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My self-summary
I think PostSecret is beautiful, shame is useless, and love is only constrained by time.

I'm a progressive feminist atheist geek.

Ultimately, I'm looking for my Player Two. I'm looking for a long-term female (cis or otherwise) partner and a life together; I want someone to cherish and be cherished by. I strongly believe in the joy a great relationship with longevity can bring. While shorter relationships are worthwhile, if you're not *hoping* for indefinite with your next partner, then you're not for me.

I have a passion for trying new things with whomever I happen to be hanging out with, as long as they do the suggesting. Doing more exploring is on my ToDo list - just tell me where and when. "I'm game." While we're at it, I often say, "I'm a gamer". Board, Tabletop, PC, Console, etc. My biggest creative outlets are being a GM and writing software, and if you think either one doesn't require plenty of creativity, we should chat so I can disillusion you of that notion.

I don't like coffee but like the atmosphere of coffee shops - you'll find me drinking hot chocolate. I prefer listening to talking unless I get going on one of my many passions. I hate large parties and love small groups / 1:1. A political or philosophical or scientifical (which I'm now insisting is a word to maintain the pattern) discussion with "coffee" (see above) and with friends (or a partner) is ideal.

I'm inquisitive. Expect me to ask questions. Sometimes I get lost for hours on Wikipedia or TVTropes and consider neither one a waste of time. People think "nerdy" is the most apt word to describe me. I like to reread my physics textbooks from time to time. Museums about almost anything are awesome.

INTJ/INTP. It's not that I care, it's that I also don't care if you do.

I volunteer at PAX. I like light hikes and play frisbee golf and bocce. I hate bigotry and rape culture. I love Tim Minchin.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying new things and self-introspecting in order to learn more about both the world and myself.

To this end, I am always attempting to:
1. Learn. Help other do the same (by teaching).
2. Eliminate internal inconsistencies. Help others do the same (by revealing them).

Note that I neither assert my own consistency nor my own completeness, merely that I seek them. I constantly search for my personal Godel sentences.

Career? I write software at Microsoft, I love it, and I'm extremely good at it. The fact that it pays well is a pretty nice perk; don't tell my boss I'd do it for free if I were suddenly wealthy enough to not need to work.

Also, #feelthebern.
I’m really good at
I've been told I'm a good singer (at least when I stay within my range). I'm great at most games. I'm a speed-reader and speed-typer. In the right programming languages, I can probably code rings around you and anyone you've ever met, but I'm a also great teacher and love it enough to consider it a potential alternative future career - maybe after I retire from my other career passion.

Apparently, I'm also good at overusing parenthetical expressions (in case you hadn't already noticed).
The first things people usually notice about me
People immediately notice that I'm quite thin. If they first see me while I'm sitting down, then they're often surprised at my height when I stand up. They usually start reading my T-shirt, whichever one that is, and then they laugh at or comment on said T-shirt (which is really the whole point).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Sci-Fi, fantasy, and non-fiction. "Time Enough for Love" (Robert Heinlein), "The Name of the Wind" (Patrick Rothfuss), and "A Brief History of Time" (Stephen Hawking) are my favorites in each of those respective categories.

Movies: I like Sci-Fi, fantasy, kids movies, documentaries, action movies, dramas...ok, I just like movies. "The Princess Bride" is my favorite.

TV: Firefly. Anything Joss. Documentaries. TED talks. Anything SciFi, Fantasy, and/or well written. Yes, that means I like both poorly-written SciFi and Fantasy and well-written anything.

Music: I like pop, electronic, symphonic/gothic metal, 80s+ rock/alternative, and industrial the best. Taylor Swift is my favorite musician. Seriously.

Food: I am simultaneously a very picky eater and someone who loves trying new food and can always find something to eat at most restaurants. I seem to eat a lot of American, Italian, and Thai. I love raw fruit; I love raw vegetables with certain exceptions; I love chocolate (dark, milk, and "white").
Six things I could never do without
Company. I may be an introvert and need at least some alone time, but it's awfully difficult to "silverware" by yourself - I obviously include love, sex, and cuddling as part of this item. Physical touch in an ongoing relationship is *extremely* important to me.

Books. Not that sissy Kindle, but real, paper books that can make you feel their weight, listen to their pages turn, and recall the scent of libraries and the wonderfulness of used book stores. Ok, if you use a Kindle (or similar) for the convenience, I really can't blame you. Hell, lots of people I like do. I just prefer the real thing.

Creativity. It's the closest thing to a soul I believe in, so Music, Movies/TV, and Art are great. Did I mention I like museums (of art, of science, of /.*/)? I probably did. I just hate going to them alone; want to go?

Modern industrialized technology or better. Readily available hot water cures many ills, and "no pleasure, no rapture, no exquisite sin greater...than central air". The summers are getting hot enough for me to get on that latter one...I'd blame global warming but using anomalous local weather events as evidence (rather than the mountain of good scientific evidence) would be disingenuous.

Gaming. It can be social or alone; challenging or easy; relaxed or intense; inside or outside. Regardless of my mood, a game that suits almost certainly exists.

A car. I'm more of a suburbanite, and having once lived in the suburbs without a car, the resulting inconvenience was monumental. I drive a VERY high-gas-mileage car; the environment is important to me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can be a better person: a better friend; a better engineer; a better lover; a better feminist; etc. How things/people work. Why things work the way they do and why people do the things they do. The problems the world faces and how to solve them. The nature of life, humanity, existence, sentience, and the universe. Art, music, politics/policy, literature, TV, movies, games, work, play, people, places, and things. I also usually have at least one song playing fragments in my head. In computer science terms, I have a blazing fast CPU with hyperthreading and think about things even while thinking about other things. While I wrote this, I was thinking about whether being uploaded into a massive computer would be a better way to live or not. I haven't reached a conclusion yet.
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing, reading, thinking about, and/or watching something interesting; at a museum, show, or event; and/or gaming with friends; and/or something else entirely.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The first six characters of my okcupid alias form my FetLife alias. GGG and SSC. If that's a problem, this is not the profile you're looking for, move along, move along. Let me be clear, FetLife activities, much like 420, I can take or leave or give up entirely - a perk, not a need. (Oops, I may have just given something else away...)

If any part of my Fetlife profile intrigues you, however, you get major extra credit.
You should message me if
You want me to message you back. I reply to every initial message I receive.

You should also message me if you identify with the following link...
...because I am absolutely at the stage in my life where pretty much everything in my relationships is "fuck yes or no"...

...and you're enthusiastic about scheduling a meeting in person after no more than a single digit's worth of positive messages between us. Chemistry is vital and the litmus test is a first date...

...and you'd like to discus hypothetical alternate realities; gush/geek out over our shared interests; introduce me to a restaurant, band, bar, show, coffee house, comedian, museum, stage, park, etc; do some gaming together; simply get to know each other better in conversation over any type of food/beverage; and/or thumb wrestle.
The two of us