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My self-summary
I love adventures: board games, movie night, walking down the park, futzing around in a library, setting things on fire, robbing a museum, just casual things.

I'm an outgoing introvert, so I'll chat up strangers for hours but love drunk craft night with friends/working alone/making out with someone I'm mentally intimate with.

I'm passionate when it comes to learning and am fairly ambitious, and I like people who are similarly engaged with progressing their lives. It's important for me to be excited about my city and my own life, and I gravitate towards others who exhibit a similar sort of joie de vivre.
What I’m doing with my life
I get cyclically invested in: writing, embroidery, fitness, hiking, cooking, woodworking. Constantly educating myself about oppression, power, and subversion. I want to be a lady-in-waiting and a lumberjack. After all, gender is a performance or some shit, Butler said [citation needed].

Werk stuff: I write columns for magazines, short stories, and work in people operations at a tech company (and let's be real, you probably work in tech too)
I’m really good at
I'Il tell you what I'm bad at: getting pop culture references that aren't John Cena-related, knowing 'appropriate' times to tell stories, remembering to eat when I'm embroiled in a delicious book, understanding fine wine
The first things people usually notice about me
My resting bitch face, which vacillates between 'angry' and 'constipated.'
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books/Movies - GG Marquez/Yiyun Li/Junot Diaz/Kazuo Ishiguro. Gaiman for some fantastically humorous writing. I love sci-fi and cross-genre work. Historical biographies (Destiny of the Republic) are really great too! Does anyone else develop deep crushes on historical figures? For me it's Madame de Pompadour and President James Garfield. Check out how he was elected, it's hilarious.

Music - My perfect Pandora station: Chopin, Gottschalk, Clazziquai, Janelle Monae, Justice, and Glass Animals. Throw some Biggie in there too.

Shows - There is no show I watch that distinguishes me from the Austinite doctor-who-and-game-of-thrones crowd. Recent pleasure: Black Mirror. Brazen pleasure: RuPaul's Drag Race.

Food - I cook a lot - the hotter the better. If there were a spicy food question, it would be set not even at mandatory, but exclusionary. Listen - Chinese people have an actual word for those who don't like spicy food, and it's not nice.
Six things I could never do without
1. my extensive collection of pens
2. books
3. nail polish
4. sriracha
5. bitchy-looking shoes
6. the young human skin I wear
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be a better person. Literary and cultural analysis. Strange or beautiful things to do in Austin. Kindnesses towards other people.

Send me some longforms and I'll send you back my feelings charted on Excel.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hanging out with friends, hitting up strangers, cooking senselessly elaborate meals because I get urges for everything at the worst times.

I like experiences over things. Especially when it's the experience of fine Italian leather over starchy polyester.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have two laughs: a pretty giggle that I practiced in the mirror as an insecure teen and a guffaw so crude that I'll actually drool.

I'm poly/open (not currently in a primary-type relationship), so if you message me please keep that in mind (I don't mind if you aren't, as long as you don't mind that I am!).
You should message me if
You're a lover of queer politics
You read fantastic things (preferably with great statistical analysis or anthropological data, or something postmodern that isn't motherfucking Franzen)
You're a terminally ill and extremely rich person
You have a favorite historical epidemic
You're down for long conversations about incredibly intimate things, and getting into the weird nitty-gritty
You wanna do something most people think is boring (aka bingo nights/going to university lectures)
You're amused by terrible dancin and romancin

Also, my POC, femme, queer community - hit me up!
The two of us