33Tacoma, United States
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My self-summary
NOTE: What is with young guys and thinking that 30 makes me a cougar? According to my husband I'm an ocelot.... A baby cougar. NO I WILL not fulfill your cougar/milf fantasies! Move along idiots.... (Maybe that was kind of bitchy but I'm annoyed)

Now onto the actual profile information:

I moved to WA in 2008 and left King county 6 months into my move here because I thought that people north of tacoma were far too pretentious for me. I'm a bit of a snob sometimes, but my god people!!! It's as if being politically correct and acting like your shit doesn't stink is is a religeon up there.....personally that's a bit too faithless and self involved for me. I tend to be traditional, and not, all at the same time. I am a walking oxymoron..... just like my screen name says. I am femminine, but not girly. I believe in respect. I think that people deserve common decency and earn the form of respect that they present themselves worthy of. Until someone gives me reason to believe they deserve less or more I treat everyone the exact same way.

I have 3 children....boys....they are amazing. I have a husband. He knows I'm poly.

I love to dance in the rain, well dance in the first place. I love to sing loudly in my car by myself. I have become less negative over the past few years or so, and try to surround myself with the healthier things in life. This is still a work in progress, as are many self enhancing and life enhancing traits I wish to acquire. I am always growing and learning. This is a core element to who I am fundamentally and I believe life is an adventure that is meant to be experienced in as many ways as possible. I used to skate but due to a series of unfortunate events it is in my best interest that don't. Anything else please ask more. I am as honest as they come.

I am vivacious, thoughtful, and intelligent.

I identify as gender fluid/queer but I am biologically female and love being in a woman's body.

Just a side note, I am a bigger girl. Please do not get it in your head that I am not. If you don't like bigger girls there is no need to write to me. I'm not interested in disappointing or decieving anyone. There are too many flakes and fakes in the world of internet. I am a heavier girl and that IS what I am, so no sense in bullshitting about it.
What I’m doing with my life
I am working on my self. I'm working on being the best mom I can be, and trying to be good to myself. I'd really like an excuse to make art, music, or writing with someone or someones.

I am in general on a constant mission for self improvement and becoming a good human. Not necessarily good as determined by the normative standard, but good as in being a solid, respectful, open person. Having the ability to live without fear and having a sense of fulfillment and completeness. I am learning to be vulnerable and accept that I am an emotional being. The biggest thing I am learning is to accept that I am falible and my mistakes are beautiful and may truly be the gems I didn't realize I was actually looking for.

Health is to further maintain my quality of life :) I really love learning..... really anything. Especially if it makes me a better, more tolererent, and understanding human being.
I’m really good at
dancing....singing....being mom...thinking....analyzing.... i'm a good friend..... a loyal lover (if you earn it).... being honest...
The first things people usually notice about me
my tattoos, or my eyes....people say my eyes are amazing
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love history and historical fiction, as a general rule. Neil Giemen is my favorite author, even though he doesn't write either history, or historical fiction. I also really like sci-fi/fantasy. Urban fantasy a lot.

I love Thai, Japanese, and Mexican food. Actually, I just like food, but those are the favs.

I'm not really finicky about movies. I like watching them. :) American History X, Bedtime story, Princess Bride, Corpse Bride, Stardust, Public Enemy, American Gangsters, A Beautiful Mind, Golden Compass, The smurfs was pretty funny. Pretty much any comedy are some of my favorite movies.

As far as music is concerned, put it on and I will probably know, or recognize something from what you put on. I love music. ALL kinds. They all serve a purpose and suite me just fine.
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My kids. I know this probably seems really mundane, but it's totally necissary. Kids take a lot of extra thought normally, but mine take slightly more than that. My genetic make up made them smart, and consequently made them challenging. Damn.

I think about my goals, what I want to accomplish, the fact that I'm still young enough to dream of doing ANYTHING, and what to make for dinner.

I think about work, buying a truck, learning to ride a motorcycle, and trying to make things. Becoming who I want to be both physically and mentaly
On a typical Friday night I am
Home. I can be found hanging with the boys, or friends. I like to kinda just chill on Fridays. Saturdays are when I get to feeling randy and want to just DO things.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm an open book....ask away. But, for the sake of the question, I'm really a hopeless romantic even though I play that I'm not in real life. Oh! And that I actually like cuddling..... and kissing means more to me than most anything.
You should message me if
You want to meet up for coffee,show me cool places to walk/hike, go to the beach.If you want to lay in the sun, or go wine tasting. You should message me if you know how to talk and hold an awesome conversation. If you like spunky, quirky girls...
The two of us