53Chevy Chase, United States
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My self-summary
I've found my match, and she's a pip! :-) But I'm also open to making new friends, play partners, or a secondary relationship.

I like indoor activities (like reading, conversation, boardgames, and cooking) and outdoor ones (like hiking, cycling, and kayaking). I'm fairly intelligent, moderately strong, and working to get back into shape (I used to referee soccer, but a couple of injuries have had me sidelined). I recently tried curling and longsword fencing; for now, longsword is he one that's stuck. I can be serious or silly, as the situation warrants.

I make an effort to be honest and thoughtful and to communicate openly without being rude, so if you're looking for a "bad boy" who will break your heart and then move on or someone into "radical honesty", you won't find him here. I have no swagger or cockiness. I lack the charming arrogance of Erol Flynn or the seductive dangerousness of James Dean (or James Bond). I'm more David Niven or Jimmy Stewart. Or Paddington Bear. :-)

I am bookish, outdoorsy, and geeky. For what it's worth, I think OK Cupid's Personality assay of me is pretty on the nose (except that I don't think I'm especially aggressive). I'm kink-positive, and I have a profile on FetLife (let me know if you're interested, and I can share my FL handle).
What I’m doing with my life
Looking out all the things around DC that I've thought, "Oh, I'll do that one of these days!" that after living here for 25 years I still haven't done.
I’m really good at
Losing at boardgames (but I love playing them all the same). Loving and providing a lap for my cats. Blogging about things that have a very limited audience. Experimenting with a cocktail shaker. Finding new places to hike. Buying books (I'm almost as good at reading them, but I'm still way behind). Proofreading (which almost guarantees a glaring error somewhere on this page).
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably that I'm tall and broad and sometimes have a coppery red beard (it goes away when I'm reenacting). Possibly that I'm somewhat quiet. This is, of course, an illusion; if they get to know me, they discover that I'm quite talkative and sometimes wish I would shut the hell up about the religious conflicts of 16th century Europe or why the tower on Calton Hill has a big sphere on top of it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: novels or nonfiction dealing with history, diplomacy, warfare, religion, and foreign cultures. Dorothy Dunnett's historical novels are lifelong favourites. Other favourite authors include GM Fraser, Neil Gaiman, Phillip Pullman, Dorothy Sayers, Susanna Clarke, and Patrick O'Brian.

Movies: The American President, A Few Good Men, Eight Men Out, Bend It Like Beckham, The Lion in Winter, A Man for All Seasons, Diner, Zulu, The Longest Day, Cyrano (either Steve Martin or Gerad Depardieu:-). Almost anything made by Merchant & Ivory, Kevin Smith, or Bill Forsyth; almost anything made from a book by Roddy Doyle or Nick Hornby. Anything with Bill Nighy, Mandy Patinkin, Alan Rickman, Emma Thompson, or Juliet Stephenson in it.

Music: Very few red lines here, other than ultra-pop jingoistic country. Currently I'm most interested in traditional or modern folk, especially with a UK element. Old Blind Dogs, Kate Rusby, Cantrip, Ellis Paul, Dar Williams, Richard Shindell, or Dan Navarro. But I can just as easily go for something more country (Townes van Zandt, Dave Carter, or Johnny Cash) or world music (I love bhangra). I'm still fond of the British Invasion artists my sisters listened to when I was growing up. I love The Proclaimers, Dire Straits, and Al Stewart.

Food: Greek/Turkish, South Asian (Indian/Afghan), and Thai. French, especially country French.
Six things I could never do without
Books. Cats. The Internet. Games. Football/futbol/soccer. Regular opportunities to be in and around mountains, lakes, forests, and the sea.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
History. Games. Love. Sex. International relations. Story-telling. Travel. New England, and why I'm not living there.
On a typical Friday night I am
Curled up with a good DVD or a book, some cats, and a cup of tea. Let's pick some night that < {everyone in the Metro region} is looking to go out to restaurants, the movies, or the theater, and I'll be all for going out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I love musicals. Stephen Sondheim, Andrew Lloyd Webber, Lerner and Lowe, Rodgers and Hammerstein. I think "Once More with Feeling" was probably the best single ep of Buffy. There, I finally got that off my chest. :-)
You should message me if
You like intelligent, affectionate, funny, geeky guys. Maybe you like spending time outdoors hiking or biking. Or maybe you prefer wandering around an interesting city, checking out markets and museums and live music. Or perhaps you'd just like a rainy day indoors with the right combination of books or movies, snuggling, and conversation. You're not looking for someone who looks great in a tux or will take you out clubbing, but you'd be happy with someone who is comfortable in wool and denim.

We're at least 70% on both Match and Friends. And you don't want to just trade emails; I've had enough of finding people who seem like they would make nice friends (or more) only to find that we never get past exchanging endless, however interesting, messages.

If you're interested in being more than friends, you're OK with nonmonogamy. I have a wonderful wife who I plan on spending the rest of my life with and a lovely GF who I spend time with when I can; I'd happily meet other friends and lovers, but exclusivity is something I cannot offer. So if your profile says you're looking for single men, I will assume you mean that, which counts me out.
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