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My self-summary
I feel like I'm pretty much completely is that. :)

I prefer to be a lady. I think it's a nice, respectable thing to be. This is not to say that I'm 100% a lady at all times. I do like to let loose. I like to drink on occasion and I smoke but not too much (usually when I'm driving, or when I've been drinking, but I don't do those things concurrently). I'm not particularly attached to smoking really so don't let that be a deal breaker. I'd be willing to quit if it bothered someone. I curse, but not as much as I used to. If I could be transported to any period of time, it would probably be the 50s. I kinda fit the 50s housewife mold except for the excessive day drinking and the whole actual being a housewife. If you asked my friends to describe me, they would say that I'm very funny, and that I'm "the mom." I am very caring and nurturing. I'm very genuine and I usually refrain from saying things I don't mean. I'm kind of carefree and I don't mind making a fool out of myself if it makes someone else laugh, or even crack a smile. I believe a day without laughter is a day wasted, but I do know when to be serious.

Note...I am perpetually late. Although I always intend to be on time, I'm generally about 5-20 minutes late, everywhere I go. So if this is a pet peeve of yours or something that you find really offensive, you should probably steer clear of me. I always get started with the intention of being on time, I guess I just lose time somewhere between lipstick and bobby-pins. I dunno where it goes. Maybe it gets sucked into my hair dryer? *shrug* I just don't stress too much about time, and you shouldn't either. And...I really don't put any pressure on a "date." It's not the end of the world. I think of it more as meeting a potential new friend, with the possibility of more down the road. Dating is hard enough without the psychological pressure we put on ourselves to succeed in procreation...or whatever your goal is. That's just not my bag. And please don't ask me at the end of the date if I want to see you again. If I want to see you again, I'll call and/or text you and you'll know it. Just chillax, a watched pot never boils! :)

P.s. I have had an online presence for quite sometime. I'm not new to the online dating scene in any sense of the word. There are very few memorable experiences throughout those years, but I really want to have more. I am serious, and I want to meet someone who is also serious. Just take a chance :-)

P.P.S. I'm a very busy bee lately... I come and go from OKCupid often. I might get on here to check a couple of messages and poke around for about an hour or so, but then I will often disappear for a couple of weeks. My schedule is crazy and my life is wacky, unscripted and very spontaneous. I do want someone with whom I can share my life, but I'm not sure that I have the time to devote to a full fledged relationship at the moment. I'm the type of girl who likes to start things off as friends to see if we have anything in common or if we have any chemistry. If we message back and forth a couple of times and we seem to have some mutual interest in each other, we can trade numbers and text until it works out that we have time to meet up. I don't need someone who needs a lot of attention from the get-go. If it works out, I will shower you with attention and affection. If this is not appealing to you, I'm not the girl for you. :-) I wish you all good luck and look forward to chatting with you :-)
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently working as a waitress. It suits me. I like not having to think about work when I'm off work or what I didn't get done and what I need to do tomorrow. I like meeting new people and learning new things from my customers. I like the freedom it provides and I make enough to survive and sometimes save a little, so I'm alright with that. I'm thinking about possibly getting my jewelry business off the ground a little bit. I moved in the last 3 months or so and I haven't messed with it since then, but I've had the itch in the last few days to get it all out and tinker around. I would really like to get back into school to work on a degree in mathematics. I'm hoping to get back in to school for the spring, but it may be the fall. I haven't quite decided yet :)
I’m really good at
Girly stuff. I'm really really good at being a girl. I prefer skirts to pants. I usually do my hair every day in some sort of vintage fashion. I prefer the 1940s victory roll style or the 1960s bouffant. I've only been doing this for a couple years now, but I'm still really enjoying it so it seems to be something I'll be into for a long time. I am really good at making jewelry. I like to work with wire and melting/soldering silver (rarely gold because it's so darn expensive!). I'm very good at anything artsy/craftsy, although I'm not a very good painter. I tried it. It didn't work out so well. I'm fairly good at sketching, but I don't do it nearly enough. I do love it though. I'll attempt just about anything in the craft world! Just lemme at it! I'm very good at putting myself in someone else's shoes before passing judgement or making a decision or reacting to anything. One of my friends once said of me that my "empathy is astounding." I am great at giving massages. I have very strong hands for a girl :) I'm great at being helpful for anyone who needs my assistance. I'm a *great* listener, and a good problem solver. I'm pretty good at cooking, although I am still learning and experimenting with that. I'm pretty good at expressing myself both in written word and in conversation, but I'm better at writing.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair and my smile. My laugh is contagious too...someone told me that once. I think it's awfully loud when I'm having a good time, but I don't really care...if it's funny, I'm gonna give it a good ol' belly laugh! :)

If I'm being honest with myself, most people notice my figure first...notably my rear end. You'll know why when you meet me,but don't make a big deal out of this off the's not good for my long-term interest in you to initially focus *too much* on my physical traits. Don't get me wrong...I love compliments like anyone else and I love being made to feel beautiful, but don't make me feel like that's all you think I am... :-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books...hmm I don't read a lot. I prefer to be out experiencing things rather than reading about them.

Movies: The Piano, Batman (with Jack Nicholson the most, but all of them really), Big Fish, What to Expect When You're Expecting, Die Hard (all of them), Transformers (mostly the first one), The Secretary, The Big Lebowski, Thor, A Bronx Tale, Anything Marvel really, Tommy Boy, Talladega Nights, Crocodile Dundee, Lars and the Real Girl, hmm...there are several more I'm sure, but I can't think of them at the moment.

Shows: I love Trailer Park Boys and Mad Men. I quite enjoy Cheers, Roseanne, Weeds, Parks & Recreation (Ron Swanson is my fave!!) and several others. Lately I've been watching a lot of TV because of my weird schedule but that just changed so hopefully I'll be watching less TV. I find TV to be a time waster most of the time. I just get sucked in and lose all the time in my day that could be used for doing something more productive...

Music...this is where the list will get very long. I like ALL music except for angry music, and even that is sometimes ok when I'm in the mood, but that's *super* rare cuz I'm generally pretty cheery. So here's a short list: Raphael Saadiq, Paloma Faith, Johnny Cash, Otis Redding, Kate Nash, Gipsy Kings, Adele, A Fine Frenzy, Amy Winehouse, John Lee Hooker, Beethoven, Flatt & Scruggs, Vivaldi, Akon, Dean Martin, David Guetta, T.I., Ralph Stanley, Dropkick Murphys, Flogging Molly, Aaron Kamm and the One Drops, Pokey LaFarge and the South City Three...and sooooooo many more... as far as genres, I particularly love oldies (doowop is probably one of my favorite styles of music of all time! Music between 1958 and 1965 was awesome sauce!), blues, a liiiittle bitta reggae, Irish anything, bluegrass, 70s soul, *some* oooooold gospel (think Mahalia Jackson), and some hip-hop/dance.

Food: I've always been a super picky eater, but I've recently discovered that I love some of the things I wouldn't have dared to touch as a younger person, so I'm trying to be open to trying new things. It's a slow...gradual process, but I'm trying and I'm enjoying it as I go along. I've recently been cooking a lot. Since I've gotten my very own place I have no one to cook for, so I will generally invite someone or a couple people over and cook a large spread. Most recently it was fajitas with all the fixins including home made guacamole and spanish rice!
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where Earth's inhabitants came from, and what I can do to experience the things that life has to offer more often.
On a typical Friday night I am
One of several things... home cooking something delicious alone or with friends.
...out drinking with friends. home watching a movie or playing with the dog.
...doing laundry (sometimes I'm not that exciting).
...working...Friday's are big money in the service industry!!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes, in the middle of the night, I wake up and eat shredded cheese and drink a coke and go right back to sleep... I don't do anything that shocking to admit here...
You should message me if
You're intelligent. You know the difference between and use the proper forms of your, you're, there, their, and they're. You're decisive. You're polite. You're respectful. You're respectable. You recycle. You're funny. You're not a beanpole. You're not a drama queen/magnet. You don't do any drugs harder than pot. You can equally participate in a conversation and ask questions to provoke further conversation. You have more to say than "what's up" or "how are you?" You're looking for something that goes beyond a sexual relationship. Your approach to relationships is a traditional one (I.e. the man is the man and the lady is the lady, the man is generally in charge...but you're sweet and gentlemanly to your lady). You have a beard. Beards are my fave. You're tall. I like tall guys...but I won't necessarily discriminate. :-)
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