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My self-summary
I've been rather reluctant to enter into the 21st Century. Ideal milieu would be sitting in my study writing a letter, on paper, to a friend. (Step 1: Acquire a study, Step 2: Acquire friends.) An introvert, I tend to be cerebral though not necessarily logical. I value "vertical experience" -- depth and mindful of events and incidents, not merely the sheer number of activities. I value empathy, compassion, maturity, intimacy, affection, sensitivity, humor, curiosity, the ability to contextualize, and the ability to love.

I'm usually willing and able to do or try most things. I can be an inattentive driver, and prefer walking to steering. Though not a gloomy fellow I have been able to maintain, thus far, a stable balance between spontaneous dancing and existential despair. Cuddling helps.

I am intelligent, self-conscious, and wondering.
What I’m doing with my life
Worked at a used bookstore for fifteen years. Now at a non-profit spot downtown.

Soul work/gettin' back to the root metaphor (in the Jungian sense).
I’m really good at
Living inside my head.
The first things people usually notice about me
Maybe that I'm looking off to the middle-distance, which seems to be my default expression, as if considering something or someone....or just...distracted.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am a hopeless cinephile, and spend a good deal of time watching and reading about movies. My longitude/latitude of scholarship are Robin Wood and David Bordwell, the crossroad being where Form and Meaning intersect. My aesthetic wonderland of choice would be the 1970s. Some faves: Chantal Akerman, Sidney Lumet, Ingmar Bergman, Chris Marker, Rainer Werner Fassbinder, David Cronenberg, Steven Spielberg, Hal Ashby, Robert Altman, Michelangelo Antonioni, Michael Cimino, Andrew Bujalski, Richard Linklater

Favorite reads: The Melancholy Of Resistance (Krasznahorkai), Immortality (Kundera), Re-Visioning Psychology (Hillman), Hollywood: From Vietnam To Reagan (Wood), The Cement Garden (McEwan), Dreams Of Chaos/Visions Of Order (Peterson), The Inner World of Trauma (Kalsched), The Last Temptation Of Christ (Kazantzakis), plus Gatsby, Macbeth and Slaughterhouse-Five

Musically, I seem to have tuned out once Michael McDonald left The Doobie Brothers so, yes, I'm mostly stuck in the 70s and 80s: Stevie Wonder, Sir Hall & Sir Oates, Joy Division, Blondie, Steely Dan, Electric Light Orchestra, Barry Gibb, Paul Simon, The Spinners, Echo & his Bunnymen, REM, The Smiths, Fleetwood Mac, Public Enemy, John Denver, ABBA, Tangerine Dream, Paul Williams, Giorgio Moroder...and Sam Cooke.

Podcasts: Generation Why, Womp It Up, On Being, Last Podcast on the Left, You Must Remember This, Pistol Shrimps Radio, Superego, Cinephiliacs

And I'm always on the lookout for a sushi buddy!
Six things I could never do without
1. close readings
2. autumn
3. cherry licorice
4. The Criterion Collection
5. my eyeglasses
6. shelves
I spend a lot of time thinking about
*Exile. (The feeling/act, not the band.)
*How repellent and lazy contemporary movie poster design has become.
*Taking an uninflected concept, framework or image and placing it over another...then feelin' the fireworks.
*Combining my love of Elliot Gould with my fixation on men's facial hair into one grandiose fetishism.
*Empty buildings. (Space designed for many yet occupied by few.)
*A canopy of clouds, a touch of frost.
*How to get my butt in gear.
On a typical Friday night I am
Maker's Mark, mates and/or movies.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can listen to "Never My Love" by The Association 38 times in a row.
You should message me if
There is an image, concept, dynamic, or archetype that really resonates with you. It gets inside you, feels electric, sad, nostalgic...makes your eyes go wide and your heart swim backwards.
The two of us