I have a strong sense of justice, which means I tend to speak my mind when people I know do something unfair or wrong, and wish ill-fortune on those who wrong me or mine. I'm also kind of okay with all of that.
I try hard to be honest. I value being able to take someone at their word very highly, and want to offer that comfort to others. I'm naturally secretive (not sure how that came about) and deal rather badly with embarrassment (I know exactly where that came from), so pure, forthcoming honesty can be a struggle sometimes, but really, this is all a bigger issue in my head than it should be.
I'm intelligent and mature, which is difficult for me to admit, partly because I'm not very knowledgeable. I hope maintaining my curiosity and seeking out informative, interesting books and articles will fix that.
My ignorance is part of why my confidence and self-esteem are low. The rest is a result of depression and a difficult childhood. Mentioning these things here isn't a request for help or to otherwise fix me. I'm just trying to offer a clear picture of myself. I know many will be turned off by these aspects of my personality, but I believe they have made me more introspective and compassionate, as well as better able to judge my capabilities and weather difficult situations.
I spend most of my time gaming and watching anime or other movies/shows, and I expect a certain willingness to share in those activities from anyone interested in developing a friendship. I enjoy exchanging favorites with friends. I like hiking, yoga, swimming, skating, and biking, and those activities are the bulk of my exercise (besides sex). I'm a homebody and not big on exercise (besides sex), though, so the occasional walk or yoga is all I usually manage.
I'm still working on finding life goals. I'm interested in languages, sewing, drawing, and voice acting, but haven't set aside much time to work on them yet. I've been teaching myself piano and Japanese (note, however, that I'm not a Japanophile) with my husband's help. Progress is slow.
I've been told hugs, kisses, and oral, but I really don't think those take much more than enjoying others enjoying things (and perhaps a bit of persistence), which I don't feel should be considered a skill.
Movies: The 13th Warrior, All of Me, Beetlejuice, The Brotherhood of the Wolf, The City of Lost Children, Conan the Barbarian (1982), Dark City, The Dark Crystal, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, A Fish Called Wanda, Gone with the Wind, Grave Encounters, The Great Race, Kick-Ass, Kung Fu Hustle, Labyrinth, Ladyhawke, The Last Unicorn, Leon: The Professional, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, The Princess Bride, Session 9, Shutter (Thai version, not US remake), Spaceballs, Star Wars (Prequels? What prequels?), Super Troopers, A Tale of Two Sisters (Janghwa, Hongryeon), V for Vendetta, Willow
Shows: The Amazing Screw-On Head, Archer (first season), Brimstone, Dune, Firefly, Frisky Dingo (first season), Garth Marenghi's Darkplace, The Kids in the Hall, Max Headroom, The Middleman, Police Squad, Red Dwarf (first season), The Tick, The Venture Bros. (up through season three), Whose Line is it Anyway? (UK)
Anime: My top anime for recommending to people are: Twelve Kingdoms, Higurashi no Naku Koro ni (badly translated as When They Cry), Crest of the Stars, and His and Her Circumstances. Other favorites include: Azumanga Daioh, Bakemonogatari, Berserk, Cat Soup, Claymore, El-Hazard, Excel Saga, The Five Star Stories, Haibane Renmei, Here is Greenwood, Kara no Kyoukai, Kino's Journey, Lupin III: The Castle of Cagliostro, The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya (definitely not the second season or movie), Memories, Mushishi, My Neighbor Totoro, Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind, Princess Mononoke, Puella Magi Madoka Magica, Read or Die (OAV), Shamanic Princess, and X (movie and series).
Music: I generally listen to anime themes, metal, Celtic, new age, and classical. I'm not going to go into specifics, because I don't want recommendations and haven't found conversations about music to go anywhere except with friends. I tend to prefer foreign vocals. I don't care about lyrics unless they ruin an otherwise good song, so listening to music in other languages works well for me, especially since I enjoy languages. I also prefer music with female vocalists, both because I like their sound, and singing along with them is easier for me. I enjoy singing, although it's difficult for me to do around people.
Food: I used be a very picky eater. I'm opening up to more and more types of food every day. Now, there is little I'm unwilling to eat. My favorite cuisines are Thai, Indian, Mexican, and Italian. I like spicy foods a lot. I don't cook much yet, but I love baking tasty desserts.
Games: I play board games, card games, and video games. Not board and card games like Pictionary or UNO, but more involved games that take strategy and wits. Age of Steam, Combat Commander, Dominant Species, Doppelkopf (Double Sheepshead), Duel of Ages, El Caballero, Glory to Rome, Indonesia, Kaivai, Key Market, Mecanisburgo, Tichu, Twilight Imperium, and Yinsh are some of my favorite board and card games.
As for video games, I play fighting games (Soul Calibur, BlazBlue, Tekken, Dead or Alive), racing games (Blur, Wipeout, Hydro Thunder, Splashdown), shoot 'em ups (Sine Mora, Espgaluda, Deathsmiles, Ikaruga), strategy games (Kohan: Ahriman's Gift, Tales of Maj'Eyal, Master of Orion, Disgaea), platformers (BattleBlock Theater, 'Splosion Man, Spelunky, Outland), action RPGs (Dragon's Dogma, Dragon Age, Diablo, Majora's Mask), and horror games (Haunting Ground, BioShock, Dead Space, Silent Hill). Note: Yes, I know there are new games coming out for some of these series. No, it doesn't make for an interesting conversation. I dislike FPSs, turn-based non-tactical RPGs (I'm looking at you, Final Fantasy), and MMOs.
For me, "friends" (and partners) means people who share at least several of my interests and attitudes. My "Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food" section and match questions are important to me (not that you have to read all the questions, I just get tired of people saying the match percentages don't matter). Fair warning: it really bugs me when people ask what games or anime I like, because I already put those lists in the favorites section. Read my profile, dammit. Also, I'm becoming increasingly annoyed at people whose profiles downplay or hide their existing interest in things I care about. If you do this, especially out of thinking it's not as cool or attractive, expect me to challenge/criticize you for it.
I'm serious when I say I'm interested in finding friends. I know a lot of people only see OkCupid as a dating site, but if I write to you, it doesn't mean I'm intent on dating you. I very rarely start a relationship with dating anymore. I've dealt with too many people who were interested in being "friends" only as long as dating was on the table, and that's not good enough for me. So, you should only message me if you're happy with being friends for its own sake. Likewise, if you're not interested in dating me, the most I will do is flirt, and I won't even do that if it bothers you. We can still be friends.
I should also note that all the things I enjoy doing with friends (or dates), I enjoy doing with my husband. If spending time with me is contingent on not having him around, you're going to have a very hard sell on your hands. I especially dislike it when someone's primary focus is that I'm female and/or young rather than my interests and who I am. Couples: please know better than to ask me to spend time with you and your partner without my partner. I'd like to have more couple friends, but there are limits.
I've found that people who smoke, drink heavily, or do drugs are unlikely to work for me as friends or partners.
While I welcome messages, and will reply to any I receive, if your message doesn't refer specifically to something in the written portion of my profile (picture captions don't count, interests preferred), I will act as though you haven't read it, and your reply will be this paragraph of my profile. Keep in mind that the standard response to such messages is to simply delete them, and you're not entitled to my time. Messages that do no more than complain about this paragraph will get you blocked, as will messaging me with no sign of useful common interests.
Seriously, this is not a high bar. Just mention a common interest or two. Let me know you have a reason for writing to me that I care about.
If you put all the work of asking questions and maintaining the conversation we're having on me, I'm going to get tired of writing to you at some point.
All of that said, I don't want to discourage decent people from writing to me. I'm surprised how much really obvious stuff I have to say here.