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My self-summary
"'I am this', 'I am that' is a sign of not enquiring, not examining, a sign of mental weakness or lethargy." ~Nisargadatta Maharaj

"I should probably be doing my homework." ~ me

"This is funny but may be too clever for some. I would be more explicit about your beliefs and philosophies on life. Like the fact that you generally tend towards a Buddhist philosophy. That you love nature. That art is very important to you. That you love exploring new places. That you are interested in language and culture. It's more direct and takes the hard work out of figuring out who you are. It also opens up the market for you as a LOT of women will be confused by your depth. Not to say that you want to hang out with or date dumb shallow women but that being too cerebral straight up might intimidate or alienate some genuinely nice ladies who are not necessarily as well read or spiritual as you. " ~ a girl I know who looked at this

"You have really good teeth!" ~ my dentist
What I’m doing with my life
February 2002 through October 2012 I spent living in Japan, painting landscapes, and teaching English to kids. I'd always meant to come back home and go to art school: "sometime before I die", and that is what I'm doing now. I'm in a MFA program for illustration, doing quite well at it too, as it happens.
When it's sunny I go outside and paint, or ride my racing bike.
I do the same when it isn't sunny ...it's less fun those times.

I had intended to move to San Francisco (where my school is) after coming back to the US, but there aren't any cat friendly apartments within commuting distance for less than $5,000 per month.
If I had known that beforehand I might have stayed in Japan (I can do it all online), but NJ has its charms as well.

(I'm hard pressed to name them, but there's got to be a few, right? Actually, come to think of it, this place is pretty desolate. Nevermind.)
I’m really good at
Japanese landscapes!


I ride my racing bike around all the time, so I am good at that, and I'm really really good at minimizing damages to my person when I get thrown off/ hit by cars. (It's never happened in the US at least.)

I'm surprisingly good at Karaoke. (I don't know why it has to be such a surprise every time - that I am good at it.)

Little kids, old people, and animals love me, but I don't know that it's through any skill of mine.

I'm funny ...often intentionally.

I'm fairly good at cooking, being that I like to eat.
The first things people usually notice about me
I drink a LOT of tea!

People I haven't met before often say that I'm very laid back and I don't know how they know that, being that we've never met before.
(I don't dispute it. I just find it curious.)

I also get my picture taken with people I don't know (people passing in the street and such) several times a year, because I look like ? (someone) . I look exactly like some famous guy in Brazil, and exactly like someone's cousin in Turkey, and a soccer player in Spain, and a guy in a band, and a different guy that used to go to that bar all the time 5 years ago...
and it's really important to them that I understand how much I look like whoever these other people are,
but I never have any idea who the hell it is they're talking about.

I didn't meet many other Americans throughout most of my adult life, so I seem to have picked up an odd assortment of other foreign accents.
It might go away over time. It's not so bad anymore really.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like a lot of - names of bands go here:

dEUS used to be really really good. I don't mean that in a hipster kind of way, like they did something that disappointed me. I mean that their violin player quit and the next few albums were ...boring.
Beirut, Portishead, Catpower, Modest Mouse Does anyone remember Spacehog or Sponge?
I like Fun the band, and fun in its most general sense besides.
Funk as well!!

I HATE country music. Everybody else should hate it too,
because it is te-------rrible!

I really really like Indian food ...an awful awful lot. The guy at the Indian place near my old house said he worried about me when I didn't go for 2 weeks. He was practically my best friend, and almost my only friend because in Japan anyone foreign is scary.

I like to try all kinds of things
(and I don't mean that exclusively to foods)
but if a food is mostly vegan + isn't natto, I can deal with it politely enough.
(Natto is fermented/ rancid soy-beans. It's better than country music anyway.)

Books: I like books. I always used to read 5 or 7 at once, but they didn't have any English ones in Asian bookstores, and now everything I read is for school. 3 books on the theory of perspective this semester - all of them are very very dry (but to be fair, it isn't the most interesting topic).
Six things I could never do without

How did it come to 6?

(Why can't Buddhists vacuum in corners?

- No attachments)

As desires go, I follow the same hierarchy of needs that Maslow and everyone does,
but I do enjoy my cat + my racing bike
I spend a lot of time thinking about
but I don't.

"Only in quiet waters things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world."

~Hans Margolius
On a typical Friday night I am
. Most other nights too.

I used to go to a Japanese volunteer class with a lot of Chinese, Korean, Brazilian, Argentinian, Indian people, (etc.), and I'd often go out drinking or have a vegan picnic with friends on Saturdays. Sundays I used to go out, up, and down mountains with my cycling team. I don't get out as much as these days. I'd like to find some new friends to do stuff here/ elsewhere with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'd admit to anything if it was true.
I already said that I like Catpower.
My dentist also said I should floss more.
Sometimes I use baking soda for baking instead of baking powder. I need to stop doing this.
You should message me if
If you're able to:
sing, dance, do anything funny, play frisbee, go hiking, swim, ski, snowboard, ice skate, eat strange ethnic foods, Karaoke! - I enjoy these things. (Karaoke is the one that got the exclamation mark.)
If you can operate a bicycle or are, at the very least, tolerant of seeing reasonably fit people wearing those bike suits (see photos above)

(This list is non-comprehensive.)

If you aren't still in love with an abusive ex who sometimes tries very hard to murder you. I wish I was joking about this, as tasteless as that would be.

I tend to click on photos of women who have straight dark hair. I have no idea why it's that, specifically. If you don't have straight dark hair, if you're a good sort of person, an actual decent human being, I'll still want to hear from you. I am more interested in people's ethos/ personal qualities, but that doesn't show through in the photos.

Also: If you have any interest in being a clothed art model. I have to do a lot of figurative paintings (in clothes, from photographs).
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