I am a writer and professor but am equally at ease at a baseball game or the theater, love laughing, cooking, and music, from Nina Simone and Sade to Janis Joplin and seventies arena rock. My interests and heroes are diverse and prevent me from being easily pigeon-holed.
I can be surprisingly sexy, very serious, incredibly silly, alarmingly sincere, disarmingly funny, and mostly I like the basics: family and friends, good food and music, a little adventure, and lots of mostly mellow times doing fun and interesting things. I am athletic, having been involved in various sports all my life - I have in my day biked, swam, played ultimate frisbee competitively, played tennis, and hiked/camped all over the West. I generally keep in good tone and shape. I don't do any of these things obsessively, but I enjoy being active, being in my body so to speak, and I am captivated by, and fascinated with, the human form in action. Physicality is important to me in life and in relationships.
I can be shy at first and open up in stages. I am flexible but in the ways that matter I am predictable, and you can really count on me. I may love a pair of shoes or take an idea too seriously, but in the end I appreciate and revel in the ultimate absurdity of life. I believe that things like a good omelette, wine, Sundays in the snow, a woman's eyes, and naps during the week are among the things that make life worth living.
I am drawn to free-thinking women who are strong, independent, and engaged in the world, but who are also unafraid to be vulnerable and to care openly and unapologetically about their partner. Most important to me: sense of humor, intelligence, earthiness, passion, adventurousness, curiosity, fitness, perspective, compassion, affection, independence. A best friend, a confidant, and passionate between the sheets.
You can make me laugh - and laugh with or at me depending on the situation. You can adore a pair of boots or a nice skirt but also realize the ultimate absurdity of life. You take things as they come but a little planning now and then doesn't frighten you. In the morning, you can read the New York Times and passionately disagree with something you read about or curl up next to me in bed and talk reverently about waffles.
Killing house plants
Standing on my toes to make a point
Getting along with kids
Right turn on red
Making lemonade from lemons
Also, I'm told my legs rock.
Movies: Two words--Cary Grant. Wait, also Barbara Stanwyck, Clive Owen, Robert Mitchum, George Clooney, Tilda Swinton, basically the entire cast of Michael Clayton, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, old Woody Allen, and (though I hate to admit it) Bourne.
Music: Blues, jazz, punk, seventies soul.
Food: Watcha got?