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My self-summary
We've just had a kid! Yay! We're back to open, but we're exhausted, so.... :D


I'm in an open relationship with findbeast. She's an amazing, open, honest, authentic human being that makes me feel safe. I am a lucky man. :D

Together, we are looking for a few awesome, interesting, kind, emotionally healthy couples for FWB. Benefits include board games, dinners, adventures. :D

I'm looking for connections with awesome people.

We've also just had our first kiddo together. We are now parents, with all the free time that entails. :D

I am an easy going guy that just wants to live well, simply, be surrounded by good people, and have interesting work to do. I usually have too many crafty projects going on, and that's just how I like it.

I'd rather spend an evening on the beach playing music around a campfire with friends, or spend time with our legs crossed reading a good book in the shade than go shopping. I don't own very much Stuff, and I like it that way.

I built my own Tiny House, and have started a Tiny House co-op in Portland with some amazing friends. Edit: OMG I love living with awesome people! It's going well and I'm really feeling like I found my Tribe.

I only buy secondhand clothing or clothing made well. Good running shoes are hard to shop for when you're a conscious consumer. :D

I enjoy hiking, trail running, riding my bicycle, tinkering, playing music, listening to live music, dancing, gardening, reading, playing in my shop, etc. I own a sewing machine and know how to use it. I'm trying to stick to a morning yoga routine. I can crochet. I made chef's knives from old saw blades when my house needed some. I like projects.

I'm a bit of a daydreamer, but I put my daydreams into action. I think failure is a good thing. It's far better to make the attempt than never try. Failing is how we grow. Failing is how we succeed. :D

I'm a firm believer that there is no one correct way to live. Live and let live.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm trying to be a really good dad and partner.
I am nurturing a Tiny House co-op in Portland
I am open sourcing the design for a CNC wood mill.
I do volunteer work weekly down at Free Geek.
I work with Wolf PAC to get money out of politics.
I'm halfway through an electrical engineering degree.
I'm dating. :D
I’m really good at
I'm really good at building/crafting things and not worrying.

I'm also really good at not knowing how to do stuff, consulting the internet until I DO know how to do stuff, and then doing it. I think it's a GREAT time to be alive, just for this, and I'm glad I'm old enough to remember a time when we had to go to the library for knowledge just so I fully appreciate what humanity has now.

I'm apparently good at massage, or so people tell me. I 'dunno, I just do what would feel good to me. :)

I have spent the last decade working with folks that identify as conservative. I do not. I've gotten good at recognizing when I'm reacting instead of listening, and have come to the conclusion that you can't change people. The best you can do is understand, extend empathy, be an example, and bust stereotypes. When you argue, you get defensiveness. When you listen you gain trust. I'm not always good at this, but I see it, and that helps.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm usually whistling and smiling. I don't own a comb and I cut my own hair. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Oh, naming a favorite is too hard. It's all dependant on mood.

I love good scifi and fantasy, and occasionally BAD scifi and fantasy. It's a thin line. :D Terry Pratchet? The old Conan stories? Barbara Kingsolver? Cory Doctorow? Ishmael? Ender's Shadow? I enjoy non fiction if it's well written and interesting. The Selfish Gene? Omnivore's Dilemma? Sex at Dawn? I love expanding my knowledge.

I don't own a TV, but I am rather addicted to Game of Thrones. I grew up with Dr. Who, and have really enjoyed the new ones. Everyone raves about Tenant(and rightly), but Eccleston doesn't get enough love. :D Miyazaki seems incapable of making a bad film.

I enjoy all music, but love bluegrass, folk, and good jazz. I love Miz Kitty's Parlour Show, Vagabond Opera, and when I need a quick fix of bluegrass/old timey, I hit up the bubbaguitar calendar and pick something random. My car radio is set to NPR, KBOO, and KMHD(local jazz station). I LOVE Slim Gaillard.

As for food? I have a favorite. Anything from Proper Eats. A bowl of Mac from Le Bistro Montage is pretty good too.
Six things I could never do without
My tribe, my guitar, my laptop, an internet connection, and my bicycle. That's only five. EDIT: Perhaps I need access to shop tools. I can MAKE a guitar. And probably a bicycle. :D

I guess the last would be meaningful work. I want to do work that is rewarding and gives back. I currently work for "The Man", and that's starting to suck. I have a plan, and it's underway. :D

Now that I have a kiddo, I have to say. Coming home from work and having her beam that beautiful smile at me and crawl toward me to tug on my pants is... Woof. Powerful stuff....
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I really should be practicing my guitar.....

I am really enjoying the community around Tiny Houses. I got a LOT of help building mine, and am helping people build theirs. I've gotten to know a lot of cool people and have expanded my Community.

I spend a lot of time thinking about CNC machines, my CBG business, programming basics, politics, and Nothing. I really do like to veg with a good book.

Esoterically, I also muse about the importance of infrastructure to our society. I do not think this gets enough attention from people.

Also, I grew up very Rural. I've been trying to examine my own attitudes. I want to be a good person, and hanging out with feminists and People That Give A Shit has made me a little introspective. This runs into my own propensity to just say "No Worries" and ... well, not worry. In short, I'm engaged in a melee with my own ego. I'm not sure who's winning, but I'm learning a lot. :D

When did everyone turn Poly-amorous. Is Poly-Lustorous(shiny?) a thing? :D No worries, but it's a fascinating cultural trend.

My wife and I had a kiddo, and this is making me think about the example I want to set and how I can be a good Dad. There are so many interesting books on child development!
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm not a partier. Hanging out with friends, eating yummy food, and playing stupid board games is a perfect night for me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am soooo afraid of heights. Yes, to the point that my ability to go climbing is restricted. Grrr...

I want to be a super villain.

I have a high libido. I've experimented a bit, but found that Fantasy is usually better than Reality. :D Really, sex on the beach is SANDY. Ow. I have found that I need my brain stroked. I enjoy sensuality, taking my time, exploring, nibbling, .... Ahem. I like sensuality. I like sex. I enjoy roleplaying and erotic literature. I'm GGG. It's good when it's liberating and safe. Porn? Sure, but I don't want my money to support a fucked up industry so I try to be careful about my consumption. I only boff people I like and respect. I just want to be honest about it. I won't be happy with once a week vanilla sex and communication is so very important on this topic. I'm a little afraid that writing this here is driving people away. Really, I think about lots of stuff besides sex. It's just important to me to be honest about it.
You should message me if
You should message me if you're a conscious person who wants to make the world a better place, if you enjoy hiking, if you enjoy wandering around Portland taking in all the quirky stuff, or if you're just looking for someone to play fun music with.

If you're a Maker, and want to discuss a cool project, or a potential collaboration, write me!

If you want to teach me to windsurf this summer, or learn with me... Please write me. :D

If you want to talk Poly stuff, I'd love to hear your situation. It's fascinating to me. :D

Or if you think findbeast and I are awesome and you want to hang out and chat, write me.
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