Luckily, the answer to both questions follows thusly: You are on OkCupid in order to learn the Art Of Fanciness. And I can teach you.
I consider myself lucky to have navigated the rise and fall of a serious long term relationship. I've gotten a closeup view of long term monogamy (5 years) as well as how to transition from monogamy to nonmonoetcetera. It has afforded me the privilege of knowing What The Fuck I Want In A Serious Relationship (WTFIWIASR) at the young age of 26. I feel like most people my age don't have this experience, which partially explains why so many of my peers still aspire to be monogamous.
Perhaps you and I should determine which of us is the more fancy writer.
Writings: I can only read the best of writings from the best of writers like Ernst Hemings, Richard Darkwings, Zombie Orwells, Malcolm Xs, Scott Fitzgerolds, Christoff Hitchends, Neal Stephensonians, Jack P Skellingtons, RL Stines, and the Stephens (Kings and Hawkings), et ceteras.
Food: fancy cigars, fancy wine.
Also, if you don't think this video:
is the best vid on the internet, we're not right for each other, not even for a one night stand. Sorry, but you just have no soul. You're worse than Genghis Khan.
Obviously I'm looking more for a FWB arrangement, but a real connection, sense of respect and ability to be completely communicative is of utmost importance. Without the mental connection, the build up and the ongoing sexual tension that comes with legitimate chemistry, I get crazy bored. I need someone who is challenging, who will make me think and laugh.
The preceding 2 paragraphs have been appropriated and paraphrased from a lovely girl in Portland whose profile makes my spine tingle with joy :)