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My self-summary
First of all, I'm not going to lie or mis-represent myself or my situation (as so many guys do) in an effort to 'get some'. I am not going to mince words as to my true intentions, as I feel my intentions are honorable.

I am not your typical guy. While I like the Caps & Ravens, and drink beer, I don't lose all sense of tact and restraint in the presence of members of the opposite sex, and am quite the staunch feminist. As such, I feel a strong desire to apologize for the abhorrent behavior of so many of my fellow bearers of the Y-Chromosome. *Especially* when it comes to online etiquette, judging by the numerous similar complaints.

Now as to why I am here. The best way I can think of to describe what I want is an occasional mistress/gf/friend-with-benefits. [Edit: Usually, anyway.] I am in a committed yet playfully open (polyamorous/swinger-ish if you need labels) relationship with Tauna , [edit: but we're working on our relationship, so we're not dating much now.]

Now, I'm not really looking for rampant meaningless sex or to rack up notches on my bed-post. I just *sincerely* enjoy the company of women, I like making new friends, and enjoy some playful spice and fun in my life, which ideally includes sex, but is not the sole overriding motivator. You have to be worthwhile, not just easy.

I guess you'd say at this point in my life I prefer quality over quantity, so I can be a bit picky -- I'd prefer some mental and physical chemistry. As I am rather slender/fit myself, I'd prefer if you were height-weight proportionate to slender/athletic yourself. A couple extra pounds isn't that big a deal if you're awesome and there's chemistry.

I seem (and am told I look) a lot younger than my age. While I am interested in things like financial security and career development, I still love a good party and the occasional club night.

I live in Fort Washington and work in downtown Washington DC. I usually eat lunch alone, so that would be a great time to meet up.

I'm somewhat eclectic, outdoorsy, rather geeky, and highly intelligent, if random. If you get me going I can talk your ear off about a number of subjects...

I am Intense, Analytical, and Physical.
What I’m doing with my life
Updated 2/2014

0. Just got married! After a thirteen year long engagement!!!

1. We have a son, born 7/2008. Our preemie was less than two pounds, but he's doing wonderfully, and is the cutest little boy in the world! He just entered kindergarten and is obsessed with Minecraft.

2. My wife, a kidney and pancreas transplant recipient, is going to need a new kidney soon, so we're dealing with that. She's in and out of the hospital.

3. I root for the Ravens and the Capitals.

4. I like to get out kayaking as often as I can. I am training for a race on the Cheat River this spring .

5. Job wise, I work as a contractor for the government doing systems analyst/database management work for the Department of Justice.

6. I was actively involved in my local Lodge of the Ordo Templi Orientis, ordained Deacon and novitiate Priest in the Ecclesia Gnostica Catholica's Gnostic Mass. But haven't been to many events lately.

7. I'm also an amateur astrologer and astronomer -- I got my first telescope a few years back. (But I broke the focus knob on it.)

8. Still trying to optimize this phenomenon called life.
I’m really good at
(in no particular order) Litigation Support. Backrubs. Intelligent conversation. Pondering the meaning of existence. Geography/Map-reading. Dying hair. Knowing or researching random knowledge, thinking symbolically. Performing the Gnostic Mass. Savoring Islay single malts. Changing diapers. Loving the camera. Shopping for decor. or clothes. Taming PDFs. Concordance databases. Astrological interpretation. Making obscure geeky jokes that no one else seems to get. Getting in trouble.
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't know what the first thing people usually notice about me is, not being other people myself, though I used to get compared to Johnny Depp a lot.

Though actually, it might be that I like the Ravens, due to my lanyard or debit card.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I hate this question, so this list is relatively incomplete:

(a) I've read many books, most of them (since school) were sci-fi, fantasy, or philosophy, with a little scientific thrown in for fun. Time Enough For Love, Stranger in a Strange Land & other books by Robert Heinlein; The Inner Sky and other astrology books by Steven Forrest; The Tomas the Rhymer trilogy by Jodie Forest; Vernor Vinge's A Fire Zupon the Deep and A Deepness in the Sky; The Book of the Law, Magick without Tears, and other books be Aleister Crowley; The Snow Queen, World's End, and Summer Queen by Joan Vinge; Robots, Foundation & Empire series, End of Eternity and other books by Isaac Asimov; The Belgariad and Mallorean by David Eddings; Lord of the Rings by Tolkein; The Elegant Universe by Brian Greene; Dragonriders of Pern series by Anne McCaffery; Vampire Chronicles by Anne Rice; The Earthsea Cycle and other books by Ursula K. Leguin; Harry Potter series by Rowling; various series by Piers Anthony; Various and sundry occult books; Sandman series, Neverwhere, and other books by Neil Gaiman; Grendel by Matt Wagner; Lord of the Rings by Tolkein; numerous other books...

(b) I love movies. And certain TV series. Doctor Who, Walking Dead, Supernatural, Spartacus, DaVinci's Demons, Defiance, Leverage, Burn Notice, Farscape, X-Files, Battlestar Galactica, Stargate Atlantis & Stargate SG-1, LOST, Heroes, 24, House MD, West Wing.

This list is old, so new ones arten't on there and it's quite incomplete. Fight Club, Fear & Loathing in Las Vegas, The Watchmen, The Crow, Independence Day, Pirates of the Carribean, Lord of the Rings, TransFormers, Underworld (1 not 2), Kill Bill, the Matrix, The Cell, Cowboy Bebop, Evangelion Neon Genesis, Memento, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless mind, Exorcist III, Star Wars series, Speed Racer, Iron Man, many many more...

(c) I have a hard time keeping up with music. I like but don't know some of the more recent mainstream rock bands, though I like Muse, Amberlin, Fall Out Boy, Rise Against, Offspring, Linkin Park, My Chemical Romance, Paramore, etc. When I was collecting lots of music it was mostly darkwave/goth/industrial/EBM: Cruxshadows, VNV Nation, Beborn Beton, Funker Vogt, De/Vision, Mesh, Das Ich, Interrogation, Yveline, Siouxsie & the Banshees, London After Midnight, Front Line Assembly, KMFDM, Peter Murphy, Bauhaus, Skinny Puppy, Eminem, Evanescence, many more... I like to put on the classical station in the car sometimes for a change.

(d) I love ethnic food, when I can afford to eat out, but I love very rare tenderloin steak the best, which I cook rather well. Sashimiis wonderful. I like Mexican and Indian food, and Thai, Vietnamese and Korean BBQ, and good Chinese food. I love scotch, especially single malt, fine beer - my current favorites are IPAs, rich red wine especially cabernets or zinfandels, and occasionally rum. Dark chocolate. Anything with hazelnuts, especially when mixed with dark-roast coffee. Jasmine and Licorice spice tea are my current favorites. Turkey Hill diet green tea with honey rocks. I love cheeses, especially Gruyere, Camembert, and new find Chilean Panquehue. When I have pizza, I like it with just about every topping (except broccoli!).
Six things I could never do without
1. The ones I love.
2. fine food and exquisitely crafted beverages (aka decadence)
3. meeting new and interesting people
4. philosophy, science, and metaphysics
5. pretty things
6. Physical exercise/release/outdoors

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Verbs Nouns Adjectives Prepositions Conjunctions Adverbs
(Interjections say "HEY!")

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Life, Mind, Love, Will, Courage, Faith, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Inspiration.

and wikipedia, google, imdb
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whisky, Suits and tie combos,

And how money, worthless in itself, is symbolic of so very very very much more...how much perception rules the day.

The Human condition. Absolutely EVERYTHING at some point or another.

How to navigate the health-care system.

I think about things as they are manifested, and as they were designed (or how they incorporate a design) and as they were intended/conceived, and as to what inspired them. And I think about what things mean, most of all, and how they reflect the meaning of other things by contrast or similarity. Consciousness is a multi-dimensional array of beauty and horror and wonder and chaos of webs within webs within webs.

(My favorite thing to think about is how to quiet my mind....I've been wracking my brain over this for years, but I never seem to get it to work! ;P ) j/k
On a typical Friday night I am
Relaxing at home and recovering from the week, watching something, and getting some hang-out time with my son. Unless, of course, there's a social event we have planned. A Yummy beverage is a must!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm still trying to figure out how to be happy.
You should message me if
OMG you're still reading? Awesome!!

1. You kayak.
2. You think we'd find each other's company enjoyable and you'd like to get coffee sometime so we could see whether we get along in person.
3. You're in McPherson Square area during the day.
4. Or if you have something interesting and intelligent to say.
5. Or you just want to chat.

If you got through all this, I thank you sincerely, and commend you on your perseverance. Ciao!
The two of us