I'm a socialist and a bit obsessed with politics, a lover of kink, a complete bastard and all those other good things.
At the moment I'm getting involved in psychedelics research and will be working with the group at Imperial on their new psilocybin-for-major-depression study as one of the psychiatrists.
As well as that I do some etching and printmaking, aquatint mostly.
I've been trying out polyamoury, and it's gone great, it'd be nice to discuss it with you. I'm not set on this or any particular relationship style though. No current partners
Arguing about things. What a stupid thing to be good at. I like it though, I'm very passionate about political and ethical issues. You don't have to agree with me on anything but it would be good if you liked talking about it.
I'm also very good at listening. But who's not good at listening? Even dogs can listen, in fact it's all they do. I should probably buck up my ideas, straighten up and fly right or whatever it is ambitious go-getters say to themselves in the morning whilst flossing their pearly whites.
People don't notice this for years and then one day they say to me, "Tom (that's me), I have known you for years (I've said this bit already) and as well as being incredibly good looking and a real catch for anyone who might see you on the internet I've just noticed that you walk very like a bear."
I may have used some artistic licence in that quote, but the fundamental point is true. I don't see the resemblance but no doubt I will when I get to know myself a bit better
Books: I read a lot of books. Classics/sci-fi/weird intense shit. I like myths and legends, occult stuff and outsider art.
I also read a bit of politics and philosophy, particularly ethics. I can't classify myself though, I don't know enough, and every time I think I've decided on a world view the world changes. I'm really drawn to some kind of Kantian absolutist view of the world because I think I have a deep prejudice that morals should be hard to live by and I like how unforgiving it is.
I like films. My favourite film is 12 Angry Men. That's like your best china though, it's what you put out when the vicar is coming to tea. My other favourite film for when I'm not being up myself and trying to impress people is A Boy And His Dog which is a schlocky dystopian postapocalyptic film about a boy and his telepathic dog.
I like a lot of music. Disco, house, techno and an infinite number of other genres. I go to a lot of nights and electronic festivals.
Food: I cook a lot though and really enjoy it, so I like to experiment and I like food that's had a bit of thought go into it. I try and learn from food when I travel. I cook/eat a lot of Lebanese food I picked up when I was working there.
- At Berghaim, ecstatic whilst dancing...and dancing...and dancing...
- at the Finnish Church in London chilling out in the awesome private sauna.
- at a Halloween bacchanal in rural Wales, leading and being lead through an elaborate story/game/night dressed as a some kind of wood spirit (mostly involves leaves, nakedness and body paint).
- On call at some London A+E, helping out the waifs and strays that wash in with mental health issues.
- Getting tattooed at Sang Bleu (you take the times you can get...)
- Helping friends put on a Disco/afrobeat night somewhere
- At a festival in Amsterdam listening to some perfect house music with some perfect people.
Or at home cooking for friends and talking and not being nearly as pretentious as all these things make me sound.
Politics wise I'm sex work positive, trans positive, feminist but not rad-fem, and socialist so if you're wildly different to that or you're racist or homophobic we won't get on.
Go for it and send the first message. Emily Davison threw herself in front of the Prince of Wales' horse so that you would have the right to message boys first on online dating sites. At least I think that was her demand, history was never my strong point