uhanam
28 London, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
"Decadent and complex while remaining wholly refreshing and drinkable". While dark, rich and decadent it finds balance and subtlety in its lightness and drinkability. Great for matching with sweeter dishes and intense desserts."

That is actually the description of a craft beer I once had in Newcastle. For whatever reason I thought it was a beer that described me well. So, a decadent and complex man without the lavish and the wasteful indulgence is what I'll use to describe myself here. A man of inner turmoil and conflict with a childish fascination for people, life and the world. Others have called me genuine, compassionate, shy, silent and slightly stubborn. "Still waters run deep." is an expression that has been thrown at me more than once.

Truth is I'm not good at describing myself and I've probably re-written this summary several times trying to convey the most accurate image of who I am. Besides, words are easy and you have no way of knowing if whatever I say here is true. For example, if I said I'm kind, affectionate, silly, that I don't take myself or most things too seriously and that I'm a Drokt from Boltus 5 on an eight Myriad-year long planetary expedition to discover the long lost U'muhn artifact of my people...could you spot the odd one out? No? Then the best way of knowing is to get to know me better. Just be warned that some facts about my life might be under a non-disclosure interplanetary agreement with the Drokteon Senate.

As is tradition here I have been through the scrutiny of the Myers–Briggs test and apparently I'm a INFP-T. I'll let your curiosity get the best of you and google what it means to be and live with someone whose personality type is an anagram of "Ptinf".

And in case the looks haven't given it away I ain't from around these here parts. I moved from Portugal to London and here I shall remain until chance will have me live somewhere else.
What I’m doing with my life
Apparently still trying to convince myself that I'll be able to find happiness on the internet. I hate dating. It's a game I don't know how to play and I've arrived at the "acceptance" stage that I'm simply not cut out for it. Hence why I'm looking for friends first, love later...if it happens. If it does then so much the better but happiness can be found elsewhere and if a life of solitude has indeed become my story then I'll play my role the best way I can. A standing ovation might await me at the end.

I'm currently working as an architect in London and unless you want to hear about the different ways to waterproof a basement or know what my favourite CAD command is you'd do well not to ask too many questions about my work :P You just need to know that it's not as exciting as it sounds and I'm not swimming in money and fame unlike the empty promises I was told years ago. A turtleneck and a pair of thick black rim glasses are also not part of my wardrobe.

In my free time I like to game, write music when I feel inspired, go for walks when I feel guilty for spending too much time at home, read when I can escape the lure of my shiny laptop and I dream waaaay too much.

What I plan on doing in the near future is to live as much as I can and be happy, possibly with people who inspire me to be the person I wish I could be. I want to travel to far away and exotic places, go on adventures and careless road trips around the world, do outrageous and regrettable things so that I might tell my kids one day "You shouldn't do that. Your old man did it but regrets it and you shouldn't make the same mistakes!"
I’m really good at
Messing up very simple recipes, overthinking my problems, remaining silent for long periods of time, procrastinating, making a decent beef stir-fry, imagining fictional dialogues that I will never have and having my head in the clouds.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read as much as I could/should but I love to. Some of my favourites include the Dune series which I'm currently reading, The Saxon Chronicles by Bernard Cornwell and All the Light We Cannot See. I read to escape so as long as it is fiction and has an interesting plot and likable characters I'm hooked. Suggest me things!

A Saturday movie night with pizza and popcorn has been an essential part of my weekly routine for many years so I've seen a lot of movies from the most famous ones to the most obscure independent titles. My watchlist now contains more than 500 movies and yet I always feel like I have nothing to watch! So it's hard to pick but some I re-watch on a regular basis include Once, The Garden of Words, Road to Perdition, Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, The Big Lebowski. The Station Agent, anything by Studio Ghibli or movies by Wes Anderson. I love animation movies so I find myself watching those the most.

I'm usually not very up to date with series but some of the newer ones I've watched and liked include Westworld, Game of Thrones, Orange is the New Black, The Man in the High Castle and Hannibal. Then I just re-watch a lot of older shows like Spaced, Black Books, Scrubs, Fawlty Towers, Seinfeld, South Park and Twin Peaks.

I am and will always be a metalhead at heart even though you'll often catch me listening to other genres of music. I like Jazz, Blues, Folk, Classical, some Electronica, Indie, maybe some Pop. I'll just stick with the cliché "As long as it's good..." to make it easier for me. I will make you a mixtape if you ask nicely!

I wish humans could survive exclusively on biscuits and cakes because that's all I'd be eating. I'm just not a foodie and trusting my cooking is a risky business although it hasn't killed me yet. I'm not vegan/vegetarian but I respect people with a different life style than my own so I expect the same treatment in return.
The six things I could never do without
An escape from life
Family & Friends
Good memories
Sweets & Chocolates
Music
A comfortable pair of shoes

The six things I could DEFINITELY do without:

Egocentric and pretentious people
Mosquitoes and wasps
Those remaining popcorn kernels that almost break your teeth
British weather
Crowded stinky trains in my morning commute
Sudden loud noises such as slamming doors
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The complexity of life and trying to understand myself and where things are headed. Perplexed with how a lot of people seem to like living in London.

Might be a byproduct of getting old but I also spend a lot of time thinking about my childhood, the things I've done and miss and the things I haven't done and wish I had. There's still plenty of time right?
...
Right?
On a typical Friday night I am
typically at home, typically relaxing after a long typical working day.

Alone most of the time, fascinated by this shiny screen that connects me to the wide web; I watch, I listen, I read and if it's disgustingly hot outside I'll just grab something cool from the fridge, sit by my bedroom window in the dark and keep the moon company.

I don't have much of a social life here in London because I don't know anyone well enough to hang out with. But I am "generally" an outgoing person and I try to make the most of my Saturdays by either going for a walk, visit museums or catch the occasional event now and then. Sundays are my lazy stay-at-home days :P Everyone needs one of those.

If you're looking for a partner to go on adventures in London I'm totally in!
You should message me if
you're not just looking for casual sex or a quick hook-up (am I the first guy here to say this?) and you'd like to get to know me a bit better and are ok with me not being much of a talker or Mr. Happy Smiles all the time. I also hate formalities so just jump right in there and talk to me like you've known me for ages :)

I'm open and would in fact encourage we first focus on building a friendship together before we think about dates & mates. If it happens it happens and if it doesn't it doesn't. If you don't live near me then I'm afraid friendship is probably as far as we'll go :/ I've been in a LDR in the past and I know they don't work for me. I need to be close to someone to feel connected. I hope you understand and please don't let that stop you from writing me a message :)

Also, like most people here I'm not A-listed so if you leave a like in hopes I message you back then you might need to make yourself a cuppa and put your feet up! Just leave me a quick message and I promise I'll write back if my procrastination doesn't get in the way.
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