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My self-summary
I just moved to Fairfax, and would love to meet people, with or without romantic intentions. I adore my existing partners, but while they can talk about Kandinsky to me, I am currently really cuddle deprived. It's a problem. You could be the solution!

My greatest fear is going to bed at night the same person I woke up as.

I'm still bitter about the 17th Amendment.
What I’m doing with my life
Just another recent graduate trying to save the world.

Side projects at the moment are becoming a better swing dancer, getting better at front-end development, and learning category theory.
I’m really good at
Worldbuilding. I started off wanting to replicate a city. Then I wanted an RPG with interesting combat without the randomness of most systems. Then I wanted a magic system where nature magic is opposed to tossing fireballs around, and mental magic is regarded as evil like it should be. Then I started thinking about the impact of scrying on the stability and efficiency of empires. Then it was back to writing constitutions for the various polities.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Nonfiction: Foreign Affairs, New York Times, and the Economist are my news sources, Cesare Beccaria's Essay on Crime and Punishments is far funnier than it has any right to be, and Ex Urbe and Slate Star Codex are my favorite blogs. Currently reading The Houses of History.

Fiction: Jacques The Fatalist, for some post-modernist enlightenment-era brilliance. Max Gladstone is brilliant and very philosophical in his worldbuilding.

Fanfiction: HPMOR and The Last Ringbearer.

Movies: Moonrise Kingdom, the Swedish version of The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, The Avengers, Black Widow 1: The Winter Soldier. This is a sample that approximates the mean?

Shows: West Wing, Firefly, Black Books, Scandal, Killjoys (I seriously believe it is the most feminist TV show I have ever seen: watch it and tell me I'm wrong, and it does it without ever being didactic.)

Music: Jay Psaros, Sassafrass, Amy Kucharik, any gospel song I can Lindy to.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Too Like the Lightning. I'm kind of in love with the book at the moment. It's part sequel to Jacques the Fatalist, part social science fiction, part social critique, and entirely fantastic. The narrator apologizes for using gendered pronouns but defends it to emphasize the sensuality of certain interactions. I haven't read Seven Surrenders yet.

I get annoyed at modern rad fems for being insufficiently Marxist, modern Marxists for being insufficiently materialist, liberals for being excessively realist, and 17th amendment supporters without good defenses.
On a typical Friday night I am
Swing dancing, playing Puerto Rico or Werewolf or Contact, or writing/reading.
You should message me if
You want to wander around in a nature reserve for a few hours, talking about meta-ethics and sociology. I don't drink, so I tend to avoid bars.

I'm looking for a mind at work.

I'm quite happy meeting people I can dance with and kiss like we never have to do anything else.

It's complicated (I like history and politics too much for anything to be simple, and I welcome messages on this), but I identify as an intersectional feminist.

More practically, I'm interested in storytelling, and narrative, and if you ever flirted with the idea of being an English major I'd love someone to watch The Sopranos or The Wire with.

I'm dating multiple people independently, and I'm looking for someone that meshes well with. It is really important to me that I be open about the existence of those relationships, though I will respect your privacy if you ask for it and will avoid talking about my partners too much (even though they're amazing). Most of my relationships at the moment are long-distance, so I'd ideally like to date someone a little closer to home.

Je parle un petit tres français, and I'm looking for someone willing to speak French to me, s'il vous plait.
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