uhanam
28 London, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
"Decadent and complex while remaining wholly refreshing and drinkable".

Once, while in Newcastle, I went to a pub and ordered a beer with this description. I ordered it because I thought it represented well the way I see myself. The description went on to say:

"While dark, rich and decadent this beer finds balance and subtlety in its lightness and drinkability. Great for matching with sweeter dishes and intense desserts."

So, a decadent behaviour without the lavish and the wasteful indulgence while maintaining an air that is both mysterious and difficult to read is what I'll use to describe myself here. A man of inner turmoil and conflict with a childish fascination for people, life and the world. Others have called me genuine, compassionate, shy, silent and slightly stubborn. "Still waters run deep." is an expression that has been thrown at me more than once which I think is a good thing? :P

Truth is I'm not good at describing myself and I've probably re-written this summary several times trying to convey the most accurate image of who I am. Of the 16 personality types (if you care about such things) I'm apparently a INFP-T. Idealist? Calm, reserved and shy? Diplomat? Potential to be led into isolation from lack of understanding from others? Sounds about right!

From my photos you can see I'm almost always rocking that 3-4 day beard because I'm too lazy to shave every day and my hair is always in some form of disarray. In fact my whole life is one long bad hair day.
What I’m doing with my life
Currently working as an architect in London and on my free time I draw (badly), I write music (badly), I read (not as much as I should), I dream (too much).

What I plan on doing in the near future is to live as much as I can and be happy, possibly with people who inspire me to be the person I wish I could be. I want to travel to far away and exotic places, go on adventures and careless road trips around the world, do outrageous and regrettable things that I can tell to my kids one day "You shouldn't do that. Your daddy did it but regrets it and you shouldn't make the same mistakes!"
I’m really good at
Messing up very simple recipes, overthinking my problems, remaining silent for long periods of time, procrastinating, making a decent beef stir-fry, imagining fictional dialogues that I will never have and having my head in the clouds.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read as much as I could/should but I love to. Some of my favourites include the Dune series which I'm currently reading, The Saxon Chronicles by Bernard Cornwell and All the Light We Cannot See. I read to escape so as long as it is fiction and has an interesting plot and likable characters I'm hooked.

A Saturday movie night with pizza and popcorn has been an essential part of my weekly routine for many years so I've seen a lot of movies from the most famous ones to the most obscure independent titles. My watchlist now contains more than 500 movies and yet I always feel like I have nothing to watch! So it's hard to pick but I re-watch on a regular basis include Once, The Garden of Words, Road to Perdition, Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, The Big Lebowski, movies by Wes Anderson, any movie from the Studio Ghibli. I love animation movies so I find myself watching those the most.

I'm usually not very up to date with series but some of the newer ones I've watched and liked include Game of Thrones, Orange is the New Black, The Man in the High Castle and Hannibal. The I just re-watch a lot of older shows like Spaced, Black Books, Scrubs, Fawlty Towers, Seinfeld, South Park and Twin Peaks.

I am and will always be a metalhead at heart even though you'll often catch me listening to other genres of music. I like Jazz, Blues, Folk, Classical, some Electronica, Indie, maybe some Pop. I'll just stick with the cliché "As long as it's good..." to make it easier for me. I will make you a mixtape if you ask nicely!

I wish humans could survive exclusively on biscuits and cakes because that's all I'd be eating. I'm just not a foodie and trusting my cooking is a risky business although it hasn't killed me yet. I'm not vegetarian but respect people who are and I'd happily get more into a healthier lifestyle but you'll need to understand that I need a nice juicy steak from time to time :P
The six things I could never do without
An escape from life
Family & Friends
Good memories
Sweets & Chocolates
Music
A comfortable pair of shoes
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The complexity of life and trying to understand myself and where things are headed.

Might be a byproduct of getting old but I also spend a lot of time thinking about my childhood, the things I've done and miss and the things I haven't done and wish I had. There's still plenty of time right?
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Right?
On a typical Friday night I am
typically at home, typically relaxing after a long typical day. Alone most of the time, fascinated by this shiny screen that connects me to the wide web. I watch, I draw, I read and if it's disgustingly hot outside I'll just grab something cool from the fridge, sit by my bedroom window in the dark and keep the moon company.
You should message me if
you're not just looking for casual sex or a quick hook up (am I the first guy here to say this?) and you'd like to get to know me a bit better and are ok with me not being much of a talker or Mr. Happy Smiles all the time. I also hate formalities so just jump right in there and talk to me like you've known me for ages :)

And by the way, I've cast away my VIP status to live my life as a humble man. I'm not A-Listed is what I'm trying to say so I cannot see who leaves a like. I really appreciate them but a mere "Hi! How's it going?" is also very much appreciated.

Also, I've been in a LDR in the past and it was clear to me that they don't work for me. I need to be able to be close to someone in order to feel connected and the place I am in life at the moment simply doesn't allow me to drop everything and move across the world to another country. I hope you understand and I hope that doesn't stop us from at least having a good friendship :)
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