40Ithaca, United States
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My self-summary
The details of my life are inconsequential. Or at least I have a predilection for privacy.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to balance a meaningful life with fun in the brief window (cosmically speaking) before I cease to exist.
I’m really good at
-collecting countries (130 thus far) which includes, but is not limited to, Iraq, Somalia, Afghanistan, Pakistan, North Korea, the Congo, and Belgium (who should not have been in the Congo)

-making music

-being vulnerable around people I love and trust - keeping it cool and casual for the rest.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm on a bike, though once in a while followed by a band.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I think the idea of compatibility being based on liking the same music and shows doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me. We're increasingly pushed not to explore, but hear more of the music you already like....reinforce political positions you already have...."customers who bought that book also purchased..." Don't get me wrong - sharing common interests is nice, but it is no more important than being invited to consider others' tastes and world views that are not your own - especially when you love someone for more meaningful reasons.
Six things I could never do without
My family & close friends, a bike, my memories, the ocean, observing and/or playing with animals, and something new to read, preferably a book.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-how to design video games and other simulations that help increase children's capacity for empathy.

-the blurred lines between childhood and adulthood in contemporary Western society, and whether this is more of a good thing or bad thing.

-how to maximize mischief while remaining gainfully employed.

-how group identities are too often used to distract one from anxiety about death. Or not.

-not letting career goals get in the way of meaningful relationships.

-owning a cafe in the middle of the Congolese rainforest called the Heart of Darkness cafe, or at least my own travel museum.

-the things I should have said to Qaddafi when I had dinner with him in Swaziland.

-will North Americans in general have a better or worse standard of living 50 years down the road. And will I have a dog in said future.

-how much I love my grandmother and am grateful for the sacrifices she made for me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Go out or stay in? Everything in moderation.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
At least a few times a year, when waking up from a nap and too lazy to get up to check my phone, I legitimately attempt to use the force (telekinesis, to be technical) to gravitate the phone towards me. No success yet - will keep you updated on my progress.
You should message me if
you value empathy, and you enjoy thoughtful conversation. Liking to bike or dance (esp. salsa) is a plus, but not liking either isn't a deal breaker.

Not in Ithaca yet - traveling until my job starts in August.
The two of us