I prefer to be a lady. I think it's a nice, respectable thing to be. This is not to say that I'm 100% a lady at all times. I do like to let loose. I like to drink on occasion and I smoke but not too much (usually when I'm driving, or when I've been drinking, but I don't do those things concurrently). I'm not particularly attached to smoking really so don't let that be a deal breaker. I'd be willing to quit if it bothered someone. I curse, but not as much as I used to. If I could be transported to any period of time, it would probably be the 50s. I kinda fit the 50s housewife mold except for the excessive day drinking and the whole actual being a housewife. If you asked my friends to describe me, they would say that I'm very funny, and that I'm "the mom." I am very caring and nurturing. I'm very genuine and I usually refrain from saying things I don't mean. I'm kind of carefree and I don't mind making a fool out of myself if it makes someone else laugh, or even crack a smile. I believe a day without laughter is a day wasted, but I do know when to be serious.
Note...I am perpetually late. Although I always intend to be on time, I'm generally about 5-20 minutes late, everywhere I go. So if this is a pet peeve of yours or something that you find really offensive, you should probably steer clear of me. I always get started with the intention of being on time, I guess I just lose time somewhere between lipstick and bobby-pins. I dunno where it goes. Maybe it gets sucked into my hair dryer? *shrug* I just don't stress too much about time, and you shouldn't either. And...I really don't put any pressure on a "date." It's not the end of the world. I think of it more as meeting a potential new friend, with the possibility of more down the road. Dating is hard enough without the psychological pressure we put on ourselves to succeed in procreation...or whatever your goal is. That's just not my bag. And please don't ask me at the end of the date if I want to see you again. If I want to see you again, I'll call and/or text you and you'll know it. Just chillax, a watched pot never boils! :)
P.s. I have had an online presence for quite sometime. I'm not new to the online dating scene in any sense of the word. There are very few memorable experiences throughout those years, but I really want to have more. I am serious, and I want to meet someone who is also serious. Just take a chance :-)
P.P.S. I'm a very busy bee lately... I come and go from OKCupid often. I might get on here to check a couple of messages and poke around for about an hour or so, but then I will often disappear for a couple of weeks. My schedule is crazy and my life is wacky, unscripted and very spontaneous. I do want someone with whom I can share my life, but I'm not sure that I have the time to devote to a full fledged relationship at the moment. I'm the type of girl who likes to start things off as friends to see if we have anything in common or if we have any chemistry. If we message back and forth a couple of times and we seem to have some mutual interest in each other, we can trade numbers and text until it works out that we have time to meet up. I don't need someone who needs a lot of attention from the get-go. If it works out, I will shower you with attention and affection. If this is not appealing to you, I'm not the girl for you. :-) I wish you all good luck and look forward to chatting with you :-)
If I'm being honest with myself, most people notice my figure first...notably my rear end. You'll know why when you meet me,but don't make a big deal out of this off the bat...it's not good for my long-term interest in you to initially focus *too much* on my physical traits. Don't get me wrong...I love compliments like anyone else and I love being made to feel beautiful, but don't make me feel like that's all you think I am... :-)
Movies: The Piano, Batman (with Jack Nicholson the most, but all of them really), Big Fish, What to Expect When You're Expecting, Die Hard (all of them), Transformers (mostly the first one), The Secretary, The Big Lebowski, Thor, A Bronx Tale, Anything Marvel really, Tommy Boy, Talladega Nights, Crocodile Dundee, Lars and the Real Girl, hmm...there are several more I'm sure, but I can't think of them at the moment.
Shows: I love Trailer Park Boys and Mad Men. I quite enjoy Cheers, Roseanne, Weeds, Parks & Recreation (Ron Swanson is my fave!!) and several others. Lately I've been watching a lot of TV because of my weird schedule but that just changed so hopefully I'll be watching less TV. I find TV to be a time waster most of the time. I just get sucked in and lose all the time in my day that could be used for doing something more productive...
Music...this is where the list will get very long. I like ALL music except for angry music, and even that is sometimes ok when I'm in the mood, but that's *super* rare cuz I'm generally pretty cheery. So here's a short list: Raphael Saadiq, Paloma Faith, Johnny Cash, Otis Redding, Kate Nash, Gipsy Kings, Adele, A Fine Frenzy, Amy Winehouse, John Lee Hooker, Beethoven, Flatt & Scruggs, Vivaldi, Akon, Dean Martin, David Guetta, T.I., Ralph Stanley, Dropkick Murphys, Flogging Molly, Aaron Kamm and the One Drops, Pokey LaFarge and the South City Three...and sooooooo many more... as far as genres, I particularly love oldies (doowop is probably one of my favorite styles of music of all time! Music between 1958 and 1965 was awesome sauce!), blues, a liiiittle bitta reggae, Irish anything, bluegrass, 70s soul, *some* oooooold gospel (think Mahalia Jackson), and some hip-hop/dance.
Food: I've always been a super picky eater, but I've recently discovered that I love some of the things I wouldn't have dared to touch as a younger person, so I'm trying to be open to trying new things. It's a slow...gradual process, but I'm trying and I'm enjoying it as I go along. I've recently been cooking a lot. Since I've gotten my very own place I have no one to cook for, so I will generally invite someone or a couple people over and cook a large spread. Most recently it was fajitas with all the fixins including home made guacamole and spanish rice!
...at home cooking something delicious alone or with friends.
...out drinking with friends.
...at home watching a movie or playing with the dog.
...doing laundry (sometimes I'm not that exciting).
...working...Friday's are big money in the service industry!!