there is a soundtrack and a mood to all this. i listen to music all day and think we are fortunate to live right now, music-wise. (we in montreal are especially fortunate.) in other respects, i think it's a bit of a bewildering and despair-inducing time: a time in which time seems to be running out. but, then, trying to avert things like our own extinction and the imprisonment of everything existing at least gives us something meaningful to do with our lives (whereas the major achievements of our parents' generation appear to have been mutual funds and vinyl siding and, oh right, civil rights and third world decolonization ... never mind).
je parle aussi français (bien que j'ai écrit ce profil quand je le parlais beaucoup moins) et je suis content de t'écrire et de te parler en n'importe quel langue (a condition que c'est anglais, français, ou, um, tuvalu).
actually, i'm vegan these days. and coconut bliss, while a valiant substitute and a tasty solid, is neither gelato nor sold at places with dog-sizes tables (i buy mine at segal's).
and i wouldn't put a dog in my backpack.
mostly, really, what i'm doing with "my life" is writing about things, teaching about things, and trying to change things. by "things" i mean mostly cities (which is what i'm supposed to know about), but also the bigger things that shape cities and that need to be, not changed, but made to disappear (capitalism, white supremacy, dog-sized backpacks, hetero-patriarchy, mumford and sons ...)
music: nils frahm, julia kent, tim hecker, nick drake, tom waits, bjork, bon iver, do make say think, bell orchestre, sigur ros, atlas sound, the books, the clogs, dead prez, talib kweli, the coup, cornel west theory, kendrick lamar, alarm will sound, jim o'rourke (and gastr del sol), terry riley, ornette coleman, ibeyi ...
food: it's so much about when, where, and how: a late-evening scotch in a friend's living room, brunch on a sunny sunday, an elaborate dinner that i've spent hours cooking for you (you've brought the wine), an espresso and the latest essay from ta-nahesi coates ...
5. nice, interesting, funny people
4. someone to flirt with
2. activity (running, cycling, skiing, yogaing)
1. a little time to myself, to reflect, to meditate, to appreciate you
you're interested in finding a structure to fit around good people rather than fitting people into an unflexible relationship structure. there are, i think, lots of ways of caring about people and making each other's lives better. let's think big and broadly and daringly!