whatimeantosay1
30San Mateo, United States
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My self-summary
My name is Meredith. My husband and I are looking for couples to double date (platonically, but we can leave the door open for romance). Additionally, I am always looking for fabulous women for platonic fun.

I finished my BA in anthropology in 2012 and now I'm working as a legal secretary. I started my own personal organizing company (Simply In Order), and its starting to take off! Woohoo! Let me know if you need your garage organized.

I'm very crafty/domestic. I knit, sew, bead, and I can crochet and embroider, too. I love cooking. I graduated from culinary school in 2006.

I like animals, especially little dogs. Taking your dog for a walk would be an excellent date. Maybe your dog and my dog can be buddies.

I'm very interested in astrology. I'm a double Libra and Pisces Moon, in case you're wondering. I also love all kind of other personality tests. I'm a type 1 re: enneagram, and I fluctuate re: Myers-Briggs. Used to be very introverted/intuitive but now moving towards center/sensing. Otherwise, TJ is fairly stable. My love language is acts of service, followed by quality time.

I like to go dancing (though I'm not very good at it), and I'd rather drink at a club than a bar because I'm not a very good conversationalist. (I'm getting better as I get older- bonus!) I don't believe in talking to fill silence. If I don't have something to say, I don't say anything.

(Sigh. Now I work in a very casual office environment so this next paragraph barely applies. Give me a reason to dress up, and I will!)
I'm very into this vintage/pin-up girl look, so I try to do my face and hair every single day. I wear a lot of dresses and other vintage-look stuff. I've posted a couple photos of this. Also, Marie Antoinette was one of my more recent fashion fixations. I'm trying to work some 18th century France into my normal clothes, but it's tough. *shrug* Ostrich feathers are just hard to pull off as a daytime look.

I am candid, impatient, and playful.
What I’m doing with my life
I just recently started taking clients for my new company- Simply In Order, professional organizing. I'm still working my day job but my goal is to be self-employed.

I'd like to travel more. In 2008 I went to Egypt and Paris (check my flickr account for photos!). We went to Morocco in October 2013 for our honeymoon. I'd like to travel more in Europe and go to South America.

My ambition is to be a student for the rest of my life. Learning and education are important and fun. I am taking quilting classes, just took a class at The Crucible on LEDs, am working on several costumes for Costume College as part of my GBACG membership, today I am taking a millinery class, and I would like to take calligraphy and belly dance classes. Join me?

I am also busy being a stepmom (my stepdaughter is 15) and mom to my toddler. Speaking of step-daughter, I would love to meet singles or couples with children of approximately the same age for dinner parties/ double- or triple- dates, mother/daughter events, etc. Also moms of toddlers for socializing, especially moms with similar philosophies (home birth, breast feeding, co sleeping etc).
I’m really good at
... being domestic. Knitting, cooking, sewing, designing stuff, organizing, helping out in general. I love learning new skills.

I also love to play and I'll drag you in if you're even a little willing. I think it's important to remember how to pretend and have a good time doing things like riding carousel horses and playing on a playground.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am almost always overdressed for every occasion. Especially casual ones. (SF guys take note- no teeshirts on first dates.)

I've been told that I seem "mysterious." Whatever. Someone suggested "detached," which I feel is a good word. If you're very observant, you might notice the way I scurry behind friends or run away when being introduced to people. It's not that I don't like you, I promise. If I didn't want to meet people, I wouldn't have a profile here, n'c'est pas?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I like retold fairytales, biographies, historical fiction, popular nonfiction. I hate the entire "short story" genre. Character development is important to me. I loved Game of Thrones. I'm also reading a book on Russian aristocrats during the 1917 revolution, and a book about Patty Hearst. And various picture and board books. Over and over.

Movies: Johnny Depp is the hottest guy on earth (physically, anyway), so any of his films. He's also an amazing actor. So is Audrey Tautou, and Meryll Streep. My favorite film of all time is The Bridges of Madison County, which is a cry-your-eyes-out film about a lonely housewife in Iowa and her lost love-of-her-life. The acting is incredible. It's based on a book, which is equally sad, and equally cheesy. I also cried during Gone with the Wind. I love sad movies.
I tend to pay more attention to the use of light and color in films than the actual plot, so beautiful films like Marie Antoinette (2006) and Velvet Goldmine are high up on the list. Also (unrelated) I like old films set in San Francisco, for obvious reasons. I like to see films in old theaters, too, like the Castro theater. I saw Milk there. That was emotional. Speaking of the Castro theater, I am *loving* the sing-a-longs. So far I have been to Beauty and the Beast, Wizard of Oz, Grease, and Little Mermaid.

Music:
I LOVE mashups. Period. You want to go to Bootie on Saturday?
Also...
-Musicals (Wicked, Phantom of the Opera, etc)
-Goth (Cure, The Smiths, Siouxsie, Voltaire, Cocteau Twins, Bauhaus, My Life with the Thrill Kill Cult)
-Disco/Gay Pop (Scissor Sisters, George Michael, Lady Gaga, Mika)
-Motown/Oldies/Philly Sound (Elvis, The Temptations, The Spinners)
-Bluegrass/Folk/Blues (Bonnie Raitt, James Taylor, Alison Krauss, Cat Stevens, Indigo Girls, Ani DiFranco)
-Burlesque doesn't really fit in the folk categories, even though it's jazz/blues.
-Lots of classic rock, the cornier, the better.
And other random stuff. Music is not really my thing like it is for other people. Prefer to not listen to recent R&B, recent rap, or recent country. I know. Typical. I'm way more into...

Podcasts: I'm adding this because it kind of goes with music/interests/books. I listen to BBC History Hour, History Extra, Great Lives, RadioLab, Slate's Culture Gabfest, Memory Palace, The Psychology of Attractiveness, Backstory, Archaeology Channel, This American Life, Death Sex Money, The Heart, S-Town, On the Media, etc etc (so many more). Please recommend things. I love history, psychology, human interest, I can even get into good diaries.

Food: non-spicy Indian food (the flavors are so intense- why cover it up with spiciness?), French-fusion just about anything, "new American" cuisine, Italian food (unoriginal, but comfortable and good), sushi, Americanized Chinese food (takeout), vegetable soup (homemade, please), risotto, portobello mushrooms (marinated and grilled), lamb, steak, waffles, pizza (of course, but hold the pepperoni and sausage, please), and a ton more. And anything my mom ever made.

By the way, vegetarians or vegans need not apply. I think my last boyfriend becoming a vegetarian contributed a lot to our break up. SRSLY. Not kidding.
Six things I could never do without
a to-do list
internet
portable music
something to read or knit (or embroider!) (or quilt!!)
iPhone
an excellent selection of kinda high-end restaurants with fully stocked bars (so many places do not keep mint, or cream, or even peach schnapps! wtf?!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
my baby boy (he's getting so big!)
fashion, historical fashion
home improvement (bought our first house Dec 2016)
making stuff
chort0
kids and discipline, literacy, pregnancy, child development
polyamory and alternative relationship structure
social dominance and hierarchy
my Google calendar
my little sister growing up
efficiency and organization
On a typical Friday night I am
Relaxing at home after a busy work day. I barely ever go out anymore. This is a major problem. My favorite club is Bootie at DNA, though I don't really like the crowd anymore. I also like Hubba Hubba and burning man parties in the summer. I also love costume events, like the Edwardian Ball, Dickens Faire, and renaissance festivals. Getting dressed up is half the fun (at least)! I'm going to go to more costume events this year with the Greater Bay Area Costume Guild. Please invite me to anything that I can dress as a pirate for. Thank you.

I'd love to find a happy hour on the penninsula, and maybe a book club where we mostly drink wine and not talk books, though books are good too.

My favorite bar is Bourbon and Branch- you must have a reservation for it because they book out fast. Exclusivity is sexy, no? (And now Bourbon and Branch is ruined by dudes wearing jeans. Guys, really- no jeans! How about tiki bars instead- Longitude in Oakland? *eyebrows*)

If you see me out, please do say hi. :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm really an open book.
You should message me if
...you are a gentleman, with elegant table manners, a dapper dresser, looking for a lady for his arm. Same guidelines for a woman. Lots of machismo, please. My sexual orientation should really be "heteroflexible," since I'm mostly interested in men or masculine women. If you are a woman who can pull off the rolled up shirt sleeves/vest look, please, message me. Immediately.
...you know how to behave in public and be an adult, but you don't take yourself too seriously.
...you are not looking for an exclusive relationship. I also am not interested in participating in cheating (got some really weird messages recently).
...you are a mythical hot bi babe (I am one myself), and you'd like to play with me or me and chort0. We're not trying that hard, I'm sure someone will find us when the time is right.

On a completely different topic, message me if you are the parent of a teen who would like to get together for a play date. We are looking for girls or boys who are interested in robots, anime, Legos, board games, cosplay, etc etc. OR if you are mother of a toddler (12-24 months) for mommy/baby play dates.

I changed my "looking for" section to include casual sex. I am terrified of the responses to that. That is just re threesome with cute boy or girl, and yes there is a one or two date minimum, for god sake. Also, please get tested. Eww. *crossing fingers*

I hate emailing back and forth. If I like you, I'll give you my number and just text me like an adult, okay?
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