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My self-summary
I've been reflecting on myself for decades and I'm still not good at discerning how I come across to others. I expect people consider me smart and competent, but this does little to indicate their more gut reactions.

Lately, I have been throwing around the idea of a laid-back external personality coupled with a confident internal sense of self. Obviously, more can be said, like I'm self-employed, athletic, father of two young men, husband to one great woman with whom I have an open relationship. We like Dan Savage's concept of monogamish. It applies well to us.

I am iconoclastic, inquisitive, and physical.
What I’m doing with my life
Once the triathlon season is over, I start to run more than swim and bike, getting ready for a few fall road races. I like how my athletic body feels, and the intensity of this relationship I have with my body pleases me. Bought skate skies a few years back and actually look forward to snow.

More generally, since the boys have fledged, there is more time to pursue new interests. My wife, for example, bought me a new camera, and I am finding its many possibilities complicated and rewarding. Another interest is finding new friends. I think happiness has a lot to do with the quality of one's relationships, and so I am interested in people who share themselves well.
I’m really good at
I'm good at staying physically active both at work and play. I can build a pretty mean bed as well as other things that go into homes.

And in terms of relationships, I'm good at listening, at being honest, and letting the horses run free when both riders feel comfortable letting go of the reins.
The first things people usually notice about me
People notice me? Perhaps when I'm riding my bike, decked out in gear, cutting in front of them at a stop sign. (So bad!)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My shelves are full. Recently added a free book library on my boulevard with the intent to lower the number of books we own. Success has been marginal as neighbors keep dropping off interesting books.

One book: Kundera's THE UNBEARABLE LIGHTNESS OF BEING did the trick for me. I really liked the interplay of the intellectual and the physical.

Read DOUBT by J. M. Hecht last winter - a nice historical review of religious skepticism through the ages.

Mishima, Duras, Murikami, Plath, Emily Dickenson.... Generally, I'm drawn to rich reflections of experience.

As for movies....don't see many. Apocalypse Now stands out as a fav.

Lately, I've been on a deep house/electronica music kick. Right now I have a Bossa Nova station humming.
Six things I could never do without
"to do without"...? Well, air would be a tough to do without, but I think the question asks after a different need - perhaps like: 'What six things are crucial to your happiness?' Well, I need to be physically active, I need quiet, I need good friends, good sex, my family, my wife.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The harmony of the planets.
On a typical Friday night I am
Often Friday night is hitting the gym after work and then tracking down a good meal. Last Friday, for example, L*** and I enjoyed the weather and sat outside at the Republic; we nibbled on some great mussels, a bruschetta plate and two fancy beers.
You should message me if
You are interested in an occasional biking/running/swimming/nordic skiing partner and/or you are interested in hanging out at a coffee shop, getting to know someone comfortable letting the conversation sink to a level where life is richer. Or if you are interested in exploring your submissive side with a benevolent Dom. Or if you are a Republican and are willing to talk about it as I'm curious. If you'd enjoy such things, please drop me a line. I also welcome notes from those curious, angry, or disposed to argue with any opinions I have expressed here. Also, I can't see likes as I do not have an A-list membership so send me a message. I will reply to everyone even if to just say not a match for me.
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