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My self-summary
I'm skinny, sweet, sardonic, sober, smart, humble, grateful, funny, flawed, and fetching (at least to some people). You should be at least a few of these things.

I like good writing, music that makes my heart hurt, sex with someone who can make my heart hurt, talking in bed, ice cream, amateur choreograpy, and lines that show what you've been doing with your face your whole life. I like knowing what my partner is thinking from across the room, being told the truth for the right reasons, and sitting on the extremely iffy recliner on my front porch at night reading a book.

I don't like (or am indifferent to) making money for its own sake, branding myself, networking, public notoriety, giant vehicles, Botox, waxing, real estate, lying for personal gain, guilt trips, polyester, and unnecessary rudeness.

I fit the Jungian definition of an introvert, i.e., someone who recharges by being alone. I will be very attentive to you when we’re together, but if you need for us to be together all the time there will surely be trouble.
What I’m doing with my life
A couple of years ago I started doing improv and it unexpectedly became a great source of joy and professional satisfaction. I now spend three to five nights a week either performing, watching, teaching, or coaching improv. (I'll spare you an elaborate explanation except to say that the kind I do is less like "Whose Line Is It Anyway?" and more like comic one-act plays.) I love it and am very serious about getting better at it. It embodies a lot of practices I was already trying to apply in my daily life: honesty, acceptance, unconditional love, being brave, taking responsibility for my actions, and surrendering to something bigger than I am.

To pay bills I work a series of not-very-lucrative jobs, usually involving the English language.
I’m really good at
Teaching, writing, copyediting, the New York Times crossword puzzle, listening, making people feel more at ease, showing affection.
The first things people usually notice about me
Height, hair, humor, intelligence, boundaries
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: 2666, Fat City, To the Lighthouse, The Idiot, Tao Te Ching

Movies: His Girl Friday, Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind, Out of Sight, To Have and Have Not, Wendy and Lucy

Music: My Bloody Valentine, Patti Smith, Elliott Smith, the Smiths, James Booker, Tim Hecker, Godspeed You! Black Emperor, Afghan Whigs, Four Tops, Shangri-Las
Six things I could never do without
A good pen, ice cream, sleep, books, music, physical affection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
... improv, how to access my subconscious, left-brain/right-brain stuff, long-term plans and how to implement them, how people very different from me experience life, what Austin would look like to me if I was visiting for the first time.
On a typical Friday night I am
... either playing an ungodly-late improv show or reading in bed and then falling asleep early with the light on.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm five years older than it says up there. Because a lot of people use 50 as an arbitrary cutoff point on OKC, in order to see more profiles I allowed myself this one lie, which I am now telling you about. (I could easily pass for 45, though.)
You should message me if
.... you want to, but especially if (m)any of the following are true:

You have a sense of humor. You read. You’re smart enough to see what's wrong with the world and you've decided to love it anyway. You like sex, maybe a lot, but you don’t use it as a drug. You're capable of calling me on my bullshit. You tend toward honesty, kindness, and compassion, either naturally or through concerted effort. You’re physically affectionate at least some of the time. You fight fair and make up with no reservations. You get your partner's back and expect the same.
The two of us