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My self-summary
I'm an amiable chap, curious about and fascinated by people, even though I'm something of an introvert. I'm always up for getting to know someone new, especially via one-on-one chat, but I may not be the one who initiates contact. I'm the guy happily doing his own thing while being open to, and keeping an eye out for, chances to interact with bright, thoughtful, curious folks who generally enjoy life and wouldn't trade the experience, even when it's not a joyride.

I'm easily amused, and fairly amusing--or so I tell myself during my daily affirmations. "Self," I say, "you are fairly amusing!" Humor is essential for navigating our way through these crazy times, and I will love you immediately if you make me laugh. Consider yourself warned: don't go bein' all funny if you don't want some love.

I was raised in Hawaii, and sometimes I miss the islands profoundly. Sun, warmth, and bodies of water make me think fondly of good times growing up, which is partly why I love Portland summers so much.

...Well, that should do it. Don'tcha feel like you know me now??
What I’m doing with my life
Exploring this wonderful city. Portland is a *sweet* place to live, and I've just moved to the inner SE area, which is making me awfully happy.

Working a bunch at a job I like. I make food.

Cultivating my relationships.
I’m really good at
I seem to have some aptitude for taking a good photograph and creating a comfy living space.

I can cook a decent meal, although I often repeat myself. But the 4 dishes I make are pretty scrumptious! Cooking for and with someone else is fun.

Listening. Paying attention.
The first things people usually notice about me
After the initial physical stuff (I'm tall and thin), if we have a connection or rapport to even a slight degree, I think they notice that I am truly interested in hearing their stories.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS: Anything by Alan Watts, a wonderful writer. Bioenergetics--Alexander Lowen, The Chronicles of Narnia--C.S. Lewis (my favorite as a kid), Siddhartha--Herman Hesse, Ishmael--Daniel Quinn, The Lazy Man's Guide to Enlightenment--Thaddeus Golas, A Wrinkle in Time--Madeleine L'engle, Einstein's Dreams--Alan Lightman, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Vonnegut, Salinger

MOVIES: 2001: A Space Odyssey, Amadeus, Woody Allen films, Blade Runner, Easy Rider, Blue Velvet, Network, Alien/s, Before Sunrise/set, Mindwalk, Waking Life, Koyaanisqatsi, Baraka, The Cruise, The Godfather parts I and II, Ghostbusters, Say Anything, Brazil, Neverending Story, Office Space, Being John Malkovich, Five Easy Pieces, Dangerous Liaisons, Pulp Fiction, The Matrix

SHOWS: I don't have a tv and am out of the loop. ...That said, I did recently enjoy Louie; I will always love old Simpsons episodes; and I catch Real Time with Bill Maher whenever I can.

MUSIC: Many longtime favorites: Paul Simon, Pink Floyd, Talking Heads, Peter Gabriel, Beastie Boys, The Police, The Beatles, Tom Petty, Depeche Mode, Tears for Fears, New Order, U2, Robyn Hitchcock, XTC, Brian Eno, Supergrass, Radiohead, Jellyfish, R.E.M., David Bowie, Joni Mitchell, The The, Sly and the Family Stone, Pet Shop Boys, Alice in Chains, Elliott Smith, Prince, Bob Dylan, Air, The Beta Band, The Doors, Nick Drake, Oingo Boingo, Funkadelic, Led Zeppelin, Neil Young, Black Sabbath, Elton John, Stevie Wonder, Beck, Vanessa Daou, Earth, Wind and Fire. And so many more.

FOOD: Thai, Indian, Mexican, Italian. I'm a big fan of pizza and stir-fries. I love fish like salmon and ahi. Spicy, lots of veggies and lots of garlic = yum.
Six things I could never do without
(good) coffee, (good) beer, music, laughter, wonder, and moments of clarity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Words. I love words, and it's fun to adapt them to your own whims. I believe that playful subversion of language can enable us to peek behind the curtain of assumed reality. We take so much at face value, ignoring infinite layers of complexity and beauty. I have a great appreciation for the economy of language, the precise choice of words to succinctly convey ideas. Joseph Campbell said, "The experience of eternity, right here and now, is the function of life." Those words stay with me.

I think about this passage:
"The universe is at root a magical illusion and a fabulous game, and there is no separate "you" to get something out of it, as if life were a bank to be robbed. The only real "you" is the one that comes and goes, manifests and withdraws itself eternally in and as every conscious being. For "you" is the universe looking at itself from billions of points of view, points that come and go so that the vision is forever new. What we see as death, empty space, or nothingness is only the trough between the crests of this endlessly waving ocean." (Alan Watts)

...While I chose "agnostic" from the OKC list, my true religion is wonder. It staggers me that anything exists at all, really, and I am endlessly curious about how it all came to be.

I think a lot about the rather hefty challenges facing our species. Daniel Quinn's book Ishmael and its follow-up, The Story of B, delve deeply into some of them, while simultaneously positing the notion that it's not yet too late to make crucial changes. The books are superficially "fiction"--the main character is a talking gorilla, after all--but the effect of this is to render the ideas and the very real history of our species more accessible to a wide audience. As with my favorite Alan Watts books, I knew that Quinn had opened a previously closed door in my capacity for comprehending "the big picture."

I don't consider myself a pessimist at all, but I'd say I'm a disappointed idealist, in roughly the same way that I perceive the comedically bitter philosophizing of George Carlin. Carlin, however, would probably never have called himself an idealist. He said his greatest enjoyment in life came from chronicling the gradual dissolution of order, the "slow circling of the drain" by a once promising species. I used to be a *huge* fan of Carlin (...well, I still am), but I no longer choose to accept his worldview, as it seems to downplay love, compassion, and hope. I have faith in the fundamental goodness of the vast majority of human beings.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
is that i'm not "career-oriented." There's a great big world out there with which to interact, and life is far too short and wondrous to devote the bulk of my time, thought, and effort to climbing the financial ladder.

I'm not so fond of actual ladders, either. But fuck it; I'll climb 'em.
You should message me if
...you hate laughing and having fun. There'll be none of *that* with me.

...anything I've said resonates with you!

...you're up for a beer and a chat.
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