Lately, I have been throwing around the idea of a laid-back external personality coupled with a confident internal sense of self. Obviously, more can be said, like I'm self-employed, athletic, father of two young men, husband to one great woman with whom I have an open relationship. We like Dan Savage's concept of monogamish. It applies well to us.
I am iconoclastic, inquisitive, and physical.
More generally, since the boys have fledged, there is more time to pursue new interests. My wife, for example, bought me a new camera, and I am finding its many possibilities complicated and rewarding. Another interest is finding new friends. I think happiness has a lot to do with the quality of one's relationships, and so I am interested in people who share themselves well.
And in terms of relationships, I'm good at listening, at being honest, and letting the horses run free when both riders feel comfortable letting go of the reins.
One book: Kundera's THE UNBEARABLE LIGHTNESS OF BEING did the trick for me. I really liked the interplay of the intellectual and the physical.
Read DOUBT by J. M. Hecht last winter - a nice historical review of religious skepticism through the ages.
Mishima, Duras, Murikami, Plath, Emily Dickenson.... Generally, I'm drawn to rich reflections of experience.
As for movies....don't see many. Apocalypse Now stands out as a fav.
Lately, I've been on a deep house/electronica music kick. Right now I have a Bossa Nova station humming.