35 San Francisco, United States
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My self-summary
I have been involved D/s relationship dynamics for most of my adult life. I'm Dominant and like to take control regardless of whether I'm in the boardroom or the bedroom - although there's many other far more delicious places to be Dominant.

I like women who are in touch with their submissive kinky side and yet know what they want. Women who aren't afraid to go for it but, also, aren't afraid to let go.

A good proof-point of the above are women who are prepared initiate first contact - so if you think we may be looking for the same thing, send me a message.

I am not looking for play + sex with just anyone. The exploration of D/s necessitates a connection and as such the concept of 'random hookups' disinterests me. I am looking for someone I can actually spend some time with, take to dinner, etc and get to know.

I'm also not looking for distant pen-pals, flakes or time wasters.
What I’m doing with my life
Tying willful submissive playthings in rope harness or spanking them across my knee while ensuring a firm grip to the back of the neck.

Working hard to give back to the world that provided me with so many opportunities in the first place.
I’m really good at
Placing my thumb and middle finger in just the right place as I hold your neck during breath/choke play.

Ensuring I do/don't leave marks and bruises, depending on your disposition.


Educated traditionally in business and vocationally in the dark arts of kink & bdsm. I enjoy directing dull dinner party conversation about commercial negotiation/persuasion into one about the use of the same neurolinguistic programming techniques to machinate a submissive into exploring boundaries she'd never previously considered.

I enjoy all kinds of D/s play, and enjoy striving to hone my techniques. Area of specific interest include (but not limited to): impact play (whips, floggers, paddles, etc), Shibari/rope bondage, humiliation and mind play, predicament bondage, domestic service, slut training, hotwife/bull/cuckold. Which of those interests you?
The first things people usually notice about me
How much of my alt lifestyle is actually there in plain sight, if they know what to look for.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Topics best left to be discussed in person. However I will use the matter of books to communicate I have thin patience for silly little housewives who have read 'Fifty Shades' and now want a 'kinky experience'.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The importance of these and many other values in responsible D/s relationships: honesty, mutual respect, open communication, GGG, 3rd wave feminism, sex-positivity, queer-values, 'safe-sane-consensual'.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I also have a (somewhat) vanilla OKC profile with non-obscured photos; I might be willing to share that with you if you beg nicely.
You should message me if
Your pupils dilated, blood pressure elevated or mind wandered into dark territory while you read this profile. We should all listen to our bodies and take more risks in life.

I prefer the willing to initiate conversation - so send me a brief message with why what piqued your interested in my profile and what you might be interested in exploring together.