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My self-summary
Things you should know about me:

+ I'm a Christian. A radical, queer Christian.

Please note: I have no interest in trying to convert anyone, but Christian theology, liturgy, etc. is one of the things I can talk about ad infinitum.

+ I'm educating myself a lot about various axes of oppression (racism/white privilege, disability, etc.) and am really attentive about the language I use (gendered language, pejorative slang that references mental illness, etc.). I'm not "policing" people to harsh their squee; I'm interested in making all aspects of life more life-giving for all people. (I'm also invested in honesty, consistency, and inclusion.)

(I will get really worked up if you think "fat" is inherently negative or if you attribute positive/negative values to food -- we can talk about ethical production, etc., but none of this, "I'm being good and having a salad" -- I trust you to make informed choices about the food you consume, but food itself is not inherently "good" or "bad" and consumption thereof does not make you "good" or "bad' either. I have also developed an aversion to our cultural insistence on "health" -- people do not have to direct all of their choices toward some barometer of "health," and that does not make them inferior or undeserving humans.)

+ I always feel woefully under-informed about any particular issue, so I tend to dislike talking about politics -- but especially post-election 2016 I have been much less likely to let that stop me from e.g. pushing back against privileged white folks making excuses for Tr*mp supporters.

+ I'm sex-positive, and I try to be a kink and poly advocate. This does not mean I'm interested in having sex (or being kinky or poly) with YOU necessarily.

+ I came of age in fandom, and while I'm not very fannishly active these days, it's still where I live to a large extent, and it has and continues to inform so many of the ways I engage with texts.

+ I self-ID as both "queer" and "bisexual," and I do not intend the latter term to imply a gender binary (I am attracted to people of my own gender and also to people of other genders).
What I’m doing with my life
Managing a set of faculty for my 9-5 job.

In my "free" time, hanging out in various queer and/or faith spaces, working to build [albeit fleeting moments of] the radical queer church of my heart. (Current project is a Bible study on polyamory. So excited!!!)

Intermittently working on writing a book about what the Christian tradition has to offer folks living with severe, chronic depression (and the people who love them).

Cultivating bicycling as a primary means of personal transport.

Indoor rock wall climbing.
I’m really good at
Problematizing things. Interrelating things. Arguably, overthinking things ;)

Being attentive to how we can better include the outsider, the Other, those on the margins.

Organizing things. Proofreading and editing.
The first things people usually notice about me
Depends on the context.

Options include:
+ my D-cup breasts
+ that I have Strong Opinions about lots of things and can talk at great length
+ that I take notes on everything
+ that my definition of "on time" is 5 minutes early
+ that I have a much stronger tolerance for cold weather than most people
+ that I'm often very physically affectionate with people I care about
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Most of my reading these days is nonfiction (with the exception of feminist sci-fi book club, yay!), but I am arguably All About The Stories. Give me a compelling plot with characters I care about, and I'm in love. I adore reworkings -- especially of fairytales, vampire mythos, and Christian narrative/image -- but am averse to cross-media adaptations (e.g., books made into movies).

The majority of the mainstream movie-going I do is Marvel (though I've pointedly skipped Ant-Man and Doctor Strange), but I've recently started going to a lot of films at the Kendall, and still sometimes make it to films at the MFA (especially during film festivals).

Recent-ish films I've seen in theatres and really enjoyed include Maleficent and Magic Mike: XXL.

I fell out of watching serial tv as it aired back in 2008 or so, though MCU pulled me back in intermittently, and Netflix has also helped. But if we're gonna talk favorites, Buffy is the show/fandom I came of age in and remains the show of my heart (though my feelings on Joss Whedon himself have shifted a lot more negative).

I like music I can sing along to and music I can dance to. I'm mostly not a fan of having music on in the background because I get distracted by the words. I love 90s music (I didn't make this 8tracks, but I love it -- and lots of Top 40 stuff -- I am approximately the opposite of a music snob. I like girl-with-guitar (Ani DiFranco, Dar Williams, Catie Curtis, Heather Maloney) and angry music (eve 6, everclear, matchbox 20, P!nk) and Belle & Sebastian and The Magnetic Fields (90s mixtape nostalgia!).

I have really really boring taste in food (though I also have strong feelings about the superiority of my mother's baked goods vis a vis everyone else's). If going out for a meal, my first choice is almost always Life Alive (every non-vegetarian I have brought there has really liked it!). I also love coconut curry.
Six things I could never do without
(metaphorically speaking, of course, and not necessarily in order)

1. things to write with and on
2. intellectual engagement
3. physical affection
4. the Internet
5. warm showers
6. people who love me
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Issues of oppression (around sexuality, gender, ability, mental health, etc.).

Christian narratives.

How to more effectively actually accomplish all the projects I keep acquiring.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I do engage in personality typing, I'm...

Tarot: Queen of Swords
Enneagram: 5
You should message me if
You're intelligent. You're interesting. You think I'm interesting. You're in the Boston area.

You spell everything correctly. (No seriously. I'd forgotten what a peeve of mine this is until people started IMing me. Purposeful usages like "teh internetz" and "brb" are fine, and everyone -- myself included --- makes typos sometimes, but instant messaging isn't an excuse to leave out things like apostrophes or letters in words.)

You're a liberal Christian. I have positive relationships with many liberal folk who aren't Christian, but the only Christians I seem to encounter on OKC are conservative in ways that seem to render us incompatible, so you would totally get a gold (or colored foil of your choice) star if you were a liberal Christian I don't already know. [This last one is not a "you should message me if and only if," of course.]
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