31 Rockaway Park, United States
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My self-summary
I'm friendly, a good listener, open-minded, a wholehearted advocate of lively debate, and a social work supervisor at a nonprofit.

Gotta get that PSLF, amiright?

But really, I love my job, and I'll never not be a social worker.
What I’m doing with my life
Living in a bungalow by the beach.

Working all week in the city, and spending a lot of time on the A train listening to podcasts and spotify.

I overanalyze most things. I think this comes from a genuine desire to understand, and I usually only (over)analyze things that I care about, at least a little bit.

I'm still trying to figure out how to talk to people that I don't agree with, but I think it's less because I'm arrogant and more because I'm passionate.

You be the judge!
I’m really good at
Knitting, people-watching, writing various lists, crosswords (but only the easy to medium level ones) starting things and not finishing them, picking up hobbies for a week or so at a time and dumping them mercilessly, getting sucked into Netflix and HBO Go.

Asking good questions about your feelings and being non-judgmental about your answers. Actively trying to problem solve, even though sometimes it just feels like ruminating, which is how I know when to stop.

I make food a lot, and enjoy it way more when I have someone to share the final product with.

Teaching stuff to others. Talking about social justice and political issues at length with an open mind.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm pretty tall (5'10") and have green-grey eyes.

People tell me I'm a good listener and that I'm "genuine".
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't know if I have any favorite books. Books I've read a few times include Pride and Prejudice, The Great Gatsby, Their Eyes Were Watching God, and Bossypants. Just started Between the World and me, and it's rekindling my adoration for Ta-Nehisi Coates.

My fav TV shows are 30 Rock, Parks and Recreation, Master of None, Key and Peele, Bob's Burgers, and Inside Amy Schumer. I don't own a TV, and I'm SUPER happy about that (update: it's a few months in and I miss TV so much 😭)
(Second update: just like everyone else in the universe I love Game of Thrones and have been digging Stranger Things)

Music is complicated. I like a lot of it, but this one feels like the hardest to answer.

I'm going to list podcasts instead: Judge John Hodgman, slate culture and political gabfests, NPR politics, 99% invisible, the memory palace, ask me another, on being, strangers, savage lovecast, sex lives, snap judgment, this American life, and most recently I've been loving two dope queens.

I will eat almost anything that doesn't involve meat. I do love fish and sushi though. There is no button up top to say "pescatarian", but also I feel a little pretentious when I use that word.
The six things I could never do without
1) Loud alarm clock
2) Flats
3) Stirring Conversation
4) Nighttime
5) The smell of dirt/growth/outdoors
6) Vacations
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why we like swiping left and right so much, and why I don't message people from quick match more often.

How this profile will inevitably not reflect me accurately. It can't possibly capture my specific blend of optimism, cynicism, and humor.

Intersubjectivity (how it relates to my job but also how it is working in my relationships with friends and family).

Things on my to-do list, and/or how to make my life better.

What's good about being 31.

How to change people's minds about a variety of social issues. If that's possible at all.

How grateful I am that I was born in this time and not in a different time.

This election season and how bananas it is.

How we view "successful" relationships, and how that's changed over time. Also how it changes with geography, age, culture, etc.

Why we like what we like, sexually and otherwise.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out and about, or home and exhausted.... either way I'm always super relieved to escape the week and know that I can sleep in.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have used the filter button on okcupid to filter by astrological signs. More than once.

I am better at relationships than dating. I manage better with trust and vulnerability than fear and shame.
You should message me if
You're intrigued and you have more to say than "I think you're cute."

You don't take yourself too seriously (that's my job! Kidding. Sorta.)

You find the idea of playing nerdy (German style) boardgames with me delightful.

You can read this and relate to it, or read it knowing that I relate to it, and that doesn't bother you. Even better if it actually makes you chuckle: