with_an_el
39 Royal Oak, United States
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My self-summary
1+1=3 situations are best, that is, we connect and in the process become better people. The greatest pairs ALWAYS build on each other's strengths.

That being said, I try hard to meet people where they are in life. I just try to chat with maturity and honesty. I am eager to share my life with good people wherever knowing each other leads.

I gravitate toward people who challenge me (and everyone else) to grow & think, laugh a ton, be curious, tell great stories, have adventures (both lived and mental) and are focused predominantly on the whole of the planet, not finding a person to live a life removed from what billions of others are experiencing.

I love to be around people with a giant sense of humor who make their own fun wherever they go, yet are serious about important things.

I work hard to broadcast that being close to me is a safe space where you can be 100% you. I treasure this experience myself when I am lucky enough to find it. I like to be informed when I flunk.
What I’m doing with my life
Being my own boss has shot my energy through the roof. I am a licensed massage therapist and in love with the craft. Prior to my career change, I worked with youth and families in NYC and Detroit for about 15 years.

I spend equal time with friends and by myself. I like talking, animals, baking, cooking, reading, thinking, practicing massage, hiking, studying anatomy, walking, day tripping, exercise, sleep.

Life is great right now, but it would be nice to make some friends and even share life with someone who prefers the company of good people, silence, stars, sun, water and all kinds of animals. I get tired of activities that are centered around looking perfect, acquisition, increasing wealth/status, buying things, & networking. I find the natural world and honest human company the best entertainment in life.

It's nice to be around things you don't have to impress.
I’m really good at
self-analysis, listening, understanding grey areas, mixing cereals, adaptation, lie detection, analyzing things from multipe angles, worrying, receiving criticism, working with kids and parents, being disarming
The first things people usually notice about me
I get told often that I'm not like anyone else, and people feel like they've known me for years.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: JFK, Silence of the Lambs, Primary Colors, Wait Until Dark, Beautiful Thing, The Crying Game, Michael Clayton, The Deep End, Amadeus, The Empire Strikes Back, Do the Right Thing, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon, The Insider, L.A. Confidential, 12 Monkeys, Heat, Lantana, Chinatown, In the Bedroom, Alien, The Remains of the Day, Children of Men, Millenium Trilogy

Books/Reading: all travel guides, nonfiction thrillers, film & book reviews; personality theory, anthropology, massage anything

Shows: The Wire, Hannibal, The Walking Dead, Roseanne, Parks & Recreation, Fargo, Downton Abbey, Dexter, animal stuff, documentaries

ALL MUSIC

Food: ANYTHING! "If you eat local food, you can travel anywhere."
The six things I could never do without
the option to explore the whole planet and give something of value to it, my mind that never stops working, my best friends, bread/butter, pizza, hot & cold water
I spend a lot of time thinking about
family & community, ideas for the perfect thriller, what i can contribute that is actually helpful, my flaws, where I want to/can travel, how to relax, where we (the species) are headed, recipes, how to live debt free, how to be fully integrated
On a typical Friday night I am
I work at home throughout the week so there are no more Friday nights in the reg Monday to Friday sense. My commute is also down to two and a half feet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am great at choosing friends, but less skilled with dating.
You should message me if
I am drawn to humble geniuses and attracted to no particular physical type of person. I appreciate simplicity, mystery, intensity, wit, storytelling ability, honesty and original thinking. I like to have a great time but know I am in the presence of a person with a strong social conscience who uses their intelligence and imagination for good, asks endless questions and knows when to fight and when to be a diplomat. ****Deceptive and mysterious are two different things.

Message me if you like a person who is a mix of a lot of different ideas and cultures, a traveller, humorous-serious balanced, flawed, honest and excited to meet compelling people; a thinker; a wanderer; someone who talks in stories and lives to hear them; and if you aware of the privileges you were born with, whatever they are, and are figuring out how to use them for other's benefit. Message me if you want to gain a true friend.

I believe I can connect with anybody, but I have a really hard time with circuit life, arrogance, materialism, deceit and people who: have to be the center of attention; Are looking for sex primarily but tell yourself you're not; Are looking for an LTR immediately; Lie as a lifestyle; Are controlling with no desire to change; Don't have a serious problem with power imbalances in relationships; Are not at least somewhat invested in social action or important dialogue; Fall apart without your cell phone; Consider celebrity gossip important; Can't take a compliment; Only want hot and/or wealthy friends; Live to be seen; Fear silence
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