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My self-summary
I'm a low-maintenance transgender female who loves to laugh! A Myers-Briggs ENFP all the way!

I've always liked Mr. Nice Guy. "Bad Boys" are way, way overrated in my opinion. My Prince Charming is a good-natured, patient, sensitive guy. And being transgender, it goes without saying that my Prince Charming is very open-minded, too.

And finally, I believe the heart and brain are the sexiest parts of a man. I want someone well-endowed in both!
What I’m doing with my life
I'm based in the Wash DC area, but traveling to NYC, Philly, Chicago, Indianapolis, Seoul and Bangkok over the next few months, for work and leisure. I'm quite dedicated to my career, and work long (and fulfilling) hours and travel far and wide. But transitioning genders is even more time consuming -- and yes, even more fulfilling.
I’m really good at
...finding the time to work out, regardless of where I am. And although traveling the nation and the world is incredibly exciting, it's the everyday "small things" that truly excite me most: a good bowl of hot oatmeal, sitting by my living room window during sunset, watching an old sitcom with my grandma, squeezing a friend's warm hand when mine is cold (they always are!) -- stuff like that!
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a very diverse background, so people are often intrigued by my ethnic heritage/national origin and will even ask "What's your nationality?" They expect me to say that I grew up in Jo'burg, Colombo or Rio -- not Williamsburg, VA!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm extremely modern and progressive, but the Holy Bible still ranks as my most cherished book, by far. I love the foods of Asia, which I prepare at home several nights a week.
Six things I could never do without
Well I really love, love, love my GoPro and posting short, slightly dramatized videos on YouTube. Since sisterhood is really important to me, I've uploaded several videos of me hanging out with transgender women around the world. Intrigued? Here are a few links:

My advice to men who want to date trans women:

My response to a YouTube viewer who threatened to "beat and rape" me -- just because I'm trans:

OKC has proven to be an excellent place to find volunteers for my videos. So if I'm in your town and you'd like to be in front of or behind my little camera, just let me know. I'm sure I can work you into one of my projects!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My next flight! I travel so much for business (and leisure) that it seems I'm always leaving or arriving at an airport or rail station (trying to be more green). I'm still not crazy about eating alone, so if you see that I'm in your town, don't hesitate joining me for lunch or dinner. It's okay if you're not an expert in transgender issues, as I'm finding that I really enjoy educating sincere and thoughtful people who have made a true effort to research, understand and respect my special group.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday is a common night for transgender discussion/activist groups, usually held at a church meeting room or community center, followed by a fun meal at a nearby restaurant. I'm trying to become more of an activist, so I attend these meetings whenever possible. Swapping stories with other trans folk from around the country (and world) is really exciting. It's also incredibly uplifting to see how quickly and deeply U.S. society is changing and embracing our issues. I was in Omaha and Des Moines recently -- and LOVED it!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
While I constantly preach equality and awareness of trans issues, even I was surprised (astounded actually) by the overwhelmingly supportive environment here on OKC, which appears to attract very open-minded, intelligent people. Lots of guys here have already dated transgender women -- one guy in Boston emailed me to say that two of his siblings are trans!

May I also use this space to answer a few of the most common questions I get in emails? Here goes:

Yes, it is transgender, and not "transgendered." Think of it as the equivalent of someone's ethnic or religious heritage. You would never say an "Asianed female" or a "Christianed female" or a "Polished woman." Well the latter is probably not the best example, but you get what I mean!

Yes, it's okay to ask me about transgender rights. But it's inappropriate to ask any trans person about their personal surgical or medical history, since trans people deserve privacy, like anyone else. Asking a trans person if they are "pre-op or post-op?" or "which hormone regimens do you take?" is a subtle way to insult them. Most educated people realize that the trans person will voluntarily share this information, when necessary.

Yes, I date meat eaters, Republicans, military service members, nonreligious people and ultra religious people.

No, I can't easily describe "what I'm looking for" beyond the qualities I've already written about. Being a traveler, I guess I currently treat relationships like a first class Eurail pass -- a precious document that takes you to fantastic places, but part of the excitement is that the overall journey is not all planned out.

Yes, I would consider meeting someone at Starbucks for an informal, low pressure chat over tea. I actually do that pretty regularly and I enjoy it.

No, I don't have any ethnic, cultural or age preferences. Variety is quite delicious!

No, I don't do "online only" or "texting only" penpalships. I don't have Skype, snapchat, kakao, kik, etc., so please stop asking. If it weren't considered rude, I would write in all caps that I just feel more comfortable (and fulfilled) communicating the old fashioned, in-person way.

But the quick messages I get where people say "I know I live 3,000 miles from you but I wanted to say that what you're doing on transgender issues is great for society" are welcomed and very touching. I sometimes read these messages aloud at my discussion groups to lift and encourage others.

And that probably puts me at the 1,000-word mark!
You should message me if
You're a flexible, easy-going Mr. Nice guy! Bonus points if you have transgender friends or family members, or you would sign a petition supporting transgender rights.
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