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My self-summary
I'm a straight-ish*, cis-ish*, poly dude, transplant from Wisconsin after my SSO joined the ranks of IU Grad Students. I'm socially liberal leaning towards socialist, somewhat excessively introspective, and a non-evangelistic teetotaler and vegetarian. I don't believe in God even a little bit, but I respect your right to believe whatever you want, as long as it doesn't inconvenience or oppress anyone else. I'm about a 2(pi) on the nerd/geek scale, involved in role-playing games and foam-sword combat but not too serious about any of my fandoms. I'm a little bit messy, and alarmingly self-confident despite my plethora of only mediocre skills and talents. I lack modesty in most senses of the word, although I like to pretend that I'm very dignified. I am a fierce supporter of queer and trans- rights, but I'll argue about pretty much anything just for the fun of it. I'm very handy with tools and duct tape, but I'm a lot better at starting projects than finishing them. I'm kinda short for a guy, and get a little overweight every winter when frisbee is out of season and the bike trails freeze up. A vast majority of my possessions were acquired on the side of the road or from a dumpster. I tend to be very straightforward (read: blunt), as if that wasn't already self-evident.

*Labels are hard. I'm attracted to femininity and androgyny, and I find penises (penii?) just about as arousing as vaginas and vulvas (vulvii?). But I have yet to be sexually attracted to someone who identifies as male (more than the baseline "people can be sexy because they're people"). On a similar note, I tend to identify as male primarily because it's easy, but I feel no particular affinity or association with the gender. More realistically, I identify as "Ambivalent." But I have many of the physical attributes associated with masculinity, and that's the assumption that people make. So... basically, labels are hard.
What I’m doing with my life
I play a fair bit of frisbee and a lot of computer games. Other non-job activities include officiating for the local roller derby league, various building and crafting projects, playing with my cats, and designing a home-brew role-playing system.

Also, the mindless, soulless drudgery of a full-time service job.
I’m really good at
Singing, tinkering, philosophizing, and dumpster-diving.
The first things people usually notice about me
Bare feet. As often as I can get away with it. Also the long curly hair.

The last thing they usually notice is the little plastic frog that I snuck into their bag while they weren't paying attention.

Apparently Firefox doesn't think "snuck" is a word. How else would you spell the past-tense of "sneak," Firefox? "Snack?"

"Sneaked." Oh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My copy of House of Leaves is held together by copious packing tape from the number of times I've read it and loaned it out. Other favorite authors are Stephenson, Asimov, Bujold, Card (as much as I disagree with his politics and religion, he writes a good speculative sci-fi novel), and Pierce. So, a lot of speculative/sci-fi, with a bit of fantasy thrown in for good measure. I don't read much fan-fiction, but Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality is amazing and you should totally read it.

I've recently discovered the wonder of audiobooks, and now even the most mundane tasks are made tolerable because I can essentially do them while I "read". Cleaning the kitchen has never been more enjoyable. Consequently, I have become one of those people who walks around wearing headphones or a bluetooth headset all the time. It seems like a worthwhile trade-off.

Movie-wise, I'm a fan of pretty much anything Disney/Pixar, and I've been enjoying the hell out of the new Marvel movies. Else, I like movies that make you think, and I've been known to enjoy some occasional camp.

I don't watch much TV, especially when it's actually airing. The two shows that I will re-watch pretty much any time are West Wing and Firefly. But I've been known to enjoy some anime, Avatar TLA, and I watch Daily Show occasionally. I'm also a fan of pretty much every BBC show that makes it across the pond. The Marvel TV shows have been mostly enjoyable.

I've been on an A Capella kick recently, fueled by Pandora's recent acquisition of The Sing-Off soundtracks. But I couldn't possibly name a favorite. I listen to a lot of music, though, and really the only things I'll skip are sexist rap, deep country, and teenie-pop.

My ideal meal is Homemade Hungarian Mushroom Soup, hot fresh Pumpernickel Rye bread, and dark chocolate ice cream for desert. All homemade, if possible.
Six things I could never do without
Air, sustenance, sleep, shelter, companionship, and self-actualization. In that order. Haha, psychology joke.

Ok, but Maslow aside. In the spirit of the question:
- Internet (and relevant perusal technology)
- Books (print, digital, audiobook. I love 'em all)
- Close friends. Acquaintances I can take or leave, but as much as I'm an introvert, people are still pretty important to me.
- Frisbee. It's basically my only form of physical activity other than cycling, and the only sport that I'm even remotely good at.
- Music. Making or listening. I'd rather lose my sight than my hearing, for this reason.
- Dairy products. I have never struggled to remain vegetarian, but adapting to a vegan diet would be difficult. I love my eggs, milk, cheese, ice cream, and yogurt. I've tried to compromise by getting as much of it as possible organically and humanely sourced. Someone once suggested that I might need to take calcium supplements, and I laughed and laughed.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to fix/improve something by taking it apart and tinkering with it (modding nerf guns, building DDR pads from scratch, fixing electronic devices). The math behind everyday life (how far Anna and Kristoff would actually have sunk into the snow when they fell off the cliff, the lifetime cost of two pet cats). How and why people think and act (mostly because my SSO is getting a PhD in Social Psych). What the hell I'm doing with my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Why Friday night in particular? This seems like a loaded question. I'm going to pretend this question is asking "What do you do for fun?"

Frisbee, role-playing, tinkering with gadgets, perusing the internet, cooking, playing with the cats, reading, gardening, having long socio-political debates with my house-mates, mock combat with foam swords, officiating Roller Derby, and drinking tea. Not necessarily in that order.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
This question would more accurately be titled "The most private thing I'm willing to admit to any random person on the internet." In any case:
I'm in a stable open poly relationship (we call it a "polycule" because we have nerdy friends) with my three housemates. Also, while fairly far from asexual, I have a moderately low sex drive. Sex just isn't a high-priority thing for me, but I like people, and I like cuddles.
You should message me if
You weren't put off by my self-summary. Seriously, that's basically the laundry list. If none of it was a deal-breaker, and especially if any parts of it particularly appeal to you, then we probably have some common ground.

- You enjoy deconstructing abstract concepts.
- You play table-top RPGs and are looking for another player.
- You're looking for someone to sing with.
- You enjoy curling up with a cup of tea and book.
- You care more about witty banter than plot.

My primary goal here is to find cool new friends. So if you think we should be friends, that's also a pretty good reason.
The two of us