I've always liked Mr. Nice Guy. "Bad Boys" are way, way overrated in my opinion. My Prince Charming is a good-natured, patient, sensitive guy. And being transgender, it goes without saying that my Prince Charming is very open-minded, too.
And finally, I believe the heart and brain are the sexiest parts of a man. I want someone well-endowed in both!
My advice to men who want to date trans women:
My decision to upload a video of a trans woman being sexually assaulted on a busy street (viewer discretion strongly advised): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oCSioFyLF0w
OKC has proven to be an excellent place to find volunteers for my videos. So if I'm in your town and you'd like to be in front of or behind my little camera, just let me know. I'm sure I can work you into one of my projects!
May I also use this space to answer a few of the most common questions I get in emails? Here goes:
Yes, it is transgender, and not "transgendered." Think of it as the equivalent of someone's ethnic or religious heritage. You would never say an "Asianed female" or a "Christianed female" or a "Polished woman." Well the latter is probably not the best example, but you get what I mean!
Yes, it's okay to ask me about transgender rights. But it's inappropriate to ask any trans person about their personal surgical or medical history, since trans people deserve privacy, like anyone else. Asking a trans person if they are "pre-op or post-op?" or "which hormone regimens do you take?" is a subtle way to insult them. Most educated people realize that the trans person will voluntarily share this information, when necessary.
Yes, I date meat eaters, Republicans, military service members, nonreligious people and ultra religious people.
No, I can't easily describe "what I'm looking for" beyond the qualities I've already written about. Being a traveler, I guess I currently treat relationships like a first class Eurail pass -- a precious document that takes you to fantastic places, but part of the excitement is that the overall journey is not all planned out.
Yes, I would consider meeting someone at Starbucks for an informal, low pressure chat over tea. I actually do that pretty regularly and I enjoy it.
No, I don't have any ethnic, cultural or age preferences. Variety is quite delicious!
No, I don't do "online only" or "texting only" penpalships. I don't have Skype, snapchat, kakao, kik, etc., so please stop asking. If it weren't considered rude, I would write in all caps that I just feel more comfortable (and fulfilled) communicating the old fashioned, in-person way.
But the quick messages I get where people say "I know I live 3,000 miles from you but I wanted to say that what you're doing on transgender issues is great for society" are welcomed and very touching. I sometimes read these messages aloud at my discussion groups to lift and encourage others.
And that probably puts me at the 1,000-word mark!