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My self-summary
*Queer Chubby Babe*
Outdoorsy. Musician. Massage therapist. Cook.

Trying to find the balance between my playful (somewhat hedonistic) tendencies, and a strong desire to work hard, connect with the world around me, and build something I'm proud of.

Really into intelligence and open-mindedness. Brimming with adjectives...and expletives.

Hippie-geek hybrid sort of thing.

I like working with my hands. (Massage, music, cooking, painting/drawing, console gaming, target practice, wood chopping, gardening and occasionally building things...)

I enjoy being in nature. Mountain hikes, hot springs, camping...

A fan of kindness, books, tea, and cozy flannel.

I am drawn to independence (both intellectual and practical) and general badassery. I disapprove of prissiness and vapidity.

Playfulness is important. So is compassion, inclusion, and personal responsibility.

I'm interested people based on pleasing traits, compatibility, and general awesomeness - potentially from anywhere on the spectrum sex and gender identity.

I am dangerously curious, defiantly whimsical, and proudly a lil nerdy.

ENFP/ sometimes J

At any given moment, I probably want to be doing this:
What I’m doing with my life
My dream for the future involves a sustainable permaculture farm/hostel and small intentional community in the mountains where I get to keep goats and bees, practice massage therapy, grow food and cook for people.
(And be ready for the zombie robot apocalypse...or whatever.)

I've been cooking professionally for about 10 years, and am also a Licensed Massage Therapist...and occasionally a nanny.

I play music (bass and guitar, mostly, and sing) in a few bands/projects.

I like to work out and run but have sadly gotten out of the habit lately. Wanting to get back into it.
I’m really good at
Open communication. Experimenting with recipes. Serenades. Snuggles. Blanket-fort architecture. Tetris. Making curries.
The first things people usually notice about me
Messy hair? Ready smile?
I never asked.
Someone once said of me: "Oh, that girl with the Greek goddess body?" and I was so flattered that I put it in my okc profile.

I do, however, think it'd be great to be more fit. It's definitely a work in progress, and I'm not where I'd like to be-- I want to do a tough mudder next year--but I'm pretty comfy with myself being all snuggly and chubby in the meantime.

*Another note on my appearance: It deeply bothers me to hear "But you don't LOOK queer." As if how I dress or wear my hair has anything to do with who I am attracted to or fall in love with.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
All in one section? o.0
Food, music, books and film are things I greatly enjoy/care about, so this might take a minute...
I get excited grocery shopping. I love cooking for friends, or going out to favorite local restaurants. I love curries and sushi and salads and goat cheese and tempeh tacos...

Music! sultry - bass heavy - folsky - bluesy - soulful - sweet

Iron and Wine, Alt-J, Warpaint, Modest Mouse, Beck, Pinback, Portishead, The Black Keys, Jack White, Metric, Gorillaz/blur, The Books, MGMT, Radical Face, Of Monsters and Men, The Shins, Danger Mouse, Glass Animal, Cat Power, Alabama Shakes, Cut Chemist, Air, Django Reinhardt, Noisettes, Why? and on and on...
Turn me on to something new!

I like sci-fi, ireful comedic satire, cookbooks, travel and how-to guides, and fascinating fiction or fantasy.
Authors: Bill Bryson, Terry Pratchett, David Foster Wallace, Douglas Adams, Dave Eggers, Adam Levin (lot levine), Max Brooks, Harper Lee, Chris Ware, Robert Jordan, Tom Robins, Roald Dahl, Oscar Wilde, Tom Stoppard, Beckett, Bukowski, David Eagleman, Bill Watterson.
Childhood loves: Ann McCaffrey, Ursula K. Le Guin, Patricia C Wrede, J.K Rowlings, etc...Recommendations are welcome!

Shows-Aside from cooking shows and anime: Sense8, The Walking Dead, Sherlock, Firefly, Green Wing, Archer, BattleStar Galactica, Louie, It's Always Sunny, ABDC
Movies- American Beauty, Pan's Labyrinth, Snatch, Shaun of the Dead, Pitch Black, Deadpool, Fight Club, Little Miss Sunshine, Garden State, Shortbus, Eternal Sunshine, Serenity, XXY, Following, Raise the Red Lantern, and most Wes Anderson and Miyazaki films...Charlie Chaplin makes me weirdly happy.
The six things I could never do without
Well, beyond the basic elements of organic life, and the bottom wrungs of Maslow's hierarchy, I'd say:

-Mental stimulation (read: books, music and interwebs)
-Physical stimulation (read: "running, jumping, climbing trees," great cuddles and sex)
-Food that elicits involuntary pleasure noises ^_^
-A sense of humor about the world and myself
...Tiger balm and my santoku are tied for 6th.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
*Sensory input*
How things work, physiological processes, social interactions (both micro and macro), vulnerability...
Myself, my plans, the theoretical farm, travel fantasies...
Food (tastespotting), what's for dinner...
Linguistics, etymologies, tongues...

I believe that each connection is unique and deserves to be treated that way. I tell myself: When you think of someone, think of their whole, separate self. Every time. If you don't let who they are fade into simply what they mean to you, your feelings and thoughts about them will be more meaningful, accurate, and adaptable. You will be able to appreciate, understand, and love them so much more fully.
It's an embarrassingly simple thing, but something I have to remind myself of from time to time. I think it makes a huge difference in being able to maintain real, vibrant, meaningful relationships with people.
On a typical Friday night I am
-Cooking dinner, watching things, being fascinated/distracted by things on the interweb. (Tedtalks and StumbleUpon, Reddit, etc...)
-The occasional contra dance, derby bout, live music show or community event at the CMC (A local alternative community library/organizing space.)
-Playing shows with guts
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
*Global Santoku, fluted, 18cm. Maybe that's not private, but it's personal.
*I'm probably more addicted to the internet/technology/entertainment/netflix than I'd like to admit.
*I love hip-hop, and dance enthusiastically (and probably pretty badly) to it when alone. I guess I do that to a lot of different music...
You should message me if
:Want me to come work with you on homestead/permaculture farm/egovilliage/natural building site
:Keep your wits about you. (Brainy is the new sexy.)
:Have some common interests, as we can enjoy them together
:Know that you are not the car you drive, etc...
:You can refrain from calling me "cutie"