be open-minded, but as far as politics go, while there's nothing like a good debate, if you're a Trump supporter, it's highly unlikely we'll be a good fit.
I can find humor in just about any situation and especially love to laugh at myself. I'm loyal, honest, and try to be thoughtful, so I need the same in a partner. Great communication skills and the ability to appreciate/laugh at the weirdness of life without being cruel are incredibly attractive to me. Intelligence without arrogance is also super attractive, and I like learning about just about anything. So if you can teach me something, I'd probably like to meet you. I like people who take themselves and life just seriously enough. I'm not looking for a casual hook-up; it'd be nice to find something fun and also meaningful. I'm very independent, but I also think spending time together is especially important when you're getting to know someone. Texting only gets you so far. And in my opinion, the healthiest relationships happen when there's a strong balance between time with each other and time spent on our own interests/friendships, so I need someone who can work on that balance with me.
The question I'm asking myself these days: is it possible to date after a certain age and still be seen for yourself and not as the people who hurt us before? We've all been hurt, but I am proud I can honestly say I don't regret anything that came before because painful as it was/is, cheesy as it sounds, there's always something that can be learned. And I don't want to be judged on what came before for you. I know some of that is inevitable, and I may need to take things really slowly myself for that reason. I will understand if you do, too. But I also know exactly who I am, and I don't have the patience anymore to try to prove what kind of person I am to someone. I'm able to really "see" people, and once I do, it's hard for me to not care about them. I'd like to meet someone who's interested in that kind of connection. If you really want to see me, too, I promise I'll try to let you...but I will forever appreciate your being patient with me.
The world can feel pretty crazy these days-I think it's more and more important to be kind to each other. I believe in the goodness of people.
The Lone Ranger and Tonto Fistfight in Heaven, (pretty much anything by Sherman Alexie), One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, The Night Thoreau Spent in Jail, Inherit the Wind, A Thousand Splendid Suns, Life of Pi.
B) I love movies. All kinds: a range from black and white to 80's classics to comic book movies to 3D to independents that make you see things differently. Only thing I'm not big on is mean/super gross humor (Seth Rogen and Simon Pegg usually take it just far enough-love them). But usually the last movie I saw is "the best thing ever."
C) Classic rock, folk, the occasional pop or rap, music someone introduced me to. Examples: The Beatles, John Lennon, Melissa Ferrick, Glen Hansard, Bob Dylan, The Grateful Dead, Bright Eyes, Van Morrison, etc.
D) TV Shows:
Parks and Rec, Homeland, Game of Thrones, True Blood, Girls, Walking Dead, Stranger Things, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Drunk History....
D) Not a big foodie. I like the classics: Chinese, Mexican, Italian, Sushi...trying to eat healthier though.
3. Something to write with and on
4. Green and water (being landlocked makes me nervous: Michigan's a good place to be).
6. My sense of humor.
Important: You're a real man who's capable of following through. Please don't send endless emails if you have no intention of ever meeting in person. Seriously, why waste both our time?
There are a few things I'm not into. I wouldn't just rule someone out at face-value on any of these, but to be totally honest, I would have to really care about someone to get around these.
-You're a smoker. I have personal reasons here, but also, I have an allergic-type reaction to cigarette smoke these days. If you're not at least very much committed to quitting, it might be very hard for me to spend time with you.
-You're religious and aren't able to deal with the fact that I'm not. I have a spiritual side, but I've done the organized aspect, and it isn't for me.
-You're a gun person. I will never have a gun in my home. Actually feel pretty strongly about this one.
And like I said, I can be kinda shy (trying to get better about this), so I likely won't be the first to send a message. Don't be hurt if I look at your profile but don't say anything!