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My self-summary
I just re-opened my OK Cupid account, hadn't used it since last summer. I have met some fascinating people on line but find that one can also overdose on it. So it was good to get away from it, exercise a lot, travel a bit, read all sorts of things, and think about what life means. Didn't come to any conclusions, other than Gogol is absurdly funny. If I ever get to heaven and he's there I'd love to have tea or vodka with him and ask him if he's been hanging out with Samuel Clemens.

After 20 plus years of living on the Upper West Side (thus the name) I moved to Brooklyn 2 years ago. I'm enjoying it. It's been like moving to a new city while still being able to work the same job and keep the some of the same friends. I've been a little disappointed that I have heard not one of those real Brooklyn accents yet.

Years ago I was an actor. Actually made my living at it for a number of years. But I didn't do the kind of theater that any of you readers would have seen, unless you were living in Alaska or Utah in the early 80's. Plus I usually had a mask on my face and was walking on all fours.

I gave up the stage to when it became apparent my two children would need to attend private schools, not something they mention in drama school. I can't complain though, my kids are incredible young adults, bright and funny and fully of affection. Maybe they inherited some of that from me, that will be up for you to decide.

I still love the theater and love the plethora of offerings here in the City. I'm a subscriber at three different theaters and try to go to others. I'm even thinking of trying to do some more of it myself now that my children are in college. I just have to brush up on the walking on all fours.

I love to laugh, and to make others laugh, failing that maybe I can just coax a smile from them. Many things make me laugh - Bill Irwin, Tina Fey, Samuel Beckett, Robert Benchley, Dorothy Parker, Groucho Marx, Buster Keaton, Stan Laurel, the many absurdities of life...

Since I was last online I managed to turn 60. It doesn't feel a whole lot different than 59 or 49 for that matter. I also grew a beard, it came in grey for some reason. I'm thinking of shaving it off, but waiting til it gets warmer.

The thee family pictures posted here were taken in January 2012, the dancing one was taken last summer. I know I'm supposed to post something more recent, luckily I have the grey beard as an excuse.

I'm looking for a woman I can talk to and listen to and write to and make love to and hold hands with and read with and walk with and cry with and laugh with. Not necessarily in that order.

I am not sure if I am an optimist or a pessimist or even a realist. Whatever "ist" I am, it seems to change when I'm not expecting it, sometimes several times a day. I don't mind. And if I did mind there's not much I can do about it.

I have lived in NYC for almost 25 years and I still adjusting to, but I consider it to be a wonderful place to live and work. Of course there are days when that subway ride is far too long, and the checkout line at Trader Joe's seems to stretch to New Jersey and I start to miss Portland, Oregon and San Francisco.

There are also many other places I would like to experience and would love to have an adventurous travelling companion.
What I’m doing with my life
I have a certain amount of financial security but still work a few too many hours. I've been working on not working too much but find that's a lot of work.

I'm a bit of a gym rat, hitting the weights and cross trainer but also taking Pilates, yoga and various dance classes. I occasionally even pretend I'm a good basketball player. No dunking yet, but I can dream.

It's been an interesting experience decorating my new place in Brooklyn. On second thought, "decorating" implies that I know what I'm doing. It's more like sticking stuff on the walls and seeing what it looks like.

I've been doing a volunteer reading program that last few years during some lunch hours at work. It's been fun to watch and hear my student as his reading skills flourish. Brings back many memories of reading to my own children.
I’m really good at
Telling stories, some true, same made up and some in between. I also love listening to a well told story.
I relate well to children (of course in the dating world that does not exactly come in handy.) Much of the performing I did earlier in my life was in schools, I had a grand time. Nothing like walking on stage to an full house of 6 to 10 year olds who are thrilled to be out of class and looking to be entertained.
I've been told I give a good massage, from reflexology on up. I enjoy doing it also.
The first things people usually notice about me
This is a hard one.
I guess they would think I'm quiet, a bit shy. That goes away once I'm more comfortable with a person.
The would notice too that I have a lot energy, whether at work or play.
I look quite fit, in shape, at least physically.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recently re-read the complete Sherlock Holmes and have been trying to use deductive reasoning to explain the mysteries of life to myself, without much success.
Favorite books would include Don Quijote, Dead Souls, Huckleberry Finn, anything Robert Parker wrote, Talley's Folley, To Kill a Mockingbird, Everything That Rises Must Converge, The Art of Fielding, Kafka's the Trial, Beckett's Molloy.
Movies - Les Enfants du Paradis, City Lights, The Usual Suspects, Dr. Strangelove, The Music Box, Streetcar Named Desire, Playtime, Toy Store I, II and III, Duck Soup, Shawshank...
Plays - Fiddler on the Roof, any of Bill Irwn's plays, Angels in America, King Lear, Waiting for Godot, Long Day's Journey into Night, Bus Stop, The Seagull, American Buffalo, Hedda Gabler
Music - Tom Waits, John Prine, Billie Holiday, Art Tatum, Memphis Slim, Don Giovanni, Rhapsody in Blue, Ravel's Concerto for the Left Hand, Pacific 231, Duke Ellington, Kris Kristofferson, Bonnie Raitt, Edith Piaf
Food - No red meat but I do enjoy poultry and fish. Indian Food when it's not too spicy. For the last few months I've been trying to eat Gluten free and have been pleased with the results. I sure miss a good loaf of bread though, the gluten free stuff doesn't cut it. I also like wild blueberries picked during a long hike, artichoke hearts, duck legs in red wine reduction, apple strawberry juice with seltzer, any meal prepared with love for someone as undeserving as me.
The six things I could never do without
My children, even if it's long distance
My close friends
Good dental supplies
A comfortable bed - comfortable has a wide definition
Something good to read
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whether my hands are too big or too small.
How all those strange people got elected to the US House of Representatives.
Which baseball statistics are most meaningful and why I want to know that.
How I had such incredible kids.
The numbers 4 and 7.
On a typical Friday night I am
Been trying hard not to stay late at work on Friday nights. I love the MELT and ballet barre classes at my gym that night, sweating away memories of the work week.
Then do some social dancing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ask me in private
You should message me if
You want to meet an interesting man and explore some of NYC together. If things work out we could explore other areas. Laughing makes you feel better. You don't take any of this too seriously, except when it's time to be serious.