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My self-summary
UPDATE: I am no longer going to be using this profile on account of my grandmother's recent passing. I just can't stomach the thought of erasing the "What I’m doing with my life" part at the moment. Cheers.

"So, right now I just dropped a friend off in Las Vegas and now I'm driving back towards the Golden State. I've never been here before, mostly because I'm not into the whole "Vegas" thing, but this is honestly one of the best experiences of my life. Listening to music with all this gorgeous scenery is incredible. All of my favorite music sounds different now, as if I'm falling in love with it all over again. I have all of my windows down and it's 47 degrees out, but it feels awesome; like electricity is flowing through the air. This is one of those moments where I know I need to be completely here. It's unreal how beautiful the Mojave Desert is in the winter.".

That happened yesterday. It's experiences like this one that make life such a beautiful adventure. Even more so when you have someone to share them with. The windows can stay up, of course.

Anyhow, here we go.

I'm a fairly uncomplicated person with a good head on my shoulders. I'm passionate about ideas, and love applying my imagination to every facet of my life.

I find happiness in irreverence, making art, meaningful conversation, watching my friends grow into their lives, watching conservatives lose their shit over progressive reforms, problem solving, staying off the beaten path, quiet workspaces, beautiful prose, working outdoors, the Huntington Library, the Getty, LACMA, brown bagging it with friends every now and again, being present to it all.

I believe in trans-inclusive/ intersectional feminism, I believe that black lives matter.

tl;dr - I'm too wonderful for words. Not really. Maybe a little bit.
What I’m doing with my life
I moved here from Oakland a few years back to help care for my Grandmother after she became symptomatic for dementia. She's currently under hospice care, so I spend a lot of my free time hanging out with her. While I miss my friends in the East Bay, moving here was the best life decision I have ever made. The time I've spent with her has helped me become a better person, as well as soften a lot of hard corners in my life. It hasn't been easy, but anything worthwhile rarely is.

In school I majored in comparative literature and art history. That's all I have to say about that life decision.

As far as the job thing goes, I've worked in public service for pretty much my entire life. I love working outdoors and interacting with a variety of different personalities.
I’m really good at
Pretending that I know what I'm doing, showing up on time, making others feel welcome, being comfortable in my own skin, saying the right thing, listening without judgment, being GGG

I have excellent long-term memory. My short-term memory, however seems to have contracted polio at some point along the way.
The first things people usually notice about me
I tend to nap while driving. Only on freeways, so it's fine.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors - Jorge Luis Borges, Clarice Lispector, W.G. Sebald, Joyce Carol Oates, Roberto Bolaño, Octavia Butler, Italo Calvino, Cormac McCarthy, Joan Didion, A.A. Milne, James Ellroy, Sarah Vowell, David Simon.

As far as non-fiction goes, I enjoy working through the ideas of Hannah Arendt, Jacques Derrida, and Gilles Deleuze.

Spending an entire day going through archived Vanity Fair articles is a guilty pleasure of mine, although I never feel guilty about it when I do. I'm just really into hyperbole.

I'm a sucker for poetry, especially from him, and her.

Some of my favorite webcomics are Subnormality, PBF, and Zen Pencils. Love & Rockets is an old favorite as well.

Radio On: the Velvet Underground, Neko Case, Tom Waits, The Magnetic Fields, Pavement, Stereolab, Yo La Tengo, PJ Harvey, The Smiths, The Fall, Michael Gira/ Swans, Sonic Youth, tons of post-rock, tons of shoegaze, tons of twee and C86, tons of old hardcore punk, d-beat, grindcore, doom, and black metal. There's really no genre of music that I'm not into.

Favorite films include Pulp Fiction, Do the Right Thing, Touch of Evil, This is England, Waltz with Bashir, Sicario, Incendies, Ratcatcher, Breaking the Waves, Sweet and Lowdown, Sideways, There Will Be Blood, the Elephant Man, Blazing Saddles, as well as countless documentaries.

My favorite show is The Wire, of course. I mean, what else would it be? I still haven't watched the final seasons of the Office, and Parks and Rec for no reason other than I'm really, really bad at goodbyes.

As far as food goes, Indian is my rainy day favorite. Love, love, love Iranian, Turkish, Nicaraguan, BBQ of any kind, and Mexican of course. The other day I made prison style Pad Thai and thought it was awful.
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Things such as this, and how different the world would be if more people did things such as that.

On his deathbed Beethoven remarked "I’ve learned to look at the world in all its darkness and evil and still love it.". Yeah, that's because you're Beethoven. It's fairly easy to come to terms with things like poverty and famine when you're sleeping in a warm bed and stuffing yourself full of macaroni and cheese. Eat a dick, Beethoven.

Whether or not somebody's going to call me out on having two non-fiction writers listed as authors of fiction.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably out seeing a band, or having a drink or two.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
It honestly sounded better in my head.
You should message me if
You think stealing blankets from Goodwill drop off bins, washing them, and then giving them out to the homeless could be a good first date.

You live your life with a full heart.
The two of us