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My self-summary
Please don't bother writing to me without reading my profile. I will be able to tell, and I won't answer.

Obligatory FYIs: I am in a long-term relationship that has always been polyamorous. We got married in May 2012. I'm just sayin'. I'm also kind of kinky: switchy, with a preference for sensation play over formal BDSM.

I am a silly, introverted girl who is actively learning not to over-think things so much. My politics lean toward the socialist side of the Green party's platform, and I take them seriously, so if you're someone who thinks the welfare state is not a good thing, you should find someone else. I like video games, knitting, and my cats, but not so much that I don't also want to get to know new people. I am cautious, and can be shy, but am not actually risk-averse.

I am fast, thorough, and sharp as a tack (thanks OKCupid for getting rid of my favorite thing, the 3 adjectives for yourself).
What I’m doing with my life
Not a whole hell of a lot. Well, I guess that's not fair. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia this spring, and at the moment I am kind of on hiatus from everything while I deal with that.

I am quite passionate about small-scale urban agriculture, and in 2010 participated in launching a nonprofit that's built a couple of working farms in Seattle. I don't have a lot of money, but I'm quite willing to put my sweat equity where my mouth is on this.
I’m really good at
Cooking (I have a degree in culinary arts) and gardening (I kinda-sorta have a degree in that, too). How domestic.

I'm good at entertaining myself, so I am rarely bored. I have a crude and corny sense of humor, so this section used to say "I'm really good at cheesecake and double entendre." Hur hur.
The first things people usually notice about me
It used to be my hair (generally somewhere on the pink-magenta-purple spectrum), but my current glasses are kind of ridiculously blingy, so right now I think it's the rhinestones.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recent reads that I really enjoyed: Sex at Dawn turned out not to be the anti-monogamy polemic lots of people made it out to be, but rather a hilariously-written pop anthropology critique of the confirmation bias inherent in all the claims that humanity "is a monogamous species." One of the main premises is that, because there's no proof that monogamy comes naturally to us, people who choose it and do it successfully deserve more credit than they get. Bellwether by Connie Willis is the first science fiction novel to make me laugh out loud in a long time, and it did at least a half-dozen times. Really sharp and smart, and I was gratified to read some science fiction that wasn't space opera, and whose protagonist is (*gasp*) a sociologist. Highly recommended.

Video games are actually a more important narrative medium to me than movies; Bioware's Mass Effect trilogy and Dragon Age series are really, really wonderful. As far as TV, I just got one this past winter after living without for about ten years, but a friend got me ridiculously hooked on Supernatural. Oh, suffering mancandy!

Music: Make a Venn diagram out of Lady Gaga, Boiled in Lead, and Melotron. I'm in there somewhere. Wait, David Bowie should be in there somewhere too. Sooj's various iterations (S. J. Tucker, Skinny White Chick, Tricky Pixie) are all excellent. Basically, an unlikely mix of smart pop, folk with an edge, and Euro trash. ("European decadance and Las Vegas trash... zhis iz vat ve vant.")

Favorite food might be Italian. Or Thai. Or Indian. Or Vietnamese. Sushi's good, and how can I give up chow mein or schnitzel? It's easier to delineate the foods I don't like: I don't eat melon or cucumbers, and celery and bell peppers are only acceptable if they have been cooked way down. I've got the genes that make cilantro taste soapy and grapefruit taste like burning tires. I have mixed feelings about mushrooms (but it's hard to say no to morels or chanterelles). I have never met a cuisine I didn't like, although super hot chilies are hard on me (no hot cock sauce for me, thanks).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Social justice, urban agriculture, cat toys and dick jokes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching Supernatural (and Sleepy Hollow, when it's on) with mah ladies! Or else stomping toadstools. Resistance 4eva! (*cough* yeah, I play Ingress.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have actually met up with a fellow who wrote me one of the "hey, I'm visiting from out of town, want to meet up and fuck?" mails, and did have sex with him, and have remained friends-of-a-sort (long-distance FWBs?). The reason he succeeded at this where so many fail is that his first mail to me was three substantial paragraphs, humorous and smart, featuring things like correct uses of "per se." Let this be a lesson. (He's also pretty cute, but I wouldn't have gotten as far as looking at his pictures if the message had been the usual "hey wats up i'll be in seattle next week wanna party" bullshit.)
You should message me if
You read my profile and think it's smart and funny. Your own profile is smart and funny. Sensing a theme here? Also, you're poly and not looking for a primary/anchor-style partner -- I wouldn't call myself polysaturated, but I definitely don't have more than one night a week to offer someone new.
The two of us