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My self-summary
I am a GenderQueer militant organizer who is guided by great feelings of love.
I am non-monogamous/"polyamorous" but am not opposed to monogamy after all without consent it is cheating and I am not down for that. Though at this moment this is only in theory as it is that I am Single Single.

If you are a Cis-gender (I include HomoNormative people here too) or a White person who does not actively acknowledge your privilege, which is the bare-minimum, I suggest you stop reading now its probably not going to work out. If you do not know what Cis-Gender or (White, Male, Cis, Able)*-Privilege means then do not message me at all until you have read up.

I want to meet fetch folks!

I am vicarious, vivacious, and vicious

I am not Attractive|Sexy|Beautiful|Handsome by the social standards, in fact only a very few of you find me to be such and its not generally for my looks at least not solely or not my body as whole. <-Some of you may find me to be exotic, some sort of strange creature to satisfy your (either homo/ hetero- sexual) fantasies from a safe distance and degree of security from the other.

Whichever the case. Do not worry I understand where you are coming from I do, after all I am product this same society that values submissive|fragile women which I am not and distant|violent men which I am not. I am too masculine to be feminine and to feminine to be masculine. Also too Fat to capitalize on the fashion|marketing industry instrumentation of the Androgynous image. Too Queer for any Binary

On the same vain (not vanity) as a Trans* Person of color I am Sexualized and most people think I am hyper sexual for this reason. I do talk openly about sex and sexuality with no reserve but let me suggest that its the former that gives people this perception. Quite simply people think that I am exotic|fetish therefor i have, must have, sex all the time... Which may or may not be those people wanting explore my exotic flesh...

...This however is not true... The following can also be applied to “Romantic” “Love”

Now back to me in the beginning I said that not Attractive|Sexy|Beautiful|Handsome by the social standards. By no means am I saying that is how I view myself, but I am not exempt from those standards. Not within myself or with how I see you. I have worked hard on my insecurities and trust issues. I am not near finished with this work after all it has been my life up until now to unlearn. More challenging is that it has been thought for generation now. This means that I still have my moments of insecurity which may be projected onto you.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a student of life. I want to live and tell stories; that is what I am doing with my life.
I’m really good at
What am I good at? Evidently not good at making up random things that i am "GOOD AT" This is the stuff I can not answer.

I do not like to say I am really good at things i like to do certain things like dancing, Photography, Fixing bikes, RIDING my BIKE! and poetry to name a very few. You can tell me if you deem it good or not.
The first things people usually notice about me
"You have some fuckin' style. You are a really snappy dresser."
According to an old roommate when prompted this question.

my hair since its all over the place
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I do not do favorites. And my my if I listed them, it would be a very long list. If you like to read or watch movies, we have probably seen/read at least one of the same things.
Six things I could never do without
Love! Love for what? Just love.
Probably food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I often spend a lot of time simply musing. Musing about the musings of others. The process of thinking itself is what I often spend time thinking on.

“As an act of bravery, love cannot be sentimental; as an act of freedom, it must not serve as a pretext for manipulation. It must generate other acts of freedom; otherwise it is not love." Pablo Freire

“What we say and what we do ultimately comes back to us so let us own our responsibility, place it in our hands, and carry it with dignity and strength.” Gloria Anzalndua

"i am wrong more often than I am right and even when I am right I am often wrong"
On a typical Friday night I am
Secretly wanting to be persuaded to do something though i also really just like staying homie and relaxing
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I urinated in a classroom once to prove a point. In a bucket. In the class. During class. To prove a point. Ask me about it.
You should message me if
If you find me at all interesting. Even if you do not, you should still message me because you are thinking about it. That is, if you were thinking about it. Not to assume that you were thinking about it.
If you want to:
Get food
Go on a cheesy date
Want take me out on the town
want to talk
The two of us