I like indoor activities (like reading, conversation, boardgames, and cooking) and outdoor ones (like hiking, cycling, and kayaking). I'm fairly intelligent, moderately strong, and working to get back into shape (I used to referee soccer, but a couple of injuries have had me sidelined). I can be serious or silly, as the situation warrants.
I make an effort to be honest and thoughtful and to communicate openly without being rude, so if you're looking for a "bad boy" who will break your heart and then move on or someone into "radical honesty", you won't find him here. I have no swagger or cockiness. I lack the charming arrogance of Erol Flynn or the seductive dangerousness of James Dean (or James Bond). I'm more David Niven or Jimmy Stewart. Or Paddington Bear. :-)
I am bookish, outdoorsy, and geeky. For what it's worth, I think OK Cupid's Personality assay of me is pretty on the nose (except that I think I'm a good deal more creative than they give me credit for). I'm kink-positive, and I have a profile on FetLife (let me know if you're interested, and I can share my FL handle).
Movies: The American President, A Few Good Men, Eight Men Out, Bend It Like Beckham, The Lion in Winter, A Man for All Seasons, Diner, Zulu, The Longest Day, Cyrano (either Steve Martin or Gerad Depardieu:-). Almost anything made by Merchant & Ivory, Kevin Smith, or Bill Forsyth; almost anything made from a book by Roddy Doyle or Nick Hornby. Anything with Bill Nighy, Mandy Patinkin, Alan Rickman, Emma Thompson, or Juliet Stephenson in it.
Music: Very few red lines here, other than ultra-pop jingoistic country. Currently I'm most interested in traditional or modern folk, especially with a UK element. Old Blind Dogs, Kate Rusby, Cantrip, Ellis Paul, Dar Williams, Richard Shindell, or Dan Navarro. But I can just as easily go for something more country (Townes van Zandt, Dave Carter, or Johnny Cash) or world music (I love bhangra). I'm still fond of the British Invasion artists my sisters listened to when I was growing up. I love The Proclaimers, Dire Straits, and Al Stewart.
Food: Greek/Turkish, South Asian (Indian/Afghan), and Thai. French, especially country French.
We're at least 70% on both Match and Friends. I find that friends make the best partners, but I'm also looking for more than just friendship. And you don't want to just trade emails; I've had enough of finding people who seem like they would make nice friends (or more) only to find that we never get past exchanging endless, however interesting, messages.
If you're interested in being more than friends, you're OK with nonmonogamy. I have a wonderful sweetheart who I plan on spending the rest of my life with; I'd happily meet other friends and lovers, but exclusivity is something I cannot offer.