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My self-summary
Extrovert, left wing psychiatrist and artist. Optimistic, enthusiastic, empathetic and sarcastic.

I'm a socialist and a bit obsessed with politics, a lover of kink, a complete bastard and all those other good things
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a doctor, a psychiatrist, and I love it and it's intensely interesting but it also doesn't define me, in this case though it obviously does define me, as in now you think of me as that doctor. If you do me the favour of not thinking that I'll owe you one

At the moment I'm getting involved in psychedelics research and will be working with the group at Imperial on their new psilocybin-for-major-depression study as one of the psychiatrists.

As well as that I do some etching and printmaking, aquatint mostly.

I've been trying out polyamoury, and it's gone great, it'd be nice to discuss it with you. I'm not set on this or any particular relationship style though. No current partners.
I’m really good at
Physically I'm good with my hands, dextrous, strong. I can put in a cannula before you can say Jack Robinson. I miss doing this now I'm on psychiatry, painting/making now has to provide me with that pleasure-in-doing.

Arguing about things. What a stupid thing to be good at. I like it though, I'm very passionate about political and ethical issues. You don't have to agree with me on anything but it would be good if you liked talking about it.

I'm also very good at listening. But who's not good at listening? Even dogs can listen, in fact it's all they do. I should probably buck up my ideas, straighten up and fly right or whatever it is ambitious go-getters say to themselves in the morning whilst flossing their pearly whites
The first things people usually notice about me
More interestingly one of the last things anyone notices about me is that I walk like a bear.

People don't notice this for years and then one day they say to me, "Tom (that's me), I have known you for years (I've said this bit already) and as well as being incredibly good looking and a real catch for anyone who might see you on the internet I've just noticed that you walk very like a bear."

I may have used some artistic licence in that quote, but the fundamental point is true. I don't see the resemblance but no doubt I will when I get to know myself a bit better.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I read a lot of books. Classics/sci-fi/weird intense shit. I like myths and legends, occult stuff and outsider art.

I also read a bit of politics and philosophy, particularly ethics. I can't classify myself though, I don't know enough, and every time I think I've decided on a world view the world changes. I'm really drawn to some kind of Kantian absolutist view of the world because I think I have a deep prejudice that morals should be hard to live by and I like how unforgiving it is.

I like films. My favourite film is 12 Angry Men. That's like your best china though, it's what you put out when the vicar is coming to tea. My other favourite film for when I'm not being up myself and trying to impress people is A Boy And His Dog which is a schlocky dystopian postapocalyptic film about a boy and his telepathic dog.

I like a lot of music. Disco, house, techno and an infinite number of other genres. I go to a lot of nights and electronic festivals.

Food: I cook a lot though and really enjoy it, so I like to experiment and I like food that's had a bit of thought go into it. I try and learn from food when I travel. I cook/eat a lot of Lebanese food I picked up when I was working there
I spend a lot of time thinking about
socialism // socialising // kink // polyamoury/relationship forms // mental health issues // what nights are coming up? // utopianism // science fiction // drug politics // my life plan // what to make next // where to wild swim // new artwork ideas // myths and legends, Gods and monsters // where I/we should go on a trip to next // where and how will my commune be/be organised // fetishes/BDSM // my love/hate of social media // what needlessly elaborate dinner should I cook tonight?
On a typical Friday night I am
- pitching camp on a beach in southern Ireland, with whisky, fire and music.

- at the Finnish Church in London chilling out in the awesome private sauna.

- at a Halloween bacchanal in rural Wales, leading and being lead through an elaborate story/game/night dressed as a some kind of wood spirit (mostly involves leaves, nakedness and body paint).

- On call at some London A+E, helping out lovely people with mental health issues.

- Helping friends put on a disco/afrobeat night somewhere

Or at home cooking for friends and talking and not being nearly as pretentious as all these things make me sound
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I find it difficult listing my life from most to least private, but I'm an open book so you'll hear all about it (although I tend to mostly ask other people questions on dates, I already know all about me, why would I want to just repeat that out loud?)
You should message me if
You are interested, interesting, funny and wild.

Trans/sex work positive, intersectional, anti racism/homophobia.

Go for it and send the first message. Emily Davison threw herself in front of the Prince of Wales' horse so that you would have the right to message boys first on online dating sites. At least I think that was her demand, history was never my strong point.
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