thistle02
35East Lansing, United States
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My self-summary
I moved back to the area about a year ago and am really looking to meet someone local; if you know something fun/interesting around Lansing to check out, let's go! I've come to understand that it's true: life isn't about things. All we are in the end are our connections, memories, and experiences, so I want as many as possible. I love a good adventure, even something as simple as picking a road to drive down and seeing what kind of weird stuff we can see. Love traveling, even if it's just up north.

I'm very active and swim a few miles in laps a week, do yoga, and love being outside: camping, nature walks, and kayaking. It'd be great to meet someone who likes to have adventures but can also spend a day laying around watching movies (love movies and will see just about anything).

I try to be open-minded, but as far as politics go, while there's nothing like a good debate, if you're a Trump supporter, it's highly unlikely we'll be a good fit.

I can find humor in just about any situation and especially love to laugh at myself. I'm loyal, honest, and try to be thoughtful, so I need the same in a partner. Great communication skills and the ability to appreciate/laugh at the weirdness of life without being cruel are incredibly attractive to me. Intelligence without arrogance is also super attractive, and I like learning about just about anything. So if you can teach me something, I'd probably like to meet you. I like people who take themselves and life just seriously enough. I'm not looking for a casual hook-up; it'd be nice to find something fun and also meaningful. I'm very independent, but I also think spending time together is especially important when you're getting to know someone. Texting only gets you so far. And in my opinion, the healthiest relationships happen when there's a strong balance between time with each other and time spent on our own interests/friendships, so I need someone who can work on that balance with me.

The question I'm asking myself these days: is it possible to date after a certain age and still be seen for yourself and not as the people who hurt us before? We've all been hurt, but I am proud I can honestly say I don't regret anything that came before because painful as it was/is, cheesy as it sounds, there's always something that can be learned. And I don't want to be judged on what came before for you. I know some of that is inevitable, and I may need to take things really slowly myself for that reason. I will understand if you do, too. But I also know exactly who I am, and I don't have the patience anymore to try to prove what kind of person I am to someone. I'm able to really "see" people, and once I do, it's hard for me to not care about them. I'd like to meet someone who's interested in that kind of connection. If you really want to see me, too, I promise I'll try to let you...but I will forever appreciate your being patient with me.

The world can feel pretty crazy these days-I think it's more and more important to be kind to each other. I believe in the goodness of people.
What I’m doing with my life
Working for a local nonprofit. It's been fun getting to know the area in a whole new way from when I was a student here way back when!
I’m really good at
People have told me I'm a good friend, which is probably my highest goal in life, so I really hope that's true. And I'm good at finding humor in just about any situation.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm pretty shy at first, but once I feel comfortable with people, my quirks start to come out.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
A) This is a long list, but a few favorites:
The Lone Ranger and Tonto Fistfight in Heaven, (pretty much anything by Sherman Alexie), One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, The Night Thoreau Spent in Jail, Inherit the Wind, A Thousand Splendid Suns, Life of Pi.

B) I love movies. All kinds: a range from black and white to 80's classics to comic book movies to 3D to independents that make you see things differently. Only thing I'm not big on is mean/super gross humor (Seth Rogen and Simon Pegg usually take it just far enough-love them). But usually the last movie I saw is "the best thing ever."

C) Classic rock, folk, the occasional pop or rap, music someone introduced me to. Examples: The Beatles, John Lennon, Melissa Ferrick, Glen Hansard, Bob Dylan, The Grateful Dead, Bright Eyes, Van Morrison, etc.

D) TV Shows:
Parks and Rec, Homeland, Game of Thrones, True Blood, Girls, Walking Dead, Stranger Things, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Drunk History....

D) Not a big foodie. I like the classics: Chinese, Mexican, Italian, Sushi...trying to eat healthier though.
Six things I could never do without
1. Freedom (but not in the mindless, post-9/11 way-more as a general, abstract idea)
2. Friends
3. Something to write with and on
4. Green and water (being landlocked makes me nervous: Michigan's a good place to be).
5. Animals
6. My sense of humor.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My next career move, my friends, and how to get back to the British Isles. And a lot of random things-I'm one of those people you see laughing to themselves on the street.
On a typical Friday night I am
These days often curling up on the couch with a movie or good show. Probably doing that with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Mannequins freak me out and I can't stand magicians. They think they're so smart (magicians, I mean. Though mannequins probably think they're smart too. ;) ). Haha, I have some odd opinions, I guess?
You should message me if
...you like full-figured women who are also active (let's go on a nature walk!), and you like meeting people and having a laugh. Or you have some idea of a place we can go or something to do. I love new experiences.

Important: You're a real man who's capable of following through. Please don't send endless emails if you have no intention of ever meeting in person. Seriously, why waste both our time?

There are a few things I'm not into. I wouldn't just rule someone out at face-value on any of these, but to be totally honest, I would have to really care about someone to get around these.

-You're a smoker. I have personal reasons here, but also, I have an allergic-type reaction to cigarette smoke these days. If you're not at least very much committed to quitting, it might be very hard for me to spend time with you.

-You're religious and aren't able to deal with the fact that I'm not. I have a spiritual side, but I've done the organized aspect, and it isn't for me.

-You're a gun person. I will never have a gun in my home. Actually feel pretty strongly about this one.

And like I said, I can be kinda shy (trying to get better about this), so I likely won't be the first to send a message. Don't be hurt if I look at your profile but don't say anything!
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