the_empty_letter
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My self-summary
Bookish gent seeks readerly lady for romantic adventures in the city of big shoulders. I am: thoughtful; un-self-serious; incurably dance-y; empathy-prone. You are…tbd?

Tbd...because, like, there's no secret formula that I'm aware of for romantic compatibility. Besides, I'm not so presumptuous as to keep a tyrannical list of criteria that any partner of mine must meet.

I'm just trying to find someone I click with. Someone kind and funny and on the same page about stuff. It’s hard to predict clickiness and on-the-same-page-iness, but it’s easy to recognize when it happens.

So shoot me a line if that sounds like your agenda, and if you think we might match. OkCupid's a bore. Let's ditch this old website.
What I’m doing with my life
I recently got my Master's at UChicago, and right now I'm applying to PhD programs and working in the loop as a Procurement Analyst. My strong friend-group keeps me pleasantly busy outside of work, and the rest of my time is spent savoring the simple enjoyments of being a being.
I’m really good at
Ok lemme just trot out my selling-points like any upstanding denizen of the online dating realm. I'm great at karaoke, halloween, intense pondering, choosing the right superpower, and imaginary arguments with people who don't share my political beliefs (my political beliefs are liberal). I'm good at feigning expertise, which is handy when I don't know what I'm talking about, but less handy when I run into real-life experts. I'm not good at "living in the moment", or "seizing the day", or even "taking advantage of this city and all it has to offer." Those plainly aren't my strong suits. Here is my strong suit.
The first things people usually notice about me
The intensity of my enthusiasms.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
[Cracks open the old superlatives archive]

Books: Didion, Dickens, Austen, Wittgenstein, A Visit from the Goon Squad, Saul and Patsy, Little, Big, The Ask, Wolf Hall, The Age of Wonder, SPQR...

Movies: The Babadook, Dark City, Don't Look Now, In the Loop, Burma VJ. I mean I guess I need to spend more time in mainstream land? The latest Mission Impossible though. Super great.

Shows: 30 Rock (duh), Parks and Rec (the early seasons), The Shield

Music: The Magnetic Fields

Food: I'm an adventurous eater! It's hard to find a cuisine that I don't like. All vegetables (especially beets, eggplant and zucchini). Most fruits (especially strawberries and mangos). Team taco over team pizza.
The six things I could never do without
1)a quiet place to live and
2)read my books;
3)knowledge of spring and
4)the possibility of walks;
5)my lucky chair,
6)my fancy, pin-striped pants
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The filibuster. The metaphysical implausibility of the everyday. My own beliefs and what causes them. Other people's beliefs and what causes them. Paradox. Paradox. Paradox.
On a typical Friday night I am
Haunted by the memory of a typical Thursday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was voted "most shy" in high school. Now I'm a social butterfly! Who woulda thunk?
You should message me if
I'm a kind, sensitive, upbeat guy. I'm settled and stable but not boring. I love getting to know people, and I genuinely like in-person meet-ups, so message away.
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