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My self-summary
Tall (-ish), (slightly) dark and (almost) handsome gentleman seeks...

Born & raised in Chicago, lived in NYC for a long time and now I've been here in SF for almost 3 years (Manifest Destiny, anyone?).

Some things you should know about me: Sarcasm and a quick wit are the quickest way to my heart. I don't wait for the walk signal to cross the street (thanks NYC!). I love to laugh. I am a loyal friend. I am ridiculously easy going. I am a dedicated music fan. I like the things most straight guys like: a properly cooked steak, watching/playing sports, a stiff drink, and women (though not in that order). I love to travel and have been lucky to see a lot of the world. I love wandering around book and record stores for no particular reason. I am not a "burner". I'm almost always clean-shaven. I like the room WARM. I almost always order dessert. I say "pop" when I mean soda (it's a Chicago thing).

I'm passionate about trying/exploring new things, whether it's new activities, food, music, places, etc. I'm a cautious explorer when I am on my own but really love trying new things when there's someone by my side to share the experience with.

In conclusion: my parents raised me right and my friends would tell you that I'm a down-to-earth guy. I'm just like everyone else: making my way through the world and trying to do it with a modicum of grace.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in finance for a startup in the city. Unique, right?!?

Aside from work, I try to stay fit which really means I go to the gym almost every day. Being fit/eating healthy is a priority for me so it should be for you too. Maybe you can tell me about your favorite running path in the city or show me your favorite hiking trail.
I’m really good at
Listening, laughing, keeping my promises, seeing the best in others, consistency, discovering new music/bands, taking fashion cues from Clooney, planning romantic getaways, finding great restaurants, encouraging others, admitting my mistakes and never, ever giving up.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I look younger than my age...I get carded on a semi-regular basis.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I think it would be great if we didn't like EXACTLY the same things and that way we could expose each other to new things. What a concept!?!

Books: I'm a big reader but I read non-fiction almost exclusively. Book suggestions are always welcome!

Food: I love trying new foods and believe that spending a little extra money on a great meal and good wine is one of life's great pleasures.

Music: Music is very important to me but I'm not going to list a thousand bands here. The right song has the ability to turn my mood around in an instant. Let's just say that I listen to almost everything and there is almost nothing I won't go see live. Going to "shows" is one of my favorite activities. I also sing in my car, pretty much always.
Six things I could never do without
(I'll assume we're beyond Maslow and the whole food/water/shelter part of this list)

1. My friends and family.
2. The prepared foods counter at Whole Foods (I would have starved to death years ago).
3. Internet/Books/Music - three way tie!
4. Physical exercise.
5. The Maps app on my iPhone and/or the GPS in my car. (I am severely directionally impaired).
6. A jacket in SF.

Honorable mentions: Sunshine, travel, long hot showers, good coffee, summer music festivals/concerts, good conversation, chocolate (dark), ESPN, Tottenham Hotspur FC, Pitchfork.com.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I am going to have for dinner tonight?

Whether or not my OkC profile is too long?

Why do people in SF need to wear gloves and heavy coats when the temperature dips below 60 degrees?

How to make sure I can make it to the gym today?
On a typical Friday night I am
NOT hanging out at Balboa Cafe. Nuff said...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have never taken a camera phone selfie while half-naked in my bathroom. Shocking, I know.
You should message me if
If you are looking for something that can evolve into a long-term relationship. If you know who you are and what you want from life. If you have an edge to you. If you have/enjoy creative outlets/hobbies. If you can feel special without creating drama. If traveling/exploring new parts of the world is important to you. If you are fun-loving, adventurous and looking for a partner in crime. If exercise/staying fit is a priority for you. If you are comfortable in your own skin. If you are thankful for the scars you have and the battles fought/loves lost/lessons learned from them. If you're "GGG". If you're ambitious and passionate about your goals. If you understand that you can still be a strong, independent woman and still value an equal partner and a best friend.

If you think a good barometer for a strong relationship can be measured in passport stamps (trips taken together), the size of your combined book and record collections, and the fact that you almost always hold hands.

If any of what you've seen/read here resonates with you.

Thank you for reading all of this. Best of luck.
The two of us