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My self-summary
One part nerdy, one part artsy, three parts curious.
What I’m doing with my life
I recently left my full-time job to do some of my own projects (fiction writing, music, freelancing on the side to keep it all going) and damn it feels good. Middles of the day are highly underrated. Also building a thing to hopefully get writers paid for the awesome work they do. Sooo I basically replaced my one job with three. And only one of them pays. Whoops.

What else? Singing to myself and alarming my dog, accompanied by a ukulele. I restrung it as a low-G because I wish it was a guitar. My dog has become accomplished at giving me long-suffering looks. If you're currently judging me because ukuleles are cliche, oh nooooooo I'm so sad oh wait that's a lie.

Also: I wouldn't have seen it coming a couple years ago, but I now ride a motorcycle. It used to be a CBR 250, but I pretty quickly swapped it for a Street Triple R and it's amaaaaaazing. This motorcycle thing seems to be escalating. Ok yeah and now I have a dirt bike too, oops.

I used to include "writing things no one will ever read" but now I've been a little bit published (omg) so I guess I should update "no one" to like 3 people or something.

I'm in an open relationship (now engagement, actually!) with numist, who is my favoritest person, so I'm not looking for a partner, but I do like meeting neat people. After recently looking for the right way to describe it to someone, I decided "friendships don't have to be platonic" is the way I look at it.
I’m really good at
Learning pointless phrases in new languages. The first thing I learned in German was courtesy of my college roommate: "I don't give a shit."

Questioning what I'm doing with my life/time/privilege.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair (it's red). Today someone I had never met told me I looked like a mermaid with my red hair and freckles.

Also, my dog. She's quite the conversation starter. An eccentric man on the MUNI told me all about helping to deliver a litter of Irish Setter puppies and successfully giving one of them mouth-to-mouth because he wasn't breathing. I still have no idea if he was bullshitting me or not.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I eat pretty much anything. Food is neat.

I'm a sucker for movies with twist endings, which means I'm usually disappointed (M Night Shyamalan) but sometimes not (Fight Club!). Other favorites: Princess Bride, Hot Fuzz, Little Miss Sunshine. Sometimes Wes Anderson. Recently: Her. Hot damn, that movie.

Books: Snow Crash, World War Z (I have not actually seen the movie), Wool, In The Woods, Bossypants, Surely You're Joking Mr Feynman, Einstein's Dreams, short stories by Neil Gaiman.

TV shows: Sherlock, Parks & Rec, 30 Rock, Breaking Bad, Castle, Firefly, Futurama. Jurassic Bark is the saddest thing of all time (note: that may be hyperbole).

Music: Ida Maria, Passion Pit, Matt & Kim, Arcade Fire, Caro Emerald, Alabama Shakes, OK Go, Phantogram, Tennis, Neutral Milk Hotel, cheesy 80s music.
Six things I could never do without
This used to be filled out but I decided it was irredeemably boring.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sometimes when my mind wanders I imagine disaster scenarios and what kind of heroic actions I might take. But judging by my performance in paintball and laser tag excursions, I'd probably be the first to go in [disaster scenario du jour]. (Confession: this used to say zombie apocalypse, but I've been given to understand it's overused etc etc.)

(This section apparently made a lot of people think I would be a great paintball companion, but I'm sorry to say, my depth perception is crap, and I'm not joking around about being the first to die in a zombie-related public health incident.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
So, here's a secret way to read my mind: I often start humming songs based on what I'm thinking about at the moment. Example: I was walking around during Pride weekend thinking "I love this city", which somehow translated to "We Built This City" (on rock and roll) in my head.

... I didn't guarantee that it would make a lot of sense, or necessarily involve *good* music, but there you go.

Also: I'm sad OKCupid took out the "poorly" option for the languages you speak. "Somewhat" feels like I'm way overselling myself.
You should message me if
You're a bit odd and you think too much. You talk with your hands.

Update: Okay so this is mostly a metaphorical thing meaning I like people who are enthusiastic and animated about the things they care about. The real criteria (criterion?) is that you think there's a good chance we'd like each other and you're on board with the open relationship situation. I'm not sure what to say to people who just message me "I talk with my hands!" when we clearly have deeply conflicting worldviews. This may not be the droid you're looking for, is what I'm saying.
The two of us