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My self-summary

Update June 23, 2013

I am now in a monogamous relationships, so I'm not looking for anyone, thanks!


Update May 15, 2013

I have found a wonderful primary partner whom I see regularly, but am looking for one or two more FWBs, or folks to join me and me primary for fun adventures such as 3somes, groups or swinging.


I woke up from a long sleep a couple years ago. I want to soak life in and I'm making up for lost time. I love being awake again and sharing myself with amazing people.

FYI, I don't think my OKCupid personality profile accurately reflects me.
What I’m doing with my life
I am seeking out new opportunities and friendships. I love my job and my situation. I like to learn all the time and am continuously improving myself and trying out new things. I was a school junkie and have two post-graduate degrees. I work out most days. I do regular yoga and meditation. I bike or walk to work and have never car-commuted.

Moved to SF recently from a much less interesting place and I am enjoying it far more than I ever expected, and I had high expectations!

I'm 6'1" and 170 lb and keep active, and I have a full head of hair (in case that makes a difference to you!)
I’m really good at
Solving problems and puzzles, balancing my left and right brains, getting to know wonderful new people, exploring, parallel parking, offset press printing, typing, and more!
The first things people usually notice about me
I've been told my eyes (blue).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have very diverse interests and have traveled a lot and read a lot and listened to a lot of music. I love cooking and food. In all cases there are no specific genres or favorites, I pretty much like them all!

It's hard to name things but I will list some that come to mind, some shamelessly cribbed from other peoples profiles. I will add more as I think of them. This is a pretty random sampling:

Miyazaki, About half of the Cohen Brothers movies (Fargo, Raising Arizona, The Big Lebowski, etc.) but not the other half, foreign movies with subtitles, Donnie Darko, Galaxy Quest, Contact, the original Matrix, Koyaanisqatsi, Pixar movies, Madagascar, Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs, Monsters, Inc., Lexx, Firefly, Battlestar Galactica (new series), Dr Who, Twin Peaks.

Beatles, XTC and other British new wave/alt-pop, jazz (mainly New Orleans style and classic be-bop like Miles Davis and Thelonious Monk), all the Canadian Sara(h)s: McLachlan, Slean, etc., Blur, Kate Bush, Kristin Hersh/Throwing Muses/50 Foot Wave, Buddha Bar, Moby, Mary Margaret O'Hara, Suzanne Vega, Death Cab for Cutie, New Pornographers, The The, Björk, The Clash, Davie Bowie, Nine Inch Nails, Radiohead, Talking Heads, Blur, Flaming Lips, Bruce Cockburn, k.d. lang, u2, The Police, Vic Chessnut (RIP), Shawn Colvin, New Order, Múm, Melon, Ryuichi Sakamoto, David Bowie, Elton John, Sigúr Ros, The Lilac Time, Juliana Hatfield, Jesus and Mary Chain, The Breeders, Jane Siberry, Garbage, Gús Gús, Deep Forest, REM, Aimee Mann, The Clash, Simple Minds, etc. etc.

Sushi! Italian, Thai, Japanese... I love all different kinds of food!

The typical book club stuff, Laxness, Bulgakov, Gogol, Vonnegut, trashy science fiction... Lately I have been reading more non fiction on Buddhism and meditation. I was a voracious reader most of my life, but lately not so much. Probably will again.

I love travelling and really experiencing new places, as close to the local lifestyle as possible. I'm not interested in cruises, tours, or 5 star luxury resorts. I've been to various parts of Asia, Europe, and Australia/New Zealand.
Six things I could never do without
Sex, love, play, human touch, adventure, learning, music, food, the oxford comma, and adding extra items to lists like this.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be more open to the universe, how to open my heart to those around me, and somehow stay employed! How to balance my different values and needs.
On a typical Friday night I am
fooling around with my gorgeous girlfriend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Pretty much anything but only when we're in person.
You should message me if
You are looking to play with a gentle, compassionate, kind, smart, but real man. You are confident, positive, and constructive in your outlook. You want to create some great memories and have a great adventure. You take care of yourself and your body. You crave physical contact and that amazing afterglow. And you are open to making a new friend too...
The two of us