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My self-summary
I guess this will just become a rolling summary that can show a progression as time moves on. It gives some context and hopefully a better picture.

Life brings me back to the NW after a long hiatus. I am looking forward to reconnecting with old friends and family and to establishing new friendships in the beautiful Emerald City. Hiking and riding opportunities abound. Let's go!

I have returned to the bay to "settle" for a while. It's been a fun and adventuresome couple of years, but I am enjoying being near family again. I've still got the wanderlust, but for now I'm going to make my circles much smaller. :-)

I had been a full-time "technomad", or geographically displaced professional. I traveled full time via a small rv / motorcycle. I have been enjoying this lifestyle for a couple of years now, and had planned to continue for the foreseeable future. However, I missed the bay and seeing my family regularly.

The couple of years have taught me many lessons, most important of which, is to keep an open mind and to enjoy the ride. Life is full of wonderful opportunity and nature and people can be so beautiful.

I've lived many different 'lives'. I've been blue collar, military, and white collar. I've learned 3 languages and have forgotten most of what I learned (Japanese, Spanish, and German). I've lived on three continents and have traveled the world doing my passion (part time), which was volleyball.

Community service is very important to me. I've worked with Habitat for Humanity, Earthcorps, SeattleWorks, Young Professionals of Seattle, etc., etc. Future plans include some time doing volunteer gardening, youth mentorship, and whatever else may present itself.

I have many interests and lately have been doing a lot of motorcycle touring, backpacking, hiking, and camping. I love the outdoors and enjoy the discoveries made on a road trip. I am comfortable in all environments, from black tie affairs to backyard bbq's.

I see so many references in people's profiles asking for honesty, integrity, loyalty, etc. This is amazing to me. Why is this such a rare commodity? I approach everyone with the same level of trust and with integrity. I always assume the best in others, which I have learned makes me naive and vulnerable. However, I would not have it any other way. I do not want to live a life of fear and caution and doubt about those I interact with. I will, of course, be a bit more selective from now on, but I will still always extend trust and faith in others. I am looking for someone who can do the same.

I prefer responses that are thoughtful and show depth and give me something to build a conversation upon. A response of "nice pic", or "nice eyes", etc. give me very little to work with and tell me nothing about you.
What I’m doing with my life
Discovery! (Of self and others)

I just returned from a year on the Big Island of Hawaii. I went to study Permaculture and live in community. I discovered so many new things and adventures and built many new lifetime friendships.

I've spent the last couple years working and traveling all over the country. I've expanded my horizons and have had experiences I wouldn't have contemplated previously.

I have a master's degree in IT project management and spend a lot of days with my nerd hat on. I enjoy technology, but want to move to something that takes greater advantage of my passion for people and communications.

Current activities include web development jobs, business analyst consulting, and e-book writing.
I’m really good at
This section is a bit awkward to address, but generally, I am good at whatever I set my mind to do. One of the talents I'm most proud of is the ability to adapt and to solve problems creatively.
The first things people usually notice about me
Most people immediately comment on my eyes or my smile. How calm and laid back I am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite books: Any of George Carlin's books, The Four Agreements, 1984, God's Middle Finger, Jack Keruoac - On the Road, Dharma Bums, Hunter S. Thompson, Michael Pollan, Whitman, Thoreau....any good book really.

Favorite movies: 180* South, Fight Club (not because of the fighting, but the psychology and anti-consumer message), Monty Python (any of them), Old School, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Into the Wild, Pulp Fiction, The Big Lebowski, etc., etc.

Music: Radiohead, Blur, The Flaming Lips, Bach, Marilyn Manson, Ella Fitgerald, Blues, Bluegrass, Jazz, a wide array of music....

Food: I love all types of food, but sushi, Mexican, and Thai are probably the top of the list. Contemplating a "raw" diet...but will have to give a little room for a "cheat"
Six things I could never do without
Family, friends, food, water, exercise, love. (In no particular order)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time thinking (period). It can be about anything, but a lot of self reflection, a lot of how to be better and how to help others be better.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't really go out, but on a Friday night (as of late), I am probably hanging out with my brothers or some other family. I also just might be found out at a campsite somewhere ready for a big hike the next morning.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Let's leave some mystery.....but all you have to do is ask.
You should message me if
I was made aware that I don't state what I'm looking for in a match. This conversation with a concerned friend sums it up:

Ok, so I'm neediing some conversation here. What is your view of a perfect partner? Seriously.


A perfect partner is someone that accepts you for you...but doesn't. Meaning, they love you for who you are today without regard to who you used to be or who you might become. However, they wish for a life of growth together.

The perfect partner challenges, or better yet, inspires you to be a better person. Ideally, they don't do this through intimidation, or chastisement, or control, but by example.

A perfect partner is fun, can laugh at you AND laugh at themselves.

A perfect partner is intellectually curious and always hungry to learn.

A perfect partner is smart and knows what they know while completely accepting how much more there is to learn, I.e. not a "know-it-all"

A perfect partner is healthy in every sence of the word, spiritually, emotionally, and least important, physically (only because it must be recognized that health fails and we all eventually succumb to Nature).

A perfect partner is sexy, just has that look, that smile, those eyes, or whatever it is that just makes your blood boil.

A perfect partner is there. Period.


If you like any of the following and are willing to meet and have a good conversation:

Volleyball, mountain biking, hiking ,camping, rock climbing, art, photography, sculpture, community service, reading, challenging self and others, Boxers, Real Time with Bill Maher, beach, mountains, healthy living, espresso, sushi, baguet w/havarti, chocolate-peanut butter ice cream, Pinot Noir, Henry David Thoreau, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Flight of the Conchords
The two of us