Springsteen, Uncle Tupelo, Kevin Drew, Brad Mehldau, Keith Jarrett, The Replacements, Gram Parsons, Steve Earle, Gillian Welch, Waylon Jennings, Cass McCombs, Deerhunter, Atlas Sound, Lotus Plaza, Arcade Fire, Built to Spill, Neko Case, Destroyer, New Pornographers, Rolling Stones, Will Oldham, Big Star, Richard Thompson, Ryan Adams, two songs by Steve Winwood, early Elton John, other pretentious hipster dribble not mentioned above.
Books / Writers / Public Figures / Written Media / Genres:
Philip Roth, Primo Levi, Vaclav Havel, Mordechai Kaplan, Joyce Carol Oates, feminist tomes, Arthur Kleinman, Julie Doucet and Craig Thompson, Sandra Tsing-Loh, Andrew Sullivan, Myers-Briggs guides, Theodore Herzl, Martin Luther King, Jr., Charles Darwin, Terri Gross, Alison Bechdel, Art Spiegelman, Sunday NY Times especially the "Modern Love" and "Lives" sections, and while we're on that - Gawker's "altercations" NY Times wedding rating system, the Atlantic Monthly, sometimes The New Republic, memoirs / travelogues / historical non-fiction.
TV: not so much, but Showtime and HBO are generally my jedi force in this department.
3. mexican food / coffee ice cream / turkey bacon
4. great home stereo system
5. moments when a brilliant observation changes everything
6. warm relationships
Also-I had TWO (!) kids by myself. That's right, people. I'm a very modern woman. There's no looming ex-boyfriend / ex-husband on the scene, if that makes a difference to people scared off by adorable children.