58Phoenix, United States
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My self-summary
Like everyone else, I'm doing my best to get by and grow up. Through it all, I've managed to keep my Central Phoenix home and filled it with books, art, music, and friends.

I'm a city gal who fell in love with the desert. I am quick witted (sometimes even witty), easy-going, and easily amused. I love my work and when I'm not at the office, there’s glue, dough, or paint under my fingernails. You probably know already that I love to write.

Despite the cliché: the only thing missing from my life is a lover who's as bright, creative, sensual, loving and loyal as I am. Ugh, I just made myself sound like some bizarre cross between a Boy Scout and a puppy, didnt I? Well, I promise not to chew on your favorite slippets. Honest!
What I’m doing with my life
I'm learning to be healthy and how to move: I meditate, breathe. Eating clean? 50/50, lol. Not a fan of gyms, but I do like to swim or wander around, preferably outdoors ... or haunting Phoenix's surviving bookstores. I love second-hand stores and indie restaurants.

I love to cook and bake. Making my loved ones a luxurious meal is one of my favorite ways of showing affection. Speaking of affection, I hope you like cats. I used to volunteer at an animal shelter; now I serve 3.5 cats.

Two years ago, I learned that loving again was possible. Now I want to live it with a compatible man. Someone who's ready, willing and able to take the time to build an intimate partnership together. Life and love are works in progress; enjoying the journey is more important than reaching some static goal, pre-determined by society. The heck with that! Let's build our own happy ending.
I’m really good at
creating outrageous desserts
entertaining toddlers (possibly because we share the same mindset)
telling politically incorrect jokes to politically correct people
making stuff
bringing people together
pointing out the humor
random acts of affection
The first things people usually notice about me
Just guessing here.... my smile? My third eye? Possibly the prehensile tail....
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Today? Right this minute? Take a deep breath and here goes.

Funny movies, exploding movies, cult movies, offbeat yet poignant movies, movies with subtitles. Currently fascinated with Wilfred and Game of Thrones.

I'm not big on chic lit or most bestsellers. But I adore science fiction, fantasy, history, natural history. Some faves: Edward Abbey, Terry Pratchett, Daniel O'Malley, Jane Austen, Neil Gaiman, Natalie Goldberg, Richard Kadrey, Stephen Levine, George RR Martin, Terry Pratchett, Carl Hiaason, Ellis Peters, Terry Pratchett, Mary Renault, Vernor Vinge, Kurt Vonnegut. Did I mention Terry Pratchett?

I lean towards jazz standards, world music, blues...smoky sounds you can listen to by candlelight at 2 in the morning with a glass of single malt Scotch while running my fingers through my guy's hair.

I'll try anything once, maybe twice - just to make sure. Come to think of it, that's pretty much the way I approach most new experiences. Local over chain, always. Even before it became popular. As an ex-New Yorker, I am genetically obliged to love Chinese food. Even Phoenix Chinese food.
Six things I could never do without
I used to think there were things I could never do without. But I've since learned that's a comforting illusion. Still, life would seriously suck without books, friends, pets, dark roast coffee, glue sticks, hot water, the scent of the desert after a rain, and movies. Yelp, Glendronach, my zero gravity recliner, maybe you? yeah, that's more than six - you gonna let some website tell you what to love?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My apparent inability to affect the American political system. I'm somewhere between liberal and libertarian and much closer to purple than blue or red. I really, really, really don't understand the mindset behind most of what passes for public thinking nowadays. Where to go for lunch. Books I'd like to read. Where I'd like to travel next (Greece, Spain, China, Morocco, Thailand...) Did I wait too long to have my midlife crisis? How did I end up in Phoenix? String theory - invented by cats? How soon I can get out into the desert again. Whether true love exists and if I'll ever stumble across him. Or vice versa. And when we do, how we might be whole and complete and still coupled. Why love matters so much. Whether driving to work in bumper cars would reduce road rage as much as I think it would. Why okcupid seems to think I'm kinkier than most everyone else it matches me with....
On a typical Friday night I am
Out to dinner at a newly discovered restaurant with friends. Wandering around the closest book store. Rotting my mind with some worthless piece of commercial cinematic drivel. Watching Game of Thrones or Once, in my jammies.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like manischewitz wine ... see? I am SO not perfect.
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