Musician. Massage therapist. Cook.
Nerdier than I look
Trying to find the balance between my desire to work hard/connect with the world around me/ build something I'm proud of...and my natural hedonistic tendencies.
I love mountain waterfall hikes, hot springs, camping, canoeing, etc...I am dangerously curious and defiantly whimsical
I'm drawn to independence (both intellectual and practical) and general badassery. I disapprove of prissiness and vapidity.
A fan of intelligence, kindness, books, tea, and cozy flannel.
I'm currently focusing on work and am not actively looking for a romantic relationship. If something awesome comes along, I could make room, but I am in no way need someone to "complete" me. If I don't reply promptly, please don't take it personally.
I like working with my hands. (Massage, playing music, cooking, painting/drawing, console gaming, target practice, wood chopping, gardening and occasionally building things...).
I'm interested people based on pleasing traits, compatibility, and general awesomeness - potentially from anywhere on the spectrum of sex and gender identity.
ENFP/ (sometimes I, sometimes J)
At any given moment, I probably want to be doing this:
I play music (bass and guitar, mostly, and sing) in a few bands/projects
My dream for the future involves a sustainable permaculture farm/hostel and small intentional community in the mountains where I get to help design and build my own house, keep goats and bees, grow food and go on hikes.
...and be ready for the zombie robot apocalypse...or whatever :p.
I like to workout and run but have sadly gotten out of the habit lately. Wanting to get back into it.
Being open/vulnerable (not that it's in any way easy)
I never asked.
Someone once said of me: "Oh, that girl with the Greek goddess body?" and I was so flattered that I put it in my okc profile.
I do, however, think it'd be great to be more fit. It's definitely a work in progress, and I'm not where I'd like to be-- I want to do a tough mudder next year--but I'm pretty comfy with myself being all snuggly and chubby in the meantime.
*Another note on my appearance: It deeply bothers me to hear "But you don't LOOK queer." As if how I dress or wear my hair has anything to do with who I am attracted to or fall in love with.
Food, music, books and film are things I greatly enjoy/care about, so this might take a minute...
I get excited grocery shopping. I love cooking for friends, or going out to favorite local restaurants. I love curries and sushi and salads and goat cheese and tempeh tacos...
Music! sultry - bass heavy - folsky - bluesy - soulful - sweet
Iron and Wine, Alt-J, Warpaint, Modest Mouse, Beck, Pinback, Portishead, The Black Keys, Jack White, Metric, Gorillaz/blur, The Books, MGMT, Radical Face, Of Monsters and Men, The Shins, Danger Mouse, Glass Animal, Cat Power, Alabama Shakes, Cut Chemist, Air, Django Reinhardt, Noisettes, Why? and on and on...
Turn me on to something new!
I like sci-fi, ireful comedic satire, cookbooks, travel and how-to guides, and fascinating fiction or fantasy.
Authors: Bill Bryson, Terry Pratchett, David Foster Wallace, Douglas Adams, Dave Eggers, Adam Levin (lot levine), Max Brooks, Harper Lee, Chris Ware, Robert Jordan, Tom Robins, Roald Dahl, Oscar Wilde, Tom Stoppard, Beckett, Bukowski, David Eagleman, Bill Watterson.
Childhood loves: Ann McCaffrey, Ursula K. Le Guin, Patricia C Wrede, J.K Rowlings, etc...Recommendations are welcome!
Shows-Aside from cooking shows and anime: Sense8, The Walking Dead, Sherlock, Firefly, Green Wing, Archer, BattleStar Galactica, Louie, West Wing, It's Always Sunny, ABDC
Movies- American Beauty, Pan's Labyrinth, Snatch, Shaun of the Dead, Pitch Black, Fury Road, Leon the Professional, Another Earth, The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, Little Miss Sunshine, Garden State, Deadpool, Wall-E, Shortbus, Eternal Sunshine, Fight Club, Serenity, Exit Through the Gift Shop, XXY, Following, Raise the Red Lantern, and most Wes Anderson and Miyazaki films...sometimes Charlie Chaplin makes me weirdly happy.
-Mental stimulation (read: books, music and interwebs)
-Physical stimulation (read: "running, jumping, climbing trees," great cuddles and sex)
-Food that elicits involuntary pleasure noises ^_^
-A sense of humor about the world and myself
How things work (physiological processes, perception, societal structures, etc...)
Plans, the theoretical farm, travel fantasies...
Food (tastespotting), what's for dinner...
I believe that each connection is unique and deserves to be treated that way. I tell myself: When you think of someone, think of their whole, separate self. Every time. If you don't let who they are fade into simply what they mean to you, your feelings and thoughts about them will be more meaningful, accurate, and adaptable. You will be able to appreciate, understand, and love them so much more fully.
It's an embarrassingly simple thing, but something I have to remind myself of from time to time. I think it makes a huge difference in being able to maintain real, vibrant, meaningful relationships with people.
-The occasional contra dance, jiujitsu class, live music or date.
-Playing shows with guts
*I'm probably more addicted to the internet/technology/entertainment/netflix than I'd like to admit.
*I love hip-hop, and dance enthusiastically (and probably pretty badly) to it when alone. I guess I do that to a lot of different music...
:Want me to come work with you on homestead/permaculture farm/egovilliage/natural building site
:Keep your wits about you. (Brainy is the new sexy.)
:Have some common interests, as we can enjoy them together
:Know that you are not you khakis or the car you drive, etc...
:Can refrain from calling me "cutie"