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My self-summary
Friendly dork. Introvert but not shy. Fat and happy about it. Unambitious. Distracted by bright shiny things, technology and gimmicks and novelty, while also aiming for a simple, decluttered life. Fannish, preferring the fun squee side of fandom to the angry shipping-wars side.

I'm a single parent of a teenage child who is an awesome, quirky and fun person. We have two ridiculous dogs.

I'd like to pull up stumps and wander the world for a few years. Not yet -- my child needs me to be in one place right now.

One day I'll have a small house (maybe a tiny house) on a block with enough space for fruit trees, chickens, lots of vegetables and maybe a goat. If I could score a larger block of land there would also be alpacas, but they're not essential. There will be a studio space for working on creative projects like fibre arts, sculpture, painting and ceramics. There will be water nearby--the sea, a river or a lake.
What I’m doing with my life
I write stuff for a living. I'm a technical writer, information architect, and knowledge manager. Sometimes I want to chuck it all in and other days I love my work passionately.

I love learning new things and might get a little obsessed with the new thing for a few weeks or months, then it gets thrown over for the next new thing. Currently it's drawing and painting. Last year it was bellydancing (but then the bellydancing teacher moved away) and watching roller-derby. Next obsession is anyone's guess.
I’m really good at
Knitting, technical writing, learning things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm fat and fabulous. (Some days I feel more fabulous than others.) My hair is very short. I'm friendly and I smile a lot. People generally feel comfortable and relaxed around me. I have coloured stars tattooed on my right forearm.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The favourite things grabbing my attention and love right now are usually on my tumblr:

Books: I'll latch onto a topic and read a pile of non-fiction books about it for a while, then move on to the next topic. Currently reading lots of books about sustainable tiny homes, survival in extreme situations, fat-related issues, drawing and painting, simple living, and Buddhism. Ask me next month and it will be something else. Favourite authors include Terry Pratchett, LM Montgomery, Jane Austen, Charles Dickens, Suzanne Collins, Patrick O'Brian, PG Wodehouse, Mark Twain. I'm also reading a lot of Marvel comics lately, especially the X books.

Movies: Ridiculous disaster movies like 2012 and The Day After Tomorrow. Most fantasy and sci-fi stuff. Anything with hobbits and/or giant robots. Movies based on Marvel universe comics.

Shows: Doctor Who, RuPaul's Drag Race, most things by Joss Whedon and/or Steven Moffat and/or Simon Pegg & Nick Frost, Better Off Ted, The IT Crowd, Xena Warrior Princess ... generally things that are dorky and fun and sometimes a bit dark.

Music: All genres. Favourite artists include Jonathan Coulton, Winnie Coopers, Stan Rogers, Candye Kane, Billy Bragg, Fleetwood Mac, Gaelic Storm.

Food: I don't much like cooking, so my favourite meal is one that someone else cooks for me. If pancakes were a nutritionally complete food I might be tempted to eat them at every meal.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Tiny homes. Living simply and wholeheartedly. Hobbits and giant robots.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have an anxiety disorder that was diagnosed more than ten years ago. It took 2 or 3 years of therapy to learn to manage it and I may be on meds for the rest of my life. It doesn't really get in the way of anything any more ... it's just something I need to be aware of and manage appropriately. Meditation and breathing exercises are good. So is being aware of my limits, and working within them.
You should message me if
You're open to the possibility of long-term relationship and are not simply looking for new friends or a casual hook-up.

(Casual sex can be lots of fun -- it's just not what I'm after right now. This doesn't mean I'm looking for instant commitment, or any kind of commitment really. Just that if there are things that you know up-front would preclude a long-term relationship, I'd rather know as soon as possible.)

You don't use the phrase 'politically correct' as an insult.

You think I seem to be hot and fabulous.

You think you're both hot and fabulous, or are willing to believe me if I say that you are.

You are a bit ridiculous and don't take yourself too seriously.
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