30 San Francisco, United States
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My self-summary
I believe in striving towards the elusive best possible version of myself. I believe "carpe diem" should be a battle cry to live a meaningful existence and not an excuse to make terrible life decisions. I believe masculinity, adulthood, and rocking out to Taylor Swift are completely compatible.

I don't believe in willful ignorance, anti-vaccination, participation awards, intelligent design, or midichlorians.
What I’m doing with my life
Adulting. Transitioning from attorney to tech nerd. Snowboarding, trail backpacking, and traveling as much time and monies allow. Watching too much Netflix. Catching up on impulse Kindle purchases. Crafting a life of meaning, exploration, integrity, and non-douchebaggery.
I’m really good at
Cadence in prose. Pulling off a three-piece suit. Traveling solo. Running interference on creepers. Playing with dogs. Traveling with minimal advance planning. Being a body pillow. Unexpectedly tomahawking my snowboard into powder, doing a front flip, and riding away laughing.
The first things people usually notice about me
Relevant OKC-related back-handed compliment: "You were cuter than I expected." Thanks. I think.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Focusing on one thing that impacted me recently.

Seneca - Letters from a Stoic. “It is not the man who has too little that is poor, but the one who hankers after more.”

Marianas Trench - Astoria. Part boy band, part pop-punk, part anthem rock, part Motown. I usually listen to jumbled playlists on shuffle, and this was the last album I listened all the way through multiple times.

Kubo and the Two Strings. Hauntingly beautiful and really well put together. My favorite movie of 2016 so far.

Rick and Morty. This show's ability to switch off between random, obscene laughs and right-in-the-feels gut punches is truly something special.

Yes please.
The six things I could never do without
1. Intellectual stimulation.
2. Integrity.
3. Athletic activity.
4. Exploration.
5. Generally good decision-making.
6. Good stories related to occasional questionable decision-making.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Staying relevant in an increasingly automated and flattened world. The out-sized importance of privilege and luck in forging a successful life. Sussing out the fine line between compromising and settling. The internet's infinite potential to connect and educate versus people's tendencies to self-segregate into like-thinking communities. The secret sauce of physiological and mental factors that make up romantic chemistry. Finding the best ice cream in San Francisco.
On a typical Friday night I am
Shamelessly infringing on Springsteen trademarks and being a boss.

In seriousness, I'm playing with other people's dogs, nursing a drink or two at a local dive bar, catching a show, taking it easy at home with Netflix and/or my Kindle, or on my way out of town for a weekend trip. I'll still go out in the odd hours of the night for special occasions, but I've broadly transitioned to valuing my Saturday mornings a hell of a lot more than my Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Somewhere out in the ether, a flat-bottomed black girl curses the random Asian boy who ended up with her badadonkadonk.
You should message me if
If you suspect I'm awesome, know you're awesome, and want to see if our respective awesomes are compatible.