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My self-summary
Today, I am an athlete competing internationally racing kayaks on turbulent oceans, and an entrepreneur who helped build an Internet company from scratch to acquisition by Google. But my pain-wracked twenties were spent coping with a debilitating, potentially disabling arthritic disease called Ankylosing Spondylitis. For a decade, life was a series of dull, gray days - today, even the simplest of pleasures are incandescent in their joy.

I am not religious, nor do I moralize, but I do have a strong ethical code. I don't lie, I don't cheat, and I only steal from the rich to give to the poor :-)

I read voraciously, and have a plethora of interests, particularly political and social history. Growing up as a lonely only child, I'm very comfortable and confident on my own, but I light up in the right company. I prefer small, intimate gatherings where one can really talk and connect - the best, of course, happen when I am talking all night on a beach with just one special person. And I'm very mature - probably because of growing up by myself.

The outdoors are very important to me. I sea kayak, trail run, backpack, hike and snowshoe, and am on my boat, or running on the trail, every day of the week. I'm not a thrill-seeker, but I do tend to push myself - which might explain why I've had to be rescued by the Coast Guard twice while paddling in exceptionally rough conditions :-)

Although I enjoy human powered exploration of the outdoors, I'm not a big fan of travel to cities - and that, I realize, sets me apart from most of the people here :-)
What I’m doing with my life
I was one of the co-founders of a company that changed the way people shop for fashion online, and now work for Google after we were acquired by them. One of the many positive side-effects of this enterprise is the development of my own fashion sense and the expansion of my wardrobe :-)

My most recent ex described me as "uncomplicated" and "stable" ... I never let my quest to better myself detract from my enjoyment of where and who I am today. I have few fears, believe in striving rather than hoping, and chase my dreams passionately without letting my happiness depend on achieving those dreams.
I’m really good at
Cooking, inspired by the many ethnic cookbooks I browse regularly. Bubbling on my stove right now, for instance, is a vegetarian posole with heirloom Rosa de Castilla beans, white hominy, ground ancho chili, onions, garlic and blue lake beans.

Never getting stressed. There's nobody better to be by your side when the chips are down.

Planning, making sure that the i's are dotted and the t's are crossed - while leaving room for spontaneity.

Surprising your friends - and mine - with how easily I can converse with them on the most esoteric of topics, from Stalin's indifference to the plight of the partisans in the Warsaw Uprising to the ins and outs of Californication (and I don't even have a TV!)
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes. Yes, they are mesmerizing. And - setting modesty aside - my athletic body ...

And, finally, how comfortable I seem to be in my skin.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am of the peripatetic school of reading ... like a butterfly, I flit from book to book in parallel. I like everything from mass-market novels (yeah, Tom Clancy, although his early books were far better than the stuff he's getting ghostwritten nowadays) to richly detailed political and economic histories such as the ones by David Halberstam.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably staying in so I can enjoy *all* of Saturday. Yes, I love waking up with the sun, i.e., early bedtimes
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not a party animal, far from it ... but my intensity and usual seriousness mask an incredibly sex-positive sensibility. Despite growing up in India, a land that seems to have forgotten the Kama Sutra, I was always free to think about sex and relationships from first principles.

Oh, and possessiveness and insecurity are foreign concepts to me.
You should message me if
You are vibrant, energetic, intelligent yet introspective ... confident, assertive and secure in yourself. And you feel you intimidate most of the men you meet.

If I had to create a list, I'd say I want somebody who is:
- smart
- passionate about something in their life
- fit, athletic and an athlete (and looks it)
- doesn't want (more) kids
- NOT into stuff (i.e., not acquisitive or defined by lots of expensive possessions)
- clean living, not a big partier (inconsistent with an athletic lifestyle)
- sexually open and experimental, although not overly into fetishes
- non-smoker, non-drug-user, at most a light drinker
- and (yes, I can be a little shallow), with a cute and well-rounded butt

And with whom I have chemistry ... which is always hard to pin down ...
The two of us